Sorry to say, but, I doubt you will ever get paint out of fabric. I used to fabric paint and in my experience it was impossible to get out. If you use bleach, it may lighten the fabric, but, probably not the paint!
If you have heat set the paint, it will be permanent. It depends a lot on the type of paint and if it dried, but the label should tell you if it is permanent. They make fabric paints to withstand multiple washings so I don't know any that you can actually wash out.
all i have is pens of different colors to touch up the mistakes , it does not say any thing except to use on fabric. i don't know any thing about heat set?? i may try some bleach ?? thanks , doris