of mine. When she gave me the towel yesterday,she said i have put in another one for my DH, i woud like a name on it aswell. It would be kind of you if you can put a tracter on it as we are farmers. The towel is on my machine as i am typing this, i feel a bit disgruntled.
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Yes I was also there. I have had cards printed and advise them that I have started a small business. "My charge is not for profit but to cover my cost "
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by toet
04 Dec 2008
Hi have been busy today,poped in to catch up on cuite posts,thankyou for your reply. I have given the lady the towels. Her wide eyes and happy smile made it all worth while,i feel a real cad now for whingeing. In future i will make it clear that i am happy to do embroidery for people,if they cover my costs plus a small token of money. 4
132773I under stand where you are coming from!!!!!!It has happen to us all
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46645Don't blame you...some people will take advantage when they find a nice person...Good luck
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18727Kind of falls under "boundaries"... what I tell friends is that I am in no position to buy supplies to do things for others all the time. Most don't realize the cost of thread, stabilizer and other stuff like spray, etc... even the designs! Once you explain to them, they often offer to buy stuff or give me cash to recoop the expense. Just be honest with her... she probably doesn't know. :-)
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33575I have a few friends that think because they are friends I should do every thing for them free I am a artist and they want their pictures or their kids painted free no way it takes weeks to paint a portraitof a person.
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by toet
05 Dec 2008
Lenamae you must be a very talented,when i was selling stained glass i found it was mostly your friends that wanted the freebees. My answer back then was,when you have a spare week or two i will help you make something of your choice. I must be getting soft as i do alot of freebees now. Flowers for you.
32767The problem is that many of person you want to give your hand whole arm! They are profiteers !!!and there are everywhere. And we, with our hand on heart, we find it hard to refuse ... :o((
*4U
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
I will not be caught again by this lady,i will give her the towels and smile. I will tell her she is a very lucky lady as she has received the last of the freebees. That i will be charging for any future embroidery work.
200127I know that feeling so well, Toet...
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
I am starting to think there are a lot of people out there that will use you if you let them. I guess its my fault for allowing it to happen. I wont have tolerance for this behavour in the future. cheers *4U
88650Hence my earlier messages about the manners, lack of, and hide of some people these days.
Tell her kindly you only offered to do one as a favour for an elderly gentleman, but there will be a nominal fee to cover the cost of stabilizer, threads etc. for someone who is quite capable of paying for embroidered goods, or having them embroidered, at the local mall.
The greatest gift most women NEVER give themselves is to say NO and mean it!! From Oprah show.
hugs n roses, Meganne
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by meganne
01 Dec 2008
OH and in this poor economy you could say you can't do freebies anymore because you need the money to help pay your bills.
by toet
01 Dec 2008
Thankyou meganne, i hope you are feeling better now. I have learnt a valuable lesson out of this.
122864This made me laugh BUT I think we have all been there. I remember being asked to produce a 'few' names to put on clothes belonging to someone who had just gone in a home. After the first few were handed over I was asked for another 48. They (person requesting) watched me stitch some out and thanked me very much. That day the machine was playing up and took ages... and they decided they would make do with what had been produced. I have found if people dont sew/embroider/whatever they dont realise the time, cost etc. Sometimes tactfully saying I have done some freebies for you but I will have to make a small charge for the next and itemise what you have to get/use. Anyway Good Luck with the problem and I expect someone will come along with a brilliant idea to solve this problem *4u
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
It all seems so silly now,to let this lady get up my nose,today is a new day and new adventures. Cheers *4U
by asterixsew
04 Dec 2008
No it is not silly at all. At least she gave you a smile and said thank you.
115763been there done that, many many many times and like you don't quite know what to do. I have a friend I ride motorcycles with who does'nt sew a stitch but wants to put all these different designs on her granddaughters clothes, then the granddaughter never wears em (she's only 1) then she picks super mega designs has me group and resize em and them uses all my threads and stablizer to stitch em. Her thank you is 1 yd of ugly fabric or 1 yd of stablizer! I keep my mouth shut but I sizzle inside. I'm paying the big bucks for my machine and supplies why should she benefit for free?
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by blhamblen
01 Dec 2008
Next time she askes tell her that you have gone from hobby to business and then charge accordingly:) You can also tell her that you are charging her to afford gas money for your bike....
by bikermomfl
01 Dec 2008
good one, she just went thru bankruptcy so she 'sold' her bike to me and that's even in my garage!
by blhamblen
01 Dec 2008
I lost my "RIDE" november 10th. I'm really gonna miss him come riding season. But I still have my embroidery to keep me going:)
by toet
01 Dec 2008
Gosh and i felt used, we will be strong and learn to say no to these people,and yes to the genuine few that apprecate our time and work.
17161She sounds a bit pompous to me and a mental bully and as such is best ignored and avoided in future. Make her aware that what you have done for free took a lot of time and effort. Shame her! Good Luck. Don't now waste your energy on dwelling on the situation.
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
Thankyou, i have moved on now,last night my family put up the christmass tree it was so much fun *4U
7498Well, I personally think she has a cheek to say that to you. People don`t realize the trouble and time we go to to make these things and to ask you to do that for her husband. Also how dare her to tell you that your quilliting is not proper quillting...... I also do alot of things for free and feel like it is not really appreciated....
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23265My dear, I think that we are all in the same "boat". You give them the little finger and, they don't just take your hand, but whole arm too... I used to get the odd: oh, thank you for your present, it's nice. Until they realized HOW MUCH WORK is involved in embroidering anything. I have to be there close to the machine to cut and re-thread with any colour change, sometimes not easy and very time consuming. Cheer up, ... hhmmm ... good deed for the Xmas holidays. Hugs and Flowers, Mary
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
Thankyou for putting me back into the christmass spirit.MERRY CHRISTMASS. In Australia it is the first of December,tonight my family put up the christmass tree and the lights. BIG HUGS TO YOU. and a glass of wine for the girls and a beer for the boys *4U
3047Know the feeling, sorry that this happend to you. Somethimes you just have to let that person know the way you feel or just tell them that you are sorry but that you only told her about that one item and If they what the other they could at least provide some supplies. *2U
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
Hello, you allways seem to be getting me out of trouble,i have learnt so much from your posts thankyou. I'm ok now the towels are finished, and i am happy whith the result. have a merry christmass *4U
34304toet, is it because she didn't ask before and you now feel taken advantage of? We all have had someone do something similair in one way or the other involving our embroidery work - always tell them that it would cost THIS MUCH .....IF I were not doing it for you as a gift - just so they know the value of the work that you are doing. What you do is not just a hobby - it is being an artist with your embroidery machine and the work of a digitizer and you do need to let others know that your designs cost you alot of money - even if they are free - what would it cost for you to do that work for her - if you were not so sweet to do if for her free? Part of the trouble with most of us - is we don't let others know the value of what they are receiving when we do work for them - get away from the feeling of being dsgruntled - work on how you are going to impress her with what you put on both towels and hope that someway she has the biggest smile on her face when she sees them. Hehehe!
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by toet
01 Dec 2008
Thankyou i needed to hear that, i felt taken advantage of, this lady is part of the quilting group that i am on the committee. I have allmost finished a king size embroidery quilt,when i took it in for show and tell,she was the one that made it quite clear that she thought it was not propper quilting. I am trying to change the way of thinking,it is a slow process.
by shirlener88
01 Dec 2008
Oh toet, I do not think this lady is one - never should another quilter or embroiderer make it clear that your work is inferior - that would never help another do better work - why would you even consider doing anything for her? Hehehe! I see you posted your towels are finished - I hope you took a picture and posted it in the projects. Next - don't offer to do the work for her - without first letting her know what you would charge and keep it high - for the type of work that you do - then if she wants you to do it - you can always offer to do it free. Thank you about the rose, too! Good luck, dear - I know that it is hard to make yourself worth what you are worth - but you alone are the one that needs to do it - just in your attitude alone - others will value you as well.
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