I would not let her watch TV or do anything fun. I told her if it hurt too much to be at school, it hurt too much to watch TV.

Things like this do happen mmgrey & we moms have to say I'm so sorry. I can tell u though from experience it is really painful. I'm still having problems with the swelling in my foot. She will heal & it will probably take u longer to forgive yourself. Just remember u are only human & a mother. I use to have one that told me everyday she was too sick to go to school. Well one day school called after I made her go. Temp was 103. After that every time she said I'm sick I took her temp before making her go. She is 50 now & will b a grandmother in Dec.

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thanks! You know exactly what I'm talking about then. She is lucky, the fracture is not displaced so it will heal really well, but it is affecting the growth plate so they had to cast it to prevent further injury. Hopefully she will heal without any further problems. Congratulations on being a great-grandmother! That is so cool!

When my son was aboout 8 yrs old. he fell off his bike and moaned about his arm. I did not think anything serious was wrong and waited a couple of hours before I took him to dr. He had a broken elbow. I know the feeling you are going through. You will never hear the end of it either. My son is now 44 and every once in awhile he brings that up in conversation. But now he can laugh about the whole situation. Your daughter tho will remind you but she will never quit loving you!!

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thanks! I'm sure I won't hear the end of it.

Don't be so hard on yourself. I felt the same way when my son was 6 and I accidently slammed his finger in the car door. Did not realize it was broken until hours later. Ended up in the ER and of course I felt like the worlds worst mother. But he survived and so did I. He's all grown up now but still reminds me of the time I broke his finger.
Bev

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thanks, I do feel better hearing that I'm not the only one who mis-judged injuries. I'm sure she'll remind me of this when she is older.

KIDs...I told my son the same thing...3 days later in the ER they told me his collar bone was broken...HE still won't let ME forget it!! So be prepared to be reminded the rest of HER life about it!!!

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by bevintex 18 Oct 2009

You are right. They forgive but they dont FORGET lol!
Bev

by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Hahaha! Thanks, I'm sure she will bring it up again...

don't feel bad about it. You wanted to do what was best for her, You couldn't know it was broken. hope she hasn't too much pain now it's in plaster.now you can make it up to her and spoil her a little bit.sometimes children break
a leg or arm and you cannot see it's broken, I know it happened here too to a girl I know. but please don't feel too bad about it.how old is she?

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thank you! She is 12. She does not have any pain not that it is in a cast. It just itches.

Maureen, you did what you thought ,right at the time.I'm sure we all have been through the same feeling of guilt , when our children were growing up.
Hope you and your daughter are feeling a lot better today.
Hugs Yvonne

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thank you!

Honey, you didn't do the wrong thing - had you never taken her to the doctor and she went for days in that pain - then that would have been wrong - but you did take her - when the pain persisted - with kids you can never tell - if it is a serious injury or not - LOVE her and tell her how much you do - don't spoil her over the injury - she may see that as something she can use over you - just be you and take care of her. Hugs dear one. *4U

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thanks, I know that I have to not spoil her. I never thought about her using this to her advantage. That is funny, and something she might try... Life is never dull with this child.

I know that feeling of quilt, but do not fret too much. I can remember also thinking the boys are allright, when they were not. I think we all went through that, but it will not help to make yourself feel sick, because of feeling too bad. We parents all understand how easily something like that could happen LOL.
Today the boys and I laugh about some of the things that happened, they love me just as always, and they grew up to be 2strong young men of 30 and 33.
Hope her foot mends well.
Hugs and God bless.
Marietta

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thanks, I know we will laugh about it some day. When the cast is off!

I know all of my lessons seem to be hard. My son when 2 years old fell off of a box onto a concrete floor, barely cried. The next day he started playing with his little cars with his other hand and I took him to the doctor to find it was broken.....felt like I should be put in front of a firing squad. Arm healed, I forgave myself for not being an orthopaedic surgeon and you will too. Just don't start over reacting when she does to injuries (if she does- this may have taught her a lesson, too). She's old enough to "get it" that you weren't just being mean. And Marji is right....chocolate ice cream heals almost anything!

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by mmgreyhounds 19 Oct 2009

Thank you! I sure hope she learned a lesson. We talked about "crying wolf" for every little thing. We'll see.

Cheer up, we all make mistakes. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. You can cuddle your daughter now for 6 weeks, and you know the old saying,(Time heals all). You both will be back to normal in 6 weeks. Take care. Hugs Lynn *4U

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by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

Thanks! I will cuddle her for weeks.

Hi, I remember something similar happening when mine were young, we laugh about it now. Just remember you are doing the best you can at the time.

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by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

I know. It seemed like the right thing at the time. I just couldn't imagine someone falling on her foot being that serious.

Maureen, I'm so sorry for your daughter and for you. Sometimes injuries are more serious than we think. Running a school for long years, I learned to take care of every injury, even those small ones, but most of all, prevent any kind of accident, working for a safe environment for the kids. Yours daughters case is something I also wouldnt expect it was serious, so don't feel bad. My prayers for a speedy recovery.
Love and blessings,
Yoriko

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by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

Thank you! It is tough, because the school does not have an elevator and her classroom is on the second floor. I know because you ran a school that you understand why that poses many other issues concerning safety. It will be a long 6 weeks.

Aw, sure you feel bad, especially for being such a "meanie", Mommy. Right, bad enough the child has a broken foot, and you have to not let her watch TV to boot! Well, we all make mistakes, you've had yours for this week and probably next week too. You know, we all have or know kids who kind of overreact, get one tiny cut you can't hardly see and they act like their finger is falling off; so when it really IS falling off, you tend not to believe it. I don't know if this is your daughter's way or not, but I sure know you had a reason for doing what you did, that didn't come from nowhere. And, you apologized! I think it's great when a parent is big enough to admit they messed up, and it makes your child understand that you're human, too. You make mistakes, you don't have all the answers, and you're actually **respecting** your kid enough to say "I'm sorry, I blew it." If I were your daughter, your points would definitely have gone way UP in my estimation for that. She'll heal, you'll heal, and when your daughter's in her 30's she's going to be laughing **with** you about this story (probably when she's telling it to her own kids). Try not to beat yourself up too badly, Cutie, you didn't KNOW her foot was broken. You just didn't panic and run off to the emergency room right away. Hey, the school didn't exactly call 911 either, so they couldn't have thought it was too bad, and they're the professionals (they do still have the "school nurse", don't they?). Be kind to yourself, and your daughter; go have a bowl of chocolate ice cream together! Hugs, Marji

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by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

I hope this is one of those stories she tells her kids. She is one of those kids who cry hysterically for a little scratch so it is hard to know when it is really serious. There was no blood, there was no swelling, no redness, just the tears. You are also right about school, they put ice on for an hour before they called me and were shocked that it was broken so they didn't think it was that serious either. Thank you for totally understanding the situation and putting it in perspective for me.

This is something that easily could have happened to me (and similiar things did) while raising my 4. Once in a while a judgment call is wrong, but how many are right. Like Maryio said "Give yourself a break". She is going to be OK too.

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by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

I know, I just still feel bad. Thanks!

Sweetie, no one is perfect and keds do tend to over exaggerate to get out of things...you did not know and if you did you know you would have bent over backwards to have prevented it for her.....Put I LOVE YOU, MOM on her cast in bright colors.....

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by mmgreyhounds 17 Oct 2009

Haha! I can do that. I have not signed it yet. She has a blue cast and silver and gold sharpies for everyone to write on. Thank you!

by crafter2243 18 Oct 2009

I guess embroidering on it is out of the question. Hi, hi

by mmgreyhounds 18 Oct 2009

Hahaha! What a fun idea! Too bad I can't do that. That would be great!

Hey, cut yourself some slack. You never know with these things. Maybe you under reacted a little but nothing would have changed if you'd taken her to the Dr right away. Other than a few hrs of pain. Make sure you apologise to her and explain why you did what you did. Most kids are quick to forgive if they know you are truly sorry. Having raised 3 rowdy boys, I know exactly how you feel. She'll be fine and so will you.

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by mmgreyhounds 17 Oct 2009

Thanks! It's still hard but I think you are right. I did apologize and explained why I did what I did. I think we are OK. I still feel bad.