I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family that God will wrap you in his loving arms and give you peace and encouragement during the days ahead.
thank you - I think the reality is just now setting in - will have been 2 wks. tonight - so sad most of the time
Sending you my love and prayers and lots of hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Devon, thank you - you have been on the receiving end of a lot of my emails - thank you for being there for me these past months - love you
I am so sorry and I know you will have the strength to get through the pain and sorrow. I pray for you and your family. Love, Kay
I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss and also for your entire family. I will keep you all in my prayers for strength & comfort.
thank you so much - there are times I go to speak to him - in the living room and suddenly realize he isn't there -
Oh my dear I'm so sorry, prayers for you and family.
I am so sorry for your loss of your wonderful husband. I pray that God will heal your broken hearts and give you peace. God bless you.
Only those those of us that have been down this same road can know how you are feeling right now,and only God can give you the consolation you need. It is so hard to lose your mate. You are in my prayers and God Bless/Lillian
It is a very sad news
Now, your sons and your granddaughters need your love.All my thoughts are for you.
Thank you - we were together for lunch and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be without him - we talked about happy things about him.
Sending prayers of comfort and healing to you and your family! So sorry for your loss. Hugs, Donna
Please grieve the loss of your sweet husband in any way you are needing too. If you want to not wash all his clothes, that is OK, or not remove the last of his socks from the missing sock pile, some may have even framed that final sock, it is totally fine. We each need to do things in our own time and our own unique way. I would not remove all things that make you cry because in reality likely Everything is going to be making you cry at this point. Later those simple little things will bring the floods of all the happy and treasured memories you had together. I like jrobs idea of putting some of his things into a ziplock bags so that you can help preserve his smell, and the one from rescuer about sleeping with his pillows. I know his spirit is on the other side now watching over his loved ones, so please continue to talk and share with him and try to feel of his spirit as he is likely right there, hugging you and listening as you are going through this most difficult time. Having his things around the house as if he was still there, will bring comfort as well as tears for awhile, until eventually they just bring you the comfort of sweet memories. I truly know without a doubt that death is not the end of what the Lord had in his plan for us. Your sweet husband has just gone on to start work for his family there. Time seems to be going faster and faster. There were loved ones on the other side to greet and guide your husband as he passed from this life and when future family members or you yourself pass, your sweet husband will be there to help lead and guide you each into that next phase, that we all must pass through. Please know that there will be Cuties here whenever you need to talk or just need the virtual hugs. Putting on one of your husbands coats or wrapping one of his favorite blankets around you can help you feel as if he himself is still there to wrap his arms around you. If on Friday when your granddaughter leaves it is OK for you to not want to be alone, and need to get out of the house and be around others or to have friends or family invited over. It is definitely not you being a scaredy cat. Every widow remembers those first times of truly feeling alone and likely also the first time she herself was called a widow. Some will immerse themselves into favorite hobbies, service to others, traveling to spend time with family members, whatever and how ever you wish. Staying busy in doing things that were important to your husband may give you a sense of comfort. In the months or years ahead, as you learn what comforted you, even in a small measure, you will then possibly be able to help someone else, that may be going through a similar life experience, your wisdom would then be used to help others in times of sorrow or suffering. Helping others as they go through a life trial to help ease their pain ends up also working at helping to heal the heart aches we ourselves are living with. The more we help others to heal the holes in their hearts it somehow fills in the holes in our own hearts at the same time. Huge Hugs, Pam
Thank you very much- you had a lot of good advice - I will try to remember it. I did leave off washing his last sweat shirt & pillowcase.
So sorry I know how is felt like. I lost my dear husband 5 years ago
So very sorry to hear . Will remember you and your family in my prayers. My you find comfort in God's love. Lynette
God be with you and your family. It will get better. It will not be easy but it will get better.
SOO SOO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR HUSBAND..I WILL PRAY FOR ALL OF YOU...LUCY
Sorry to hear your news and condolences to you and your famiy
So sorry for your loss. I know there will be sad times ahead but try to think of the good times. Irene
I know words can never lessen the pain or heal the huge hole in your heart. But remember that you have hundreds of arms wrapped around you and hundreds of prayers going up for you and your loved ones. Please talk to us any time. There will always be someone listening.
thank you - my granddaughter, that lives with us, is home for Thanksgiving, so that has been a big help. But when she leaves Friday, it will be my first day alone. Just hope I won't be a big scardy cat to stay alone.
Sorry to read this sad news. I'm wishing you all the strength to pass these days for you, family and friends Prayers send.
I am deeply saddened for your loss of your spouse and your children for their dad. May God help you all through these difficult times.
Thank you - my sons have really been there for their dad- so this has been hard for them.
I am very sorry to hear of your loss my prayers go to you and all your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
It is hard to loose persons you love. Thinking of you.
This is so true. He was the love of my life. Thank you for thinking of me.
Praying for you and your family. May you all feel our prayers lifting you up and feel God's arms wrapped around you. Blessings!
I am so sorry...prayers will be said. Hugs!
Thank you so much - I am amazed at all the support that has ben offered on "Cute".
I offer you prayers and the comfort that comes from knowing how much he loved you.
Prayers for you and yours to be cradled in God's perfect love. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. May you feel the comfort you all need now and in the future.
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Thank you - every thing reminds me of him. I hate to wash his last clothes - sounds nuts doesn't it?
It doesn't sound nuts at all. I kept one of my mother's gowns and put it in a zip lock bag. Her sweet scent remained for a long long time and it was a comfort to me.
Don't let people rush you to remove every thing that reminds you of him. Sleep with his pillow near you as that may be the only time you sleep for now. Take life one moment at a time until you can take it a day at a time. Don't rush your grieving. Allow yourself time.
You will remain in my prayers.
I have heard that you shouldn't make big decisions for a yr. I dread starting the process of settling his estate. I did hold back his last shirt and pillow & case when I changed the sheets.
This is your grief. Only yours. No one can tell you how to get through it. You will have to navigate that yourself in your own time~however much time that takes. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do.
Thank you for your advice. I had to do that Saturday - I had to tell someone I just wasn't ready to go out shopping and lunch. I guess as you said - I gave my self permission to do what I felt I could handle - and shopping wasn't it. Thanks for everything.
I am so sorry. It is so tough to loose a loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God give you strength to get through these rough times.
thank you - if I didn't have God - I don't know how I could make it as well as I have - and it's only been a few days
My sympathies on your loss. Prayers are with you and the family...
I know he isn't suffering anymore - that gives me comfort - thank you for your prayers
No one can know what you are going through. I just wish I could hug you and hold on for a long time. You and your family are in my prayers.
Thank you for your kindness - I know I never realized what it meant when my acquaintances lost a mate - I think I will be much more compassionate now too.
So very sad for your loss...condolences to you and your family...
I am so very sorry for your loss. The road ahead will be hard as you pick up the pieces and start new. Let your family and friends help you through all.
Know that others are praying for you.
May God comfort you.
Doreen
Doreen, thank you - I have had lots of offers of help - but prayers will help a lot - only God will get me through this. I keep telling my boys - we will get through this.
Prayers and thoughts going out to all of you, hugs from Maureen in South Africa
Prayers and angels headed your way......I am so very sorry to hear of your loss........
I thank you - I feel he may have seen an angel before he passed. His eyes had been shut for 4 days - he opened them - looked up - for a few seconds - breathed 3 breaths - and was gone. I believe he saw an angel coming for him.
My sympathies, so sorry for your loss, praying for you
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So sorry to hear this sad news, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you find the strength to get through this, knowing that others care and are there for you in your time of sorrow. Cherish your many happy memories of times spent together, only time will ease your pain. Sandra.
Sandra, thank you. His funeral was a beautiful tribute to a good Christian. I am so glad I don't have to worry about where he is now - I know he is safe with Jesus.
I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs Shirley
Bless your heart. May God surround you with love and loving people as you grieve his loss. I will continue in prayer for you and for your family.
Thank you so much. He was a good humble man. God was so good to give him to me for 52 yrs and for that I am grateful.
Sorry for yours and your family's loss. Praying for the strength you need to carry you through the next few days and beyond
Thank you so much - prayers will help more than anything - God is our only hope.
Dear Patricia, I am so sorry to read this. My prayers are definitely with you, your family and friends. May our Lord give you the strength and courage in the coming days, weeks, months etc. Love Chris
Chris, thank you for your beautiful message. Everyone on Cute is so special. I love you all - though we have never met.
So very sorry for your loss! Prayers for you and your family.