what he ok'd. But I can't go anywhere until I find some place that is income based rent. $659.00 a month isn't much to live on. I know the kids would take me in they said they would but I just can't.

Hi Ronny,
You are in my prayers,
look after yourself,
I see you have been busy with projects.
It does help to keep busy.

God Bless
Hugs Yvonne

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by memasanders 06 Jul 2009

Thank you luv Yes it does help to keep busy.

I`m sorry to read about your seperation. Please take care of yourself! You have us the cute family to rely on! You are in my thoughts. Please take care of yourself

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by memasanders 06 Jul 2009

Thank you so much you guys men the world to me. God Bless

You are in difficult times now, but don't do anything what you regret later. Ask for help to share all you have together, that means the house, income and when there are savbings and pension as well. Ask a loyer for advice before you leave to keep your rights. I can understand you feel lonely and miserable as well but you have to stand for yourself now. Keep strong. You will be in my thoughts.

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by memasanders 04 Jul 2009

Thank you so much

Ronny, you said in your reply to me that "this is just too much to handle." And you are so right, it is! BUT it's not too much for God to handle. Remember that. We all turn things over to Him, then we just take all that trouble, pain & worry back...then have to turn it over again! Hang in there and hang on to Him! Praying for you.

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by memasanders 02 Jul 2009

Thank you dear. You are absolutly right I have an awful time with that giving it to God and thinking I'm strong enough to take it back. I'm not so it's all up to Him now! Thanks again luv. God Bless

Ronny, your husband has to give you half of what you two have together, either in goods or money. Half of that house is yours. DO NOT settle for less! I don't know if your state has alimony, but go for that as well. If you can afford to stay in the house, let HIM move out. This really gets my dander up! Use you up for 37 years and then throw you away. Not on your life, girl, you fight for your rights and I'll try any way I can to help you. Get your lawyer to file for maintenance for you, he has to help support you if you're disabled. You are entitled to his Social Security and pension, too. Don't let him tell you what you can or can't take. Don't abandon anything. Hugs, Marji

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by memasanders 02 Jul 2009

Hi Marji,
You are a dear. Thanks for your concern. And you are absolutly right. I am jsut so darn tired physically and emotionally all I want to do is sleep. I have to pick myself up and get with a plan I know so I do alot of praying. Thanks you doll. God Bless Always Ronny

Dear Ronny, it is a difficult time for you and your husband, I wish I had something to say, but I don't... You have my thoughts and prayers, God bless you always. Love,Yoriko

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by memasanders 01 Jul 2009

Thanks you my dear. I appreciate your concern.

I will keep you in my prayer also...nobody really knows what you are going through unless they have been down that road themselves....As for advice, we have equal rights regardless of whom the bread winner was or is...you are entitled to half of everything you 2 own...A wife-mother-housekeeper is the same as an employed person...I would not turn over my keys, nor would I leave until you have spoken to an attorney and he/she has adviced you to do so....If your hubby is being totally inconsiderate, I would wait until he left then I would pack up whatever I wanted and felt I needed...just because I don't let people run over me anymore.....BUT I WOULD ALSO SEEK OUT YOUR PASTOR AND CHURCH SUPPORT GROUP FOR HELP. remember your friends are here to cry on or ask for a group hug....deanna

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by memasanders 01 Jul 2009

Deanna God Bless you girl. I have been talking with my pastor for the last 2 years (I wish H would have come with me but he wouldn't) as for attorney i have spoken to him and he told me my rights and what to do . It is just a very scarey move after 37 years. But I truly and maybe this is selfish on my part but I really need sometime for myself. Keep the prayers coming.hehe

I know you are hurting and feeling so alone. BUT please be wise, go slowly, and get some legal advise as soon as possible. Will be praying for you.

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks I have an appointment tomorrow. This is jsut to much to handle.

Rony I will pray for you, and alway remember. If a door t closed on your back, you must look up and in front of you there is another door that open. Good luck you will find help Love Marie.

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks you I jsut keep praying God shows me the right thing to do.

Ronny, I am praying for your piece of mind. It appears that you have made a decision about moving, but whatever you leave could be construed as abandoned....I'd check with an attorney before I left anything there.

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Good idea. Thansk for the advice

Ronny, leaving a marriage - is never easy - but you know that God has been with you - this whole time and He will not leave you now - I will be praying for you and hoping that you can reach out - in the right direction - to receive the help that you need - when you need it and don't just settle for what he will OK - you are one half of this marriage and even if he was the bread winner - you have a half of everything coming to you, as well. I will be praying for you dear.

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thank you for your prayers!

Dear Ronny,

I am sending prayers your way too. Can you get help from your local church? Do you have a group that can help you out in your local community. We have them here in Aus, I am sure you must have something close by to aid you.

And listen, move in with the kids even for a little while or at least till you can get out on your own.

It will be good too for the sake of your peace of mind and health. After all you looked after them for years, didn't you?

And I don't know about your marriage laws over in America - but you should own half of what your estate (house and contents etc.) is worth. Can you have a good talk with your husband, I don't believe he is able to tell you what you can have. After all you have been married for a long time and you have earned it.

Keep us posted. Love and blessings Chris

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks Chris, Both the kids offered but I really don't want to drag them in this. I have found a 2 bedroom trailer to rent. They will have it ready for me to look at at the end of the week.

I have some boxes and started packing today but I am so uneasy about all this I just don't wnat anyone getting hurt.

The rent is a little more than I wanted to pay but once I get in there maybe I can find some help to pay for it.

I just keep on praying. Thank you for yours God Bless

I will pray for you. Hopefully you will find the answers and the right people to guide you to make the right descision.

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thank you so much I did so enjoy the pictures of your new little freind.

Ronny I am so sorry. I can only pray, that god will give u some answers, & send u someone who can help u. *

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks you so much

I'll keep you in my prayers

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks you so much that means alot.

I'll keep you in my prayers

Praying for you - may God strengthen and support you as you find a way through your maze to peace and happiness. Hugs

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thatis so knod thank you!

I'm rooting for you

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by memasanders 30 Jun 2009

Thanks