Hello Cuties, here are new flowers my daughter made (I paid-lol) for Isabella's grave. I think she does a wonderful job, don't you? I can't even take a pre-made bouquet, all on one stem and put them in a vase, and make them look good, so I know I can't arrange any, stem by stem. I can't make a bow either.(Angie are you listening to my can't do list?) Anyway, we met yesterday the 19th and put them out. I think these are beautiful arrangements Ashley made.
I am so thankful for my daughter. I didn't do anything to deserve her, but I thank God he loaned her to me, to share this journey with, we call life.Here is something she wrote yesterday:
It takes much for a parent to accept & a lifetime to understand that our children were never truly ours to begin with, and yet muster the willingness to surrender them back to God.
Like I said I thank God for giving me a God fearing woman of faith and a smart, beautiful daughter she is to me. Just wanted to share because Jan didn't realize Avery had an identical twin sister and show off these pretty flowers!!!
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This is such a beautiful tribute to both Avery and Isabella. I love the flowers because they are so cheerful and pretty for 2 children who are beautiful and perfect to us and to God.
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by toogie
21 Jan 2021
Thank you Karen. Their birthdays are right after Christmas and the weather is so bad or hard on the arrangements, sometimes we just wait until spring. I had given Ashley money for Isabella’s Christmas & birthday so she could order what she wanted or make them herself. When I told her what the last ones cost me, she said she could make them. I think she did well.
169064What a beautiful headstone Toogie and such beautiful words from Ashley.
I'm so glad you all got to be there to place those lovely flowers and made by your daughter too! She is a very talented and beautiful woman, just like you. Love Chris
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by toogie
21 Jan 2021
You are too kind, but thank you. Yes, the stones are gorgeous and Ashley chose everything herself. These times are crazy and even though I wore my mask you can’t keep your distance when your child cries. We sat in the graveyard until the sun was going down and mosquitoes got too bad. It was just us two and Avery. So peaceful, but still sad for thoughts of what could have been, if everything would have been what we humans think of perfectly normal. Well we can’t dwell on loss because it was perfect in Gods plan and so we accept His will and thank Him, because we know Isabella is His now. That assurance alone helps when a mother losses a child.
234506Beautiful job with the flowers. You never forget a date like that, do you.
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145304Your daughter did a beautiful job with the flowers and bows, one-dignity color swab in the grey time, Hugs to you and your Family, Maria
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20244😉😉😉 I am listening.
Somehow I also had missed that Avery had a twin sister. Sadly she was not long on this earth.
You are right. Your daughter did a beautiful job with the flowers. The bows alone are difficult to do. She has inherited your talent for creating.
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by toogie
21 Jan 2021
I wish I had the ability to create arrangements and bows. I have tried and it looks terrible.
The pregnancy was called Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome.
Taken from John Hopkins, Twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (TTTS) is a rare pregnancy condition affecting identical twins or other multiples. TTTS occurs in pregnancies where twins share one placenta (afterbirth) and a network of blood vessels that supply oxygen and nutrients essential for development in the womb.
by crafter2243
edited 21 Jan 2021
Often the placentas will attach to each other with multiple birth because of the crowded quarters. Ask me how I know.
Going to the hospital expecting one I baby I ended up with two. In order to find out wether they were identical they had to do a test on both ends of the placenta since it was just one piece. Fortunately my girls were just fine and they are not identical. 2 placentas that fused into one.
by toogie
21 Jan 2021
They called on twin the donor and one the host. Avery had too much amniotic fluid In her sack and Isabella would be almost shrunk wrap In hers. My husband would drive an hour and a half one way every week to take Ashley to the hospital where a specialist would come from 2 hours away and draw fluid from Averys sack.
109774The flowers are beautiful and the stone even more so. Wondering if Ashley's husband is kin to any of the Jax. Fl. Sloan's? I doubt because I don't think they spelled their's with the e. My husband's second wife's maiden name was Sloan or Sloane, not sure which. Ashley sounds so grounded, but, I am sure the day is still a hard one. Hugs, Millie
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by toogie
20 Jan 2021
Sloan is Isabella’s middle name. I blocked out the family name, the last name, for security purposes. The stone is beautiful black granite. After Isabella’s death one of my husband’s sisters died. Jeanette had remarked how much she loved Isabella’s so her children had her headstone made like it. It’s winter here and the grass is all brown around it right now.
by vkggal
21 Jan 2021
Toogie, So sorry, I shouldn't have assumed the name and didn't notice that anything was blacked out. Everything about the stone is beautiful and I truly didn't notice the grass. I would love one similar as well, but, mine is already waiting as my husband was vet and they don't provide anything this elaborate. That is ok because I won't care when I'm there.
by toogie
21 Jan 2021
No need to apologize, an understandable mistake. You’re right it won’t matter to us in the end what we have as a marker.
766Oh, my the flowers are beautiful and so is your daughter. Your daughter, like you is amazing, without a doubt! Hugs to you and yours, Laura
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by toogie
20 Jan 2021
I don’t know where she got all her smarts, but I feel like she has outgrown me-lol- thank you she has done a beautiful job with the flowers.
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