Well after three years of bitter arguments my divorce is finally over. After 43 years of marriage I walk away with alimony for three years($285.00) Nothing else because he says he has nothing else. He gets the house the and land the cars I bought him the whole shooting match.
It has been so nasty I finally said just take it all and let's get this over with. My phone and internet may be off after I do this I don't know. Have to turn it off to save money. I was in a one car accident that totaled my old car the one paid off so with the help of my son and daughter in law I have a new one but it's a payment I wasn't expecting.
But God is good Amie my daughter in law has been fighting breast caner since last October, I have been trying to help with her two little ones Audrey Rose 9 and my Simon 7 She home schools and sometime gets a bit overwellmed . So I try to help the problem is it's 60 miles round trip every time I go over there. Please say a little prayer I get the little house the church has so I can be closer before she has her second surgery this Oct.
So much has gone on I have been spinning. I had back surgery last year. Went through that by myself, tried to talk to my husband but he wants no part of me, can't stand to be in the same room. My daughter has gone her own way. Haven't talked to her since June she won't let me see or talk to my three grandsons.
I do come in here to check with ya'll . God is good and these thing s to shall pass. The one thing I finally got out of all this is inner peace I have learned to let go and let God handle it. Well enough of all this mish mash I hope ya all have a great day and God bless Let us all pray for each other. Always Ronny
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Do you not get half the value of the house and cars. Your lawyer needs to be shot, you should have come out of this with more that $285. a month. Hope you can find that another door will open and bring you good luck. Take care, prayers to you Hugs Lynn..
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by memasanders
08 Aug 2016
Dear Lynn thank you for your prayers they are greatly appreciated. God has it and it WILL be ok I just have to get used to a very limited income. I'll be fine. again thanks for thinking of me. God bleess Always Ronny
51302Oh Ronny I am so saddened to read this story of loss.........I am happy to hear that God is a part of your life & as so many have said leave it in God's Hands for if he take you to it he will also take you through it. Now you can have a chance to find real happiness which you really deserve! You are in my dailies,~hugs~
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by memasanders
04 Aug 2016
Thank you so much and the words you say are true I'll get through it one minute at a time. Thank you
299559I have been told that the good Lord will only give you what you can handle. It sounds like you are a very strong lady. I hope life becomes easier for you. Take it easy and remember to "breathe"..... Prayers for you
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by memasanders
04 Aug 2016
He he I do have to tell my self some time breath. And the saying si true He doesn't give you more than you can take but sometime.... I think He has me confused with someone else. Not I call God's name all day long and before I know another day is gone. He is my strenght there is no other. God bless
35167I have just been through a week of hell myself and can empathize. God is good whether the folks we love are in our lives or not. Preferably will be! It is funny to me when I find myself thinking that I am exactly where I should be, as in that moment I do find peace.
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by memasanders
04 Aug 2016
You are absolutely right. As you said it would be good if you have some one behind you,, but I have learned God is in front and I have to look forward. Prayers for you
173695No house and $285? I should hope that amount is per week and NOT month. I think your attorney did not serve you well. However, being through a nasty one myself... I say, "Good riddance!"
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
No love that 285.00 is a month. and he didn't want to do that. But it's done he and I can get on with our lives. He can go to all the meetings and social affairs he wants. All I wanted is my kids and grands but that backfired with my daughter, maybe one day soon we will be on the same page again, until then I will pray for them all because really when you think about it that's all we have and it's enough for me. God will put me where He wants me. Hugs
7208Sorry that you have had such a tough time. Maybe now you can look for the Rainbow and better times ahead. Prayers!
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20088You may not feel like it now but the worst part is over, things will improve for you. Time is a great healer. Concentrate on you for a change.
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
So many people have told me that you have no one to take care of but yourself. I have been doing it for so long it just seems strange for me to depend on me. I do miss my mom and daddy, but I know we will meet again. They are in a far better place than me. I'm going to do my best to please myself. God bless
67271oh! Child !! I have been there. I have been on my own since 1985. You can do it too! I will admit it has not been easy, but it is possible. Turn to people who care about and they will help. We will help!! please keep us advised. perhaps you can take your computer to a YFI place ot to a public library. We do love you and we do care!! Kay
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
Oh I will find a way to check in on ya'll. And your right it's tight and some people can be down right nasty, but that's when I smile and say thank God I don't have to answer for them. It's just me and my little dog. She goes where I go. My brother says I'm the crazy Auntie now that drives every where with her dog. Oh well everyone has to have someone. Take care
85867I am so sorry that you're having to endure all this. I will pray for you for your comfort and peace and financial strength. God is good that is true.
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by memasanders
03 Aug 2016
Yes he is, and no matter what I know He has hold of my hand . I will make it. Thank you for the prayers. God bless
11860Oh, so so sorry to read this! But looks like you know Who's support you can depend on. Praying for you AND your daughter in law! Glad you can pop in here!
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by memasanders
03 Aug 2016
Thanks so much. My grandma used to say everything will come out in the wash. Things will work out fine and I will be fine. I will pop in now and then God bless
35675Oh Ronny I'm so sorry to hear this. Life can be so cruel. I thing I have learned "I can do all things through Christ who strengtheth me". He carries me through each day and He will you. You will be in my prayers/ Hugs Lillian
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by memasanders
03 Aug 2016
You are right He does carry me and thanks for the prayers. The only thing that bothers me people look at you different when you get divorce like why? 44 years we were married and out those we may have had 5 good ones. I will always love him he gave me my children but because of money and nothing else. He said he couldn't take care of me when I got sick so I with the help of God will take care of myself. God bless
145791My heart breaks for you. I think the worst part of a divorce like this is the feeling that you are not worth anything. It robs you of your self esteem which is worse than any of the material things you lose. But with faith in God you can rebuild and become something better than you ever were. Been there, done that, know better things are ahead. God Bless.
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by memasanders
03 Aug 2016
I had a home and everything that went with it, and left it. Money is the root of all evil, he worships it . Now he can do what ever he wants with it. You are right I left a lot of material things behind but I finally have some self-esteem. Something I don't think I ever had till now . Thank you for the prayers and God bless
22595Oh, Ronny, bless your sweet heart. I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. I pray for a change of your daughter's heart, she has no idea how lucky she is to still have her mother. I'm so happy that you have inner peace, God is good and will prevail in all things. I'm praying for you.
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
Thanks so much. I'm sure in time she will come around I just miss seeing her and the boys. I know it will work out for the best in time. I do appreciate the prayers. Hugs
158718Ronnie I am sorry to read all this. I am glad you are keeping your faith and realize how wonderful inner peace is. Continue to trust in Him. My prayers are with you. Hugs
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
Thank you I have finally found some peace I'm afraid now God is trying to teach me how "To be still and Listen". I'm a work in progress
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Not a recommendation, just an ad I recalled seeing. Sending positive thoughts to you
Auntie
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1819Now you can only go up.. You have reached the bottom. Prayers are with you all!
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111385I am so sorry that you have been through so much Ronny. Although I have been through two divorces, both were amicable and we remained friends. I cannot imagine what it must be like having arguments all the time. My heart goes out to you when I think of your daughter. I really hope that you manage to make it up with her. Life is just far too short.
Hugs to you. Sarah
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
Sarah you're right but she is 42 years old and I can't change how she feels about all this. If it were in my power I would. I pray to God her and her fathers heart soften so that we can all be in the same room and I'm allowed to see me grandsons again. Until then ....well like I said earlier I have to let go and let God take it from here. Hugs
255054Ronny...what an ordeal you have been through...I hope that now that all is over that good things will begin to come your way...
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
I have a place to stay, food to eat, clothes on my back and a God that loves me. The only place left to go is up . thank you
318496Sad, but perhaps a sigh of relief. Divorce is bitter, because people don't give you sympathy or help when you lose a spouse in this way. You've gotten through the worse of it, and hopefully things will start looking up.
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
My health is some better because the stress level is down. I didn't even realize we were hurting each other so much. I pray God softens his heart and in time he might be able to at least speak to me. Thank you
66912You have definitely been through a lot.. Hope everything starts to flow your way, good luck with the house. Marian
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
It's in Gods hands one thing I have learned in the last three years the knot I used to tie on the end of the rope when I gave God my problems is gone. Let go let God>
45918Hope the future will bring you good times, if you can, come here at cute, there's always someone to give you a hug and support. Take care. Hugs, Gerry
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
You are a doll I do enjoy reading everything everyone make. Thank you so much
743316Ronny you have made a huge decision and I remember reading comments of yours from years back. Good Luck and I wish you all the best for your future. Life is full of surprises, twists and turns. Positive thoughts being given for you.
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by memasanders
02 Aug 2016
Thank you so much there has already been alot of positive twists to this thing I call my life. God bless
115773Hello my old friend, sorry to hear all of this sad news. You know how I feel about all that you've been through. Don't forget to wrap yourself in the quilt I sent you from us cuties. God will prevail and I pray your husbands heart is softened, your daughter's too. Love Chris
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by memasanders
01 Aug 2016
My dear friend you all are with me always I have the quilt on my bed and use it all the time. It raises my spirit to think of you all. I especially thank you for being a good friend I hope some day we meet in person. Give my love to Trevor and the family God bless. Love you too Alwasy Ronny
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