I packed up my boxes, saw an attorney, found a place I coudn't afford but I was going when H called me and said he wanted to meet with the pastor and me at the church.
I went and we had a nock down drag out no holds barred session. I held nothnig back. I think he finally realized this was it. If he really wnated this I was going.
Well i'm still at home and we are going to counciling and he has done a complete about face. He's been doing the cooking the dishes, sweet to me. It's a complete change.
We went again yesterday to see the preacher and he has set up a financial plan and is willing to help any way he can .
He told me to keep my boxes packed and give H until Christmas and see what happens. We did alot of hollering and crying while we wer there, but I'm praying this works.
I know all your prayers have helped too. Please continue to pray this works out 37 years is along time to flush down the drain.
thanks you to all of you and keep us in your prayers God Bless you all Love Ronny
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Do hope and pray that this works Ronny....gave in after 30 years and that was 22 years ago, certainly haven't missed the stress and tension, but do miss being able to be a family especially with grand kids...I do hope your man will keep up his new ways and both of you will work towards keeping your marriage together...best always you are in my prayers...x0x0x0
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by memasanders
10 Jul 2009
Thank you That must have been really hard. i know what I've been going through and it's not easy at all!
27071I will keep praying for you,in hopes that all goes well. Thirty-seven years is a long time to just flush down the drain.Maybe now with everything out in the open that you both have been holding back for years, things will get better. I will say a pray for you each night. Take care. Lynn
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51302Ronny, the prayers continue along with all good wishes. May God bless. ~ ksgram
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5755Ronny I am so glad that there is a chance that all will work out for you and H. You will still be in my prayers.
God Bless
Hugs Yvonne
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132773Ronny, You have my prayers sweetie. I was in your place about nine years ago only it was the silent treatment. We worked things out and now have been married almost 32 years. Trust in the Lord and you shall find your strength in him. lots of Hugs *4u I shall light a candle and hope the warmth of that flame reaches you and your H and rekindles your marriage,
Cindy B
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11473Absolutely will pray for the two of you. Teri is right...you are the only one you can change and what a difference an attitude adjustment makes. Look to the cross, Ronny. He is the only one who will not let you down. My DH loves God more than he loves me and I'm glad, because I will fail him and our Lord will tell him to forgive me! Amen!
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by memasanders
08 Jul 2009
Thank you so much there is nothing that means more to me than my faith. I do look to my Lord for my help and support belive me. Thanks for your prayers God Bless you and yours. Always Ronny
158716Oh, Ronny, this is great news, at least there is a chance. I'm so glad you both yelled at the preacher's! Because in my first ill-fated marriage, whenever there was some kind of problem, my husband clammed up. I'd ask "what's wrong?" and the answer would be a very surly "Nothing!" Well, if nothing's wrong, nothing can be dealt with or fixed. At least you two brought stuff out in the open. Time will tell if it can be fixed, but it's a really good start. Still, keep your boxes packed (except for your sewing machine, of course!). Much love, Marji
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by memasanders
08 Jul 2009
Sewing machine never got packed. (Have machine will travel) hehehe Thanks for the thoughts
33451Ronny, I will continue to pray for you - as I do believe in the power of prayer - so far - it has been working for you - has it not - with all that you have been through - you can see - that it does, too. Going into counciling is such a good thing - I hope you both figure out what is really going on - I will pray for your H to get that job and the raise that he wants to support you, too. I don't have the experience of having a long relationship with a man - I have been married for 7 years - which is the longest that I have ever been married before, two times before (each for five years) and I have had over 20 years alone - to figure out - just what I was really needing - it was through God that I found my DH - it is through Him that I make it work - if I can do it - I know that you can - one way or the other - figure out - what you need for you - through God. Continue to do the work - no matter what happens. I pray for you Ronnie!
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by memasanders
08 Jul 2009
Thank you. I know prayer works i see it everyday. Things have been alot better, and we just have eot work on it. Thank you for your prayers
211079Ronny, thank God for a mediator, the pastor, & I will continue to pray that God's will will b done n both your lives. God bless & keep relying on God for your answers. *
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145791Ronny, have you seen the movie Fireproof with Kirk Cameron? This shows how GOD can heal a broken marriage. I strongly encourage everyone to rent this fabulous movie.
Satan's goal is to tear apart this marriage, but I will stand with you and pray that he be bound...and I pray GOD moves in each of you so that you both come to a place where you fit perfectly together. Just be submissive and open to GOD's correction Ronny, even if your husband is not.
Don't give up my friend... I've been there. But ALL things are possible.
xoxo teri
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by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
Thank you You are absolutly right. The preacher told me taht too. Don't let my heart get hard. I'm stubborn I'll admit it but I have a lot to fight for I just hope my H keeps feeling the same way!
by simplyrosie
08 Jul 2009
Whether he does or not, GOD wants to work in you my friend. You will be blessed if you follow the voice of the LORD. I am so stubborn and prideful Ronny it's sickening, but GOD has a way of knocking me down so he can change in me things He doens't like.
When Jim and I were having trouble, we got ahold of a teaching from Family Discipleship Ministries called "Marriage is a Ministry"... this was the best teaching I have ever seen! The DVDs cost 40.00, but you can watch them online for free.
http://www.familydiscipleshipmini... (Go to Marriage Class along the top menu).
PLEASE Ronny, for YOURSELF, watch the videos. You'll begin to understand the position your husband is coming from. By working on YOU and focusing on what GOD is doing in YOU (and releasing him), allows the LORD to work in your husband too. You are NOT responsible for anyone but yourself... and GOD will put those very difficult people in your life (husband, children) to purge something out of you (Pastor Craig talks about this) He doesn't like.
I had a REALLY hard time accepting that statement Ronny because EVERYTHING was Jim's fault... but then I began to realize that my marriage was not MINE... it was a union from the LORD and only He can hold it together. Take this time to seek Him and ask what it is in YOU he wants to change. Forget your hubby Ronny... he's not your problem. Let the One who created him correct him.
I see a beautiful beginning for you. My prayer is that your marriage is renewed and GOD is the center of that union. Amen? xoxo
33575I am so glad things look like they are improving. If you and your hubby have not seen the movie "Fireproof" I think you would really enjoy it. Am almost sure it is out on DVD now for rental. Your church MAY have a copy in their library if they have one. Your pastor sounds like a wise man. Hang in there, you are right, 37 yrs. is too long to just throw away! Prays are with you. Gerry B
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by simplyrosie
07 Jul 2009
I didn't even read what you wrote Gerry... lol... I mentioned this to Ronny too. Wasn't that an awesome movie!
by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
Thank you I'll take you up on your suggestion. Maybe we will make it kinda a date nite this weekend.
35675AMEN AND THANK THE LORD FOR YOUR BLESSINGS...I will continue to pray for your strength and endurances to heal the two of you...deanna
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by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
Thank you my freind. Everytime I see Scooby doo I have to smile. Thanks for that too.
34246Oh Ronny I am so glad that there is a chance that all will work out. A prayer answered. I will continue to pray for you and your husband. Too much is invested in a marriage of 37 years. I pray that the job for your husband will happen and that both of you are willing to work on your marriage and find solutions. Angie
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by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
Thank you so much Angie, I really apprecaite the prayers and I know they work. Keep up the good work. hehehe
109774Hallelujah and Amen Ronny - I prayed that you would be able to work something out.
Trevor and I have been married 37 years too! You're right it's too long a time to "flush" down the drain.
I was so upset with your original post - I can't bear to think that you are in turmoil. Thank God you have received some help.
Prayer does work and I hope your husband can see what he is missing out on. It takes 2 to make a marriage work doesn't it Ronny - lots of give and take, talking, touching etc. etc. etc.
Life is too short to worry about the silly stuff. I know you are willing to give it everything you have and I hope your husband can do so too. I am constantly praying for a complete healing between the two of you.
It's 11.35pm here Tuesday night 7th July (07/07/09)and I pray that you will be reconciled.
I wish I could give you a big hug, kiss and cuddle, but a picture of me smiling will have to do!
Keep your chin up!
Love and blessings Chris
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by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
Chris I knew my situation bothered you, your posts stop coming and I really missed them but that smile means the world to me.
We have to try with all our might and I think it will be OK. I know there will be good and bad but life is good.
Finanaces are alot but the preacher is working with us that too. It is tight, tight, but we will work throught it. I pray he will get the new job he's applied for. Say a pray please it is a raise and it would be wants he wants.
We are both going to try really hard we have to we have a family. A future. I pray. Keep your prayers coming. Love to you dear. God Bless. Always Ronny
by pennifold
09 Jul 2009
Hi Ronny, sorry if you thought I wasn't writing to you. I apologise for that, sometimes I get on here and read all the help questions and forget about the private ones. I pray daily for you and constantly think of you and your situation.
As for the finances leave that in the hands of those who know best how to deal with it. The Lord will give you all your needs. I also pray that your husband will get a job and enough for you to live on comfortably.
It's a worrying time for all - Amy's partner Steve is looking for work here too. I know something is just around the corner.
This is one of my favourite sayings from the Bible:
Isaiah 40:31 "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint".
Hand over everything to the Lord - lay any problem you have at the foot of the cross and He who loves us and knew us before we were even formed in our mother's womb will care for you and protect you.
God bless you Ronny love and blessings Chris
by memasanders
09 Jul 2009
You're right luv. My faith has never been stronger. God is all I need and your prayers are greatly appreciated. Luv to all Always Ronny
234498Ronny, I sincerely hope this is not a temporary improvement, but a lasting one. You have such a long history together, try and recall the fun you shared, the happy moments and see if you can build on that. I'll keep you in my prayers. Love, Martine
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145304Dear Ronny, I'm so glad things are working out for you and your husband. I'll still keep you in my prayers. Love,Yoriko
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by memasanders
07 Jul 2009
You my dear are in my prayers also. i know you are having tought times too. We will pray for each other. God Bless Ronny
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