Well cuties, we had my Sister in laws memorial on Saturday. Long and tiring day but the weather was sunny, a light breeze with a chill but better than we have had for a while. I have tried at least a half dozen times to call her since she has passed, I know this will change. Thank you again for all the kind words and prayers. God Bless. Tonya aka stork

Tonya, many of us share your sorrow in missing a loved one at the other end of the line or airwave. What a testimony of the great love that you two shared. I'm thankful that you have loved ones to share your happy memories and said vacancies. Sending you love. Jerrilyn

sorry you lost your Sister in law, hold on to all the lovely memories you made.

Hi Tonya, I'm glad the day went well and you got to be with loved ones. I know a lot of people who do the same thing with regard to calling loved ones who have died. God's peace and comfort be with you. Love Chris

So sorry for your loss, Tonya....

You are not the only one who does things like that.
My husband died two months ago. It takes quite a lot of paperwork and e-mails to get the banks happy. And several times I turned to where he used to sit and asked him 'Where did you put such and so'.
I answered a question asked by one of my children, 'I don't know, you'll have to ask dad'.
And once when the telephone rang and my hands were wet I shouted: Do you take it?

I am glad it's not just me. And it is getting less frequent.

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by toogie 06 Apr 2022

Oh Martine, I am so sorry....

by basketkase 06 Apr 2022

Martine....I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your loved one!

by pennifold 07 Apr 2022

So sorry to read that your husband has died Martine. My prayers to you and your family. Love Chris

by gerryvb edited 07 Apr 2022

oh Martine, gecondoleerd, sterkte met alles.....voor jou en de kinderen. hoop dat jullie elkaar kunnen steunen met dit verlies...

I think your wanting to call your SIL is a testimony to the love you 2 shared. It takes time to change habits we have had for years, especially when we don't want to have make the change. Please remember the good memories and be kind to yourself. And don't hesitate to turn to your Cutie family when you need us.

I have a picture of my sister placed in my car to remind me she has passed away. I often would call another sister to see today was a good day or not to call. It hurts my heart every time I see her picture. It is the picture placed in the newspaper for her funeral.
I believe they are not far from us. That helps the hurt but still brings tears.

For a long, long time after my mother died I would think at 6pm that it was time to phone her. We had spoken at this time for years. If the thought happens now 12 years on I remember that she is now more but at peace. Tonya I am sure that you will continue trying to call your sister in law. Keep taking care.

Tonya, I would have my phone in hand, ready to call and tell her (my sister in law) something and it would hit me again. She isn’t here anymore. I thought if I told anyone they’d think I was crazy. So it does happen. Time has a way of helping us heal. It will get better but everyday things will still make you remember her. ❤️Toogie