her "Daughter you are killing me" and her answer was, well go ahead and die, what do I care...I am broken hearted, but praying God help her to change and to make me strong.

Maria I'm so sorry to hear your news. I wish I had the magical solution for you. The only thing I can think of is that you send cards to your GK's on birthdays, Christmas etc and the same to your daughter. Prayers and time may heal what has caused the split between you and your daughter. My thoughts are with you.

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thank you so much.

I am so sorry to hear about your family! I will keep you all in my prayers.

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thank you, prayers is my only hope.

God SPECIALIZES in healing what's broken. He's a RESTORER of what the enemy meant for harm/destruction and He turns it into a BLESSING. God is going to do it for you. BE STILL AND KNOW THAT HE IS GOD!!! There's NO SORROW THAT HE CAN'T HEAL...He's turning it around and IT SHALL WORK FOR YOUR FAVOR!!!

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thanks for your wonderful words of hope. I know He will help me.Thanks again.

Oh dear Maria, sorry to hear such a terrible news. You have to be strong. My prayers are with you and with your daughter, I hope God makes her to change her mind. XoXo

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thanks dear letvia, it is nice to have you praying for me.

I know how much it hurts. I'm so sad for you ...keep busy and try to just get through one day at a time. One day she will realize all she has lost. My prayers are with you

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thank, I try to stay busy and hope for the day things get better.

I am so sorry to hear this and hope things work out soon,I will say a prayer for you.XXX n ***

Oh Maria, I am so sorry - I hope you find a resolution and can resume a good loving relationship.

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

That will be the dream of my life, there is not greater wish than that. Thanks.

I too lost contact with my grandkids for over a year, because I had to turn my daughter and her husband into CPS for various reasons. I knew what would happen, but had no choice because of my GK's safety. She also wished I would die and get out of her life. Well I gained contact again when her husband was arrested for trying to burn down the house with them in it. We have been on great terms ever since. Daughters always need their parents at some point in their life. Yours will need you one day. Be there for her. I know the pain you are going through. But trust me, she will come around eventually. You are in my prayers. And do check into grandparents rights. We have them here in California. The courts realize how important the grandparent/child relationship is. In the meantime, you might ease some of the pain by volunteering at a local hospital or child care center. Do something to allow you to be there for others. It does help to ease the pain.

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

The problem is that she knows that I am always here and that no matter what she can come to me and I will be happy to see her,that is what she acts like that, I hope and pray that she will change her ways and go back to be the person she used to be, Thanks.

I am sorry you are going thru this. I know how you feel all to well. My daughter and I have not spoken for 10 years. I have 4 grandchildren I cannot see. I have begged, pleaded, cried, threatened. Nothing helps. When my youngest son was 3 yrs, he had cancer. My daughter feels I neglected her during this time. Then when I left her verbally abusive father, she decided I was a horrible person and has not spoken to me since. I only pray that someday she will get past this and let me back into her life.

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Dear babyred, here I am crying for a daugher than don't care for me and I see you are having the same problem, she did feel neglected when my son was a teenager and having all kind of problems,but that was already taking care off, I will be praying for you every day and maybe our daughters will come back into our lives and make us happy and allowed us to giving all the love we have for them. Blessings.

I am so afraid that is what is going to happen to me. My daughter was Daddy's little Girl (she even has a tattoo saying that) Daddy couldn't say no to her for ANYTHING and her husband had used her to get all the new toys they have. They are on the brink of bankruptsy and I am going to be the bad guy and say HIS things that are in Dads name have to go. I can't even begin to afford them let alone that bills that I have. Please don't give up hope. Talk to the lawyer and see the GK, surely they will go home and tell their mom what a wonderful loving person you are.

Oh Mariahail this makes me so sad. I will pray that the relationship between you and you daughter be healed! Sue

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by mariahail 10 Dec 2008

Thank you very much, please don't stop praying, I need it so much.

Maria, Oh how I feel for you. I am so sad to hear of this. I only hope you get to see your grandchildren again real soon. I will pray that all will work out...

I hope I never have to know what your'e going through. I pray some person who loves you both will intervene and help the two of you mend the rift.

So sorry to hear about this breakdown in your relationship with your daughter. I will certainly be praying for you. *4U

Maria I know of a grandmother that had very similar problems to you and she took her daughter to court to gain access for visiting rights and it was granted and also my sister inlaw took her daughter inlaw to court for access and she to got it.I don't know what legal systems you have there but in Australia there is such a thing as legal aid that it is free to pensionsers.And the first 20minuits with any leagal person is free so if you are looking for information you can get a lot in 20 mins.both these ladies got one weekend a month and week in school holidays. No harm in asking anyway.

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by misscharlie 16 Nov 2008

I live in Wisconsin USA and Grandparents have no rights unfortunately. I will help Maria to see if TX USA does have Grandparental rights! TY for giving your info!

by mariahail 16 Nov 2008

I have a good friend that is a lawyer I will contacting after Thanksgiving and ask him about that.
thanks.

oh my goodness maria i am so sorry to hear this what is going on in her head my goodness i know noone is perfect i for sure am not i left my other 2 children when my daughter was 12 and son was 9 so my daughter is kind of the same way with me but they had the choice of staying with their dad or being with me they chose dad so my heart was broken the lord will see you through this i know he is by your side in this please keep your strength in all this

What a terrible thing to have happen. Perhaps if everyone steps back and feels the loss you can all heal and start again. That will be my prayer. Ask in your prayers what you can say or do to change her feelings....it will be answered and come to you.

I will pray that whatever caused the friction between you will heal. I has to be hard on you.

I am so sorry for you. I know what you must be going through. I hope you find the strength to go on and I'll certainly pray for you.

I am so sorry to hear about this. This seems to happen often, but just as often the relationship makes a turn again towards friendship. The pain you feel is awful I know. Right after my husband died one of my daughters decided I was the worst mom in the world a total turn around from before. It was as if I had lost 2 people. I pray that you daughter comes to her senses. I pray that you find comfort amongst your friends and that God gives you the strength to go through this. Hugs

Maria, I am so sorry this is happening to your family, and of course I will pray for you!! I never had any children, so I really can't know what it's like. But my sister-in-law did something like this when my brother died, so I do know the confusion of not knowing what you have done to make another person so angry, and that person won't tell you. I hope you find the strength in your faith to keep going until the situation straightens out, and I will certainly pray for you, my dear Maria. Love, Marji

Maria unfortunately your daughter in her selfish ways doesn't realize that in trying to hurt you she is also hurting her own children, this makes me even more heartbroken for all of you. You already know that you are in my prayers and you always have been. Please try not to absorb the bad energy from what your daughter is doing, it is not good for your health. You need to stay healthy because the kids will find a way to come back to you because they love you and you need to be there for them when they come.

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by marjialexa 15 Nov 2008

Yes, I totally agree, Charlie, well said! M

Oh Maria I am so sorry, Yrs ago one of mine didn't speak to me 4 5 mos. it almost killed me, but then one day she called & talked like she had just talked to me the day before, never mentioned she had not spoke to me n 5 mos & we live n same town. I didn't mention it either. Now she lives n another state but we r as close as can b & I hear from her several times a week. I'll never know what I did or said I guess, but I know the pain u feel. I sincerely hope one day soon she recognizes a daughter always need her mom no matter how old she gets. U r n my prayers Maria. Lillian

Praying for you and letting you know I very much understand! Not an easy thing to deal with.

maria, you've got my prayers that your relationship with your daughter will get stronger and that you'll be able to keep your grandkids in your life. i'm sorry you are having a tough time right now. praying blessings for you, carla