with her heart staying in rhythm so every now and then she would have to go and have shocks to get them back right. After this last one she has a massive stroke which cause brain damage. Everything she was hooked up to was reading okay except for her brain. She left us last night at 66. That is the same age as my Mom was when she passed away. Diane, my cousin that is 3 months younger that I am was with her as well as her 2 daughters. I guess we are all in shock right now. Diane and I are as close as sisters and we have been since we were teens. Fredette was always the older sister (Diane's) and treated us like children for years. I always thought she was beautiful! Her husband was a High School Coach but he passed away about 15 years ago. He was some older than she was. She had never remarried or even dated anyone. She was a beautician for many years but had spent the last years working in a bank until she retired. It sure will make you stop and think about your own life. I cried till I was cried out last night. I told Diane today that I thought I was crying for all of us not just Freddie. There has been so many deaths and so much illness in our family in the last few months that is is just scary. I am so afraid that this will push my aunt over the edge. She is having surgery Tuesday and the last time they put her to sleep to do it her blood pressure went so high that they had to wake her up and not do the surgery. My brother is living on a thread. He has had one heart attack after the other and he does not slow down. He has a pacemaker that warns him when to slow down but he does not stop. He is 71. My uncle just passed away a few months ago. I have the 2 aunts left on my Dad's side of the family and that is all. One is having surgery Tuesday and the other is nearly passed going at 78 and is still working as a beautician in her own shop 4 days a week. I am having surgery on my legs for the 4th time in 4 weeks, Monday afternoon. My son just went back to work 2 weeks ago after a heart attack in March, where we almost lost him at 42. I really get the feeling that the Lord is trying to tell us something. The original Tapley family is just about gone. I could only have just the one child because I nearly died having him. I have had problems with my legs since I was pregnant with him 43 yrs ago. I had blood clots during and after I had him very bad because of poor circulation. I still have the same problems which is the problems with my legs now. The blood will go down but the valves in my veins are too weak to let it come back up. I swell and the skin breaks. That is the simple way to put it! I am the only one in the family with that problem that I know of. Right now, I am just scared of what is going to happen next. It seems to never stop. Bless her heart, my Daughter in Law is having the kinds of problems with her family. It just all started at once. I am going to try to get caught up here before I fall all to pieces. Keep me in mind if you can find a cheerful word or two. I could use a little boost right about now. Linda

by kt55 31 May 2009

Letvia, What a beautiful graphic. I would love to have that digitized, without the My Deepest Sympathy,to sititch & frame for gifts as needed and to read everyday myself. Kathi

by lflanders 30 May 2009

Thanks so much for your kind words and blessings. I do feel some better this morning mentally. I think it has taken an effect on my stomach but I can deal with that. I guess everything else is just kind of numb right now. Linda

by lflanders 30 May 2009

Thanks Iris, I have been there and done that. I am sick on my stomach this morning,which I am chalking up to nerves but have calmed down alot. Linda

by lflanders 30 May 2009

Thanks so much for your kind words. I was really upset yesterday but just a little numb this morning. Hugs to you also! Linda

by lflanders 30 May 2009

Sissi, The funeral will be in Milledgeville and then she will be taken back to Norristown to be buried next to her late husband. Almost all the whole Tapley clan is buried in Norristown. My Mom is buried at Oxford, just over the R.R. tracks from Covington. That is where she was born although she lived in Macon almost all her life. She is in the Carroll Plot. My parents were divorced when Dad passed away when I was 20. She made me promise her that I would not put her in Norristown! When you stop to think about things, it is really a small world.
Thanks for the prayers! Prayers work when all else fails. Linda

by lflanders 30 May 2009

I will try this again. I started typing you a message and my computer went off. It finally came back on. Comcast must be in the neighborhood working on something because I lost the computer, T.V. and the Land Line all at once. I wanted to say Thank You for your concern and to let you know that I do feel some better today. I have reconciled myself to the fact that I can not get out and drive that far to the funeral. Your prayers are appreciated! Linda

by lflanders 30 May 2009

I can not answer that. I have not been and not heard anyone say that they have. My son is taking blood thinners since his Heart Attack in March and they keep a close check on him but do not know if that test has been done on him. I will ask! I will also ask my Dr's. The way they are doing the surgery on my legs now, beats the way they did it 5 yrs. ago. It is painful but not nearly as bad as it was the first time around! I guess the way that they lost Fredette was just one of those freak things that just happened! Only the Lord knows what happened and why. We are not to question Him. Thank you for your concern and prayers. They mean alot! Linda

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Thank you Colleta, It means allot to me that you would take the time for such kind words and prayers. Linda in Ga

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Debbie, Thanks so much for the prayers and reminding me that peace will come with the asking. Your words are kind and very dear to me. Linda iin Ga

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Chris, You are so caring and so full of hope. You have a comforting way that makes anyone in need feel better. After reading these verses from the Bible, I know why they are some of your favorite. The angels are beautiful but the words from your heart are more beautiful. I am so glad that I did come in here to this site for some comfort. Thank you so much for being there for me tonight. Fredette, Diane, and myself have been together almost all our lives. Diane is my 1st cousin but she is also my best friend in the world. This was her older sister that passed away yesterday and I can not make her feel any better by being her best friend and cousin. All I can do is talk to her on the phone. I am having surgery again on Monday so I can not be there for her. I have had surgery on my legs 3 times in 3 weeks and they will continue to do the scraping away of all the old tissue and leaving it raw until it all heals. It is already looking better but I still have a way to go! I am 4 hrs away from them. That is each way. My legs have to be propped up the biggest portion of each hour. I guess I am feeling alot of guilt at not being able to be there for her. She knows I love her and that is all that matters. She is very understanding. I have tried so hard to find a place to move back home but I can not leave the Atlanta area right now because of the Dr's. up here. I have got to get my legs well before I can move. Thank you so much Chris! Your prayers and kind words mean more than you will ever know. Linda in Ga

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Lois, You are certainly right about the awesome prayer warriors here! There are alot of very kind and caring people here also. Thank you so much for your concern and your kind words. Linda in Ga

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Thank you, Jacqueline, for your kind words and prayers. I think right now that I am just in shock and there has been so much lately I guess I am anxious about what will happen next. I believe in the Lord and I know that He is the one true and safe haven in my life. I also know that He has made us no promises for an easy life. I do worry especially when it all seems to pile up. The Lord has given me my life twice already and I thank Him for that every day. Everyday is beautiful to me whether it is raining or snowing or the sun is shining. Sometimes I just do not handle these awful surprises very well. Thanks again for just being here for me this evening when I am so down! Linda in Ga

by lflanders 29 May 2009

Thank you so much for your prayers! Prayers do work for all of us! It is kind of you to take time to give a kind word to someone that is having a hard time this evening. I was doing fair until I talked to Fredette's sister(my age) and we started to compare what had happened in our family in the last few months and it really got me down. Your words are kind and so true. This is a place where everyone is kind and caring. Thanks again, Linda in Ga.

by aviesel 29 May 2009

you are so welcome to any comfort I can give you. May the Lord take away your sorrows and give you peace tonight.