Italy is not legal, so they have to come back and get "married legally in Brisbane Australia" after the first Wedding in Italy to make it Legal. Now, they are having an "Australian Wedding Party" in an area in Brisbane, Australia in a type of Restaurant, type Cafe,.... I am just so very unhappy, and all of this information I, as a parent, have been informed of all of this my "Email", I feel just horrible, I know that, not anyone can help out, just had to "air" my feelings, I just feel horrible.

We don't always get things the way we want them to b for our children Sheryl. I've learned to just keep on loving & being there for them & trying to smooth over the rough patches when they come. Things usually work out & everyone is happy. *

Oh, man, by e-mail yet!! Perhaps the young people growing up today see that as a legitimate means of communication, but I think that's awful. But as the others said, perhaps she didn't want to face you with her decision (sounds like the finace didn't want to face his family with it, either, if he did the same thing). I'm glad you have us to talk to about it. I'm so sorry you feel bad, but I suppose like with anything, it'll all work out somehow, sigh. Big hugs for you, Marji

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by sherylac 05 Apr 2009

Thanks alot Marji, yep, the email thing really got to me. Yes email is an excellent way to communicate to lots of people, but, with something as special as a wedding, personal is the way to go.
have a nice day

Have you asked her why? Maybe they know what lies ahead with organising a wedding and can forsee the huge stress that can occur with such a special day. I have just had the pleasure of my daughter's wedding 4 weeks ago, however it was very very tedious at times with arguments and opinions etc. So many people to please it is almost impossible, but in the end it was just magnificent, thank goodness! I would explain to her the hurt you are feeling, your only daughter and you love her and want to share her special day. After that it is all up to her i guess. And if she still insists on doing it her way and only her way, then disregard the Italy Ceremony and focus on the celebration here. Why coudn't they just do a garden ceremony with celebrant or something like that? I feel your pain and do so hope that your daughter sees how heart broken you are - Dianne

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by sherylac 05 Apr 2009

Dianne, thank you so much for your words, and yes I have already suggested the celebrant, garden wedding and then go on to Italy and renew their vows and have a lovely honeymoon.. But, Renee, is very selfish, always has been and yes, its her wedding and I wouldn't interfere, but, I'm still upset. Glad yours went off great.

All of our kids have broken our hearts at one time or another. We raise them right and then pray that it all turns out right. The problem is,if we raised them right, they are independent thinkers and will make these decisions themselves. A wedding is a very special event in a persons life. Be happy for them. Your turn will come with the grandkids. But you are right, email was a pretty crummy way to tell you. She probably knew you wouldn't be happy with the choice and didn't want to hear it...
(my mom used to always say that mothers get their revenge watching their kids raise their own kids! Boy is it true! I have a ball watching my kids face the challenges I went through with them. :>)

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by sherylac 05 Apr 2009

Thanks alot and yes your Mum is so very right I can hardly wait for the day the grandkids come, I am happy for Renee and Chris and yes its their day, but not so far away, especially when its not legal, thanks again

Sheryl, I'm with Michele, you have to talk to your daughter and tell her how you feel. Hope everything goes well. We are here for you. Love,Yoriko

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by sherylac 04 Apr 2009

Thanks alot Yoriko,,,,

Sheryl, I think you need to talk to Renee face to face to let her know how you feel. As for her informing you by email is not acceptable..Unfortunaley kids of today will do whatever they want, whether we are included or not....
I know it`s hard but sometimes we have to accept what they decide....just remember I am here for you.....

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by sherylac 04 Apr 2009

Thanks Michele and yes you are not wrong about the kids of today

Please keep us in the know. We love you!!

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thank you and I will

Oh, Shery, I'm so sorry. I think we wish for that fairy tale wedding for our daughters even more than for ourselves. I'm glad you have a place to vent. Pour it out honey, we're here and not going any place.

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thanks alot Jerrilyn

Sheryl, I can understand that you feel hurt. Their romantic idea seems to be too important to take parents into consideration. What a disappointement that must be. One of my children decided a wedding was a thing to enjoy with friends and that excluded parents and siblings. I got some pictures afterwards, including one of the buffet. But the relation now is quite close and I've got 3 lovely grandchildren. I hope you will feel better soon!

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thanks for listening and so glad that yours worked out and I can't wait for the grandkids to come along

Oh sweetie, Shirlele has good advise. Try to look at it like this. She will be taking her honeymoon before she gets married. Just let them do it all by themselves in Italy and treat it as a honeymoon. Also let them pay for everything all by themselves!!!

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thanks and oh yes!! they will be doing the paying

Honey don't worry it will all work out. But you are right to let us listen. It's good to get it out and off your chest. I usually holler in my car or by myself at home. Me and the Lord hear it.heheh. I'll keep you all in my prayers that you find a happy middle graound. God Bless

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thank you so much

Sheryl, you will have lots of time to speak to your daughter about her wedding plans - surely something will come up - before all plans are official. You might just let her know how you feel - when you can speak of it - to her - in person - of coarse. Maybe you could just suggest - the need to get married - where it will be legal and to honeymoon - in her dear place - Tuscany, Italy. It will work it's way out - I am sure of that. I always had a place I wanted to get married in - but I have never even laid a foot there - lol. I will pray for you.

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by sherylac 02 Apr 2009

Thanks very much Shirlene, No, I have already spoke to my daughter and yes they will be getting married in Tuscany and then will have their Australian Wedding after the Tuscany one to make it Offical, My only Daughter and this is not what I expected and both her and her fiance let their families know by email, not very nice, I don't think. And I have already voiced my opinion about the overseas Wedding and its like don't worry Mum, it will be ok. Kids!!!

by shirlener88 03 Apr 2009

My dear Sheryl - if you have spoken to her and they have made up their minds - then just make the wedding in Australian the only one that you think about - for you - kids these days have another way of looking at things - I don't feel it was right for them to inform you all by email - but for whatever reason - they did it that way. Now - do what you can - to make the event that you will be attending - to be the happiest day of your and her life. You will get through this - this I know.

by sherylac 04 Apr 2009

Thanks again Shirlene, I think what has hurt me the most is the contact by email

by shirlener88 06 Apr 2009

I can see that it would. I am so sorry!