1982/2009 : Sad day: today is my 27th wedding anniversary ... and, once again, my husband just forgot! Nothing, or flower, or gift, or sweet word! His usual excuse: I had too much work, I forgot ...For a time it falls on a Sunday, I thought ... Every year I hope, but the years go by and forget it forever! Tears are not far ...I am very very sad ...

Sounds like it is Big HUG time for you! Wish I was there, but will send you a hug in place of ME! Hahaha!

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take yourself out to dinner tonight, leave him home and hungry! don't say anything or argue, just celebrate by yourself, he'll get the message eventually, after all it's up to us to teach these guys these things...

there are lots of men that are romantic and lots who are just men.. what can I say.. My first husband was like that.. but such a hard worker.. he died suddenly at work..but he was a really great person other than that one flaw.. I remarried a real romantic .. If I could send you flowers and candy I would.. kathy

OOOOOH Silvie, I can feel your disapointment and you don't deserve that. You are always so kind and helpfull. Know that we all love you, mabey that helps a little bit. And a bunch of flowers for you.

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You need to ask yourself how is he the rest of the year; is he normally kind and good and just forgetful? If so, don't dwell on him forgetting and think about the good things and why you married him. Make a nice dinner and buy the flowers for him and put them where you both can enjoy them. If he's just an inconsiderate jerk, then you can't change him. Either way congratulations for staying in your marriage for 27 years.

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Sissi, I do feel bad that you are so sad, but what really makes me even sadder,is that you have made so much effort and you don't even get a kind or loving word in return...words don't cost anything, but yet they mean so much to us and make us feel good. I think by this point I would give up on hoping and wishing, you know you can't really change a person...he is who he is and (sadly so) you have to accept that OR you can change how you handle these disappointments..like others have said: buy yourself something, do something that makes YOU happy and I know this may sound horrible, but I certainly wouldn't wish his any happy anniversary, etc. ..just let it go and let it be. Please for give me if this sounds harsh, but it pains me how you are feeling...lots of hugs and flowers..

Thinking of you. Many other Cuties have made good comments to you. This has probably happened to many. My daughters nag their dad into remembering. He did not used to celebrate birthdays etc but almost 28 years on said my enthusiasm to celebrate has got to him and now he enjoys such times. Think I would buy a large bunch of flowers, put them in a very visible place and thank him very much for them saying they were sent by delivery/interflora and what a sweetie he is and sorry you doubted him remembering. Something to make him think. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

I know I should not complain because I have him with me! But I offered him a gift and sweet words but he has not had a kind word in return ... and on days like this, I feel like I'm there only to take care of him as a housemaid: clothes, food, househol, etc. it's been a little sore because I wonder where is the love in all ...In any case, thank you for your support. Tomorrow will be another day ***flowers for you all. Good Night Cuties

oh Sissi, I'm so sorry to hear this. My hubby forgot our first anniversary of when we met, naturally I hadn't and had a gift for him so I pretended to be extremely mad (I can be very good in acting mad he he) and made him buy me 2 (yes 2 cos 1 wouldn't be enough to make up) expensive handbags. Believe me since then he hasn't forgotten any important date (probably due to a fear of increasing my handbag collection) and has all dates highlighted in his appointment calendar but I also make sure I start hinting from weeks before. Here's a hug for you sweetie and flowers all the way from Germany ********

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by memasanders 29 Mar 2009

Oh I think i luv you I love handbags and shoes. I used to love high heels, but I would problay fall off of them now hehe. Have a great day A girl can never have to many shoes or pocketbooks

So sorry that you are sad, Sissi. I hope you feel better soon. Auntie

Sissi, Each time I write your name down, I think of my Sissy in North Carolina and how much I love her. I appriciate each time I think of you because it gives me a chance to think of her once again. I miss her and really love her. I am the oldest, but she is much wiser and craftier than I. She is the one who got me started with embroidery. In return, when I call her Sissy, I also think of you and really look forward to your post and the wise answers that you give. When my ex and I divorced like boo koo years ago, I had to clean out many papers that a person puts up to save. Every year that we had been married, there was an Anniversary card, Fathers day cards, Birthday cards, xmas cards and an occoiasional just because card, all addressed to him, not to me. The first flowers I ever received from him was two month after we divorced. Go figure!!! I guess what I mean, is I understand. And yes, it hurts. Nothing I can say will change that, If it would, I would holler it from the roof tops. Please know that you are LOVED by us. No replacement, just confort. Wish I was there near you and we would go out and paint the town. Ok Ok, we would hire it done (Getting to old to paint anymore)Love, Hugs, Prayers and Blessings Libbie

I'm sorry I should have been a positive example please forgive me sometimes I'm alittle hard around the edges. Please forgive me. Hope you both have a great day.

If it helps at all, they have done studies on men and thier lack of the skill of remembering important events in life. Most men don't remember these dates so I help them mine out. I put clipping on the frig with notes like "would be a great birthday gift", or put big marks on the calander. They really do need our help in reminding them. I found out if I do something really nice for him it helps to get him in gear to return the show of love. Hope he gets better at this.

I am sorry he forgot - it breaks your heart a little....you are luckey to have him there with you - but, you know that. Go out today and buy yourself some flowers and a gift. You might even get your DH a gift. If you can afford it - don't cook tonight - go out to dinner with your DH. Do this for every occasion he forgets - maybe he'll get the idea. Happy Anniversary Dear!!!

OH my dear - I am so sorry - you will just have to buy yourself something special - each year - do it for you. Some men - just don't think it is necessary, if you do - do something about it - give him a anniversary gift and then give yourself one, too. Hehehe! Here are 100 roses - just for you.

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by memasanders 29 Mar 2009

That's sweet

Sweetheart listen I have been going through the same thing for 37 years. Our anniversary was March 10th 37 years and nothing, no b-day no Christmas never anything. It's I have no money. I'm like you are some days like Christmas valentines etc come the same time you know they are coming but noooo... sooo I dried my tears long ago over that. I think he lost his mind last year. We had a joint bamk account and he took his money opened his own account and I'm on my own. Sooooo again I pay for my medicine, my car, insurance, internet cell phone, (because I travel 175 miles to the doctor) and what little grocerys i eat here. i have my own rooma and my own little world. My kids and grands are my life. I tried to file for separation but the lawyer told me I couldn't live on 611.00 a month it was cheaper to stay where I'm at so I make my world work. Honey that is what you are gonna have to do i used to buy hime things when I worked everythign fromguns to a car Paid cash cause once upon a time i made very good money. But when I got sick to bad for me. He never remembered even then. I kept giving he keeps taking. But about a year ago I quite giving he acted like it hurt his feelings but oh well. So dry your tears honey I know it doesn't make it any easier knowing ther are others out here in the same boat but look out for you. If you can go splurge on yourself. Go pick yourself up something nice you want. It helps even if it's a fabric remnant. God loves you and so do I try to have good day Blessings Ronny

I'm sorry your D/H forgot your anniversay Sylvie. Flowers for you.

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I'm sorry. But, my husband doesn't buys gifts for "special" occasions. He gets me things throughout the year-Everyday is special to him. But he at least acknowledges with a simple word or two.

I'm sorry...But look at it thru MY eyes...at least you have your husband...I would give ANYTHING to have mine back..Our 36th Anniv. will be April 14th... Go up to him...Give him a BIG kiss and tell him how much you love him! I write this thru tears....:(

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by sissibrode 29 Mar 2009

I'm so sorry Barb. Love and hugs to you +++++

by sissibrode 29 Mar 2009

I should not have the right to complain... sorry one more time

by bikermomfl 29 Mar 2009

Barb - lie down in your bed, close your eyes and think sweet thoughts of your hubby and then wrap your arms around yourself, without opening your eyes, you'll feel his arms instead of yours and maybe won't be so sad...

by gramsbear 29 Mar 2009

Barb, here is a HUG from me to you, also. God Bless You.

by asterixsew 29 Mar 2009

Sissibrode do not apologise you do not need to