WELL this weekend my hubby said we were to have no kids...both of our placements were to visit with their moms ALL weekend long, so he wanted to clean, clean and get ready for winter.......so thursday night got a call for respite...friday night we got both of ours off and the respite showed up while I was at work...hubby was watching him when he got a call...they needed respite for another boy..oh oh..then my daughter decided she wanted to go see the new movie out "MOON"...so here he is...two of the most hyper 10/11 year olds a 13 day old baby...and our stove hadn't arrived yet.(it went out 2 weeks ago and we were waiting for the delivery all this time)...So the ole man loads everyone up, heads to the store to pick it up instead...
so much for a peaceful weekend at the Weigel's home....Saturday morn comes along and 1 of the boys decides he was going to throw his medicine in the toilet while I was making hot chocolate for him....about 15 minutes later he BLOWS OUT....got mad at the other boy, starts throwing my couch cushens and pillows on the floor...then starts calling everyone every filthy name in the book...bless my hubby..he puts his arms around him from behind and locks his hands together so he cannot escape and just sits both of them down on the floor while he is SCREAMING, CURSING AND DEMANDING HE WANTS TO LEAVE...we had to call the agents emergency hotline because of the meds issue....wound up calling a sherriff to just come out and help talk to him....before they got there he had cooled off and started acting like nothing happened really....The sherriff was such a nice younger man and was so polite to the boys....sat and talked to him asked him where he put the meds and which he had taking, asked if he would like to take the ones he threw away....said he would have the dispatch flagg our home as foster care so others that had to come would know aout med issues and handle it the same way if possible....I was really glad to know we would have extra support when and if needed....I would hate to think that the police thought we couldn't handle things but know that our home is where medical and emotional kids come to for extra care....
My first placement child is now working his way back to his bio mother....he doesn't want to go apparently...when asked what he would like to see happen, he told them he wanted to stay at the weigel's, but wanted everyone to just leave the homework issues alone....oh yeah I am a meany for making sure homework gets caught up...hehehe...So apparently the goal for him to go back to mom is Jan/Feb.....we shall see how he does...as of now, he has to spend the whole weekends with Mom until then....
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132773God Bless you and your husband!! You both have a special talent to help children with emotional needs. In the many years of teaching I have seen many students with behaviors that are out of control. I am so glad you are there for those families. A little love and understanding goes a long way. You have my prayers! Peace! Hugs for you both!!
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743326Deanna, it sounds to me like the situation was handled perfectly. This is a terrified child, not much more than a baby and I sit here weeping that he has been in places not so pleasant as yours. God bless you for loving the (seemingly) unlovable. Give him a hug from me. Tell him there are people who care what happens to him and pray for him.;)
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by camylow
23 Nov 2009
he got angry at me again today...doesn't like me and want to talk to me...then about 1/2 hour he hugs me and goes off to take a bubble bath I suggested...so much work and always on pins and needles....
158718Deanna, I certainly admire what you and your hubby do. God has give you a special gift to deal with these foster children. I am sure you have many happy moments but I also know that you have lots of trials and tribulations with these children. I think of you often and will keep you in my prayers. Hugs Mary
33871bless you for being there for those kids,it will get worse before it gets better, speaking from experience, 22 years fostering over 300 kids adopted 2 twinboys, now 23 years old, guardianship of 4 more, one girl 20 yrs, still here. lots of them come to visit, they tell every one were their parents, i guess we are!! we had a lot of heart ache, and a lot of love in return. don't give up .some of them really need you. god bless
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2685Sounds like a rough weekend but you handled it perfectly. I have seen that type of behavior in person and it is not fun. Knowing what to do if it happens again is half the battle because then you don't have to stress about it as much.
Sound like it's time for a hot cooked meal while the kids do homework. I know, easier said than done.
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211079Deanna u & your hubby will definitely have stars in your crown to throw at Jesus feet. God has special people like u two & gives them extra helpings of grace to carry them through such episodes as u describe. You continue & always will on my daily prayer list. I have other friends who have lived near who have been foster parents through the yrs. The hubby has passed away now & she is in her 70s & no longer able to do this. actually they are/were my SIL's Aunt & Uncle. I've watched them through the yrs because we went to same church so I know the trials & tribulations that u have to go through they usually had kids that parents were druggies & law had to b called often. God's splecial blessings upon u both. Much love Lillian
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145791D...All I can say is GOD Bless you and Hubby for having BIG hearts and Opening your home to those in need. Have a Blessed Thanksgiving:)
31942Deanna, (and hubby)
You are two of the worlds special angels.
Love and blessings Chris
P. S. Glad that the Police department have such caring constables over in your neighbourhood. It's great that he took the time to let others know that you are Foster parents.
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by camylow
22 Nov 2009
too bad my daughter couldn't hook up with him....he was a cutie on top of understanding...
by jrob
22 Nov 2009
remember my prayer? Did you ask him where he went to church? Did you get his name? Come on Deanna, the Lord helps those that help themselves....hehehehe!
234506What a interesting family life you lead. Sounds like the young lad who had the 'temper tantrum' was sounding you out to see where he stood. The fact he is still with you has let him know you care. There are so many children world wide who need and want boundaries in their lives and they have none it is so sad. It is so easy to become a parent but what many do not realise until too late that it is a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week and 365 day a year commitment. BUT it is the greatest thing I have ever done. Good Luck to you all
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by camylow
22 Nov 2009
he is just here for 4 days....actually my home is spotless now for some reason ...hehehe
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