My DH left yesterday morning to go Russia. He is going to work there on a contract until Sept 2010. Seven weeks away and two weeks at home. He will be on Sakhalin Island. It will take him 2,5 days there and 2,5 days back. He always wanted to do something like this and this is an ideal oppertunity. The only problem is that it is halfway around the world from us. Sure everything will be allright but will miss him. Funny to think we are having very hot days here in Cape Town en he will be freezing when he go outside.

Oh my goodness....when my hubby left for a job contract, I found true self again.....I lost weight, my house was spotless, I was my ole self again....When our husbands are here, we tend to forget about ourselves and let ourselves slip into the wife/mother role...We forget about ourselves and whom our husbands married in the first place....I have been married for 27+ years and wouldn't exchange it, but you will find a whole new you in the absence and the HONEYMOON WILL BE WONDERFUL when he returns because it will be a new person, yet the same when he returns....ENJOY THE TIME AWAY AND FIND THE OLE YOU for him when he returns.....YOU GO GIRL AND LOOK DEEP FOR YOURSELF you will be better for him then.....deanna

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by camylow 14 Jan 2010

this little time away will be good for both of you.....He will realize just what he has....

by harmzen 15 Jan 2010

I needed this mail, exactly how I feel. Funny we are also had our 26th anniversary last month. This is now ME time!! I do need to lose weight and there is so many things of mine that had to come second. Tks for your mail and I am going to share this with the two other ladies whose hubby is also going.

by camylow 15 Jan 2010

Oh so glad you didn't get offended or think I was out of line....glad you will share it with the others...now is a very good time to have a couple girls night out
with each other as support and a way to let loose and still be safe....HAVE FUN DEAR.....deanna

Hi Elize, we spoke already, but know we are all with you.
Hugs and God bless.
Marietta

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by harmzen 15 Jan 2010

Tks for being there for me.

Of coarse you will miss him, but it's great you support him to live his dream.and it's good you can contact nowadays by mail/internet and telephone. well you sure have lots of time to embroider now :) so keep busy with the things you cannot do when he's at home.and time flies.and about the cold in Russia,your skype-contacts with him will warm his heart.

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by harmzen 15 Jan 2010

Tks for your kind words I think he will need a lot of warmth for his heart.We have never been in so much snow and do not know cold like that.Will keep him warm with news from home.

My prayers are with you as you will be the one who is most effected by his absence. Since he has always wanted to do this type of work it will be a great adventure, so let him share the adventure with you by telling you the stories and taking photos. Research the area on your computer; make a scrapbook or a memory quilt to remind you and him of the time. Perhaps anyone with embroideries of the Russian sites will be able to advise you of where to get them, and you can use them to do a special project! We love skype and do use it when my son and husband travel. Make goals for yourself and keep busy. The time between visits will fly.
Love and prayers for you and for him.
Jacqueline

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Thank you so much. We do the skype thing but the computer at home don't have a camera yet so at this time we only write and it is great.

Elize, if this is something that he has always wanted to do - it is best if you support him in it - completely and that is not showing how much you miss him - halfway arund the world or just two hours away - is too long and far to be apart - with the one that you love - but as Chris suggested - get Skype or an instant message program - that you can write each other in the now - keep busy and love him deeply - he will treasure you for it. Now is the time to get yourself busy into your craft - the hours will fly by - you will be productive and you will also have something to show for it. Oh - yes - the weather will be different - that is for sure. I will be praying for you and your DH.

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Thank you for all your kind words. Will take me some time to get productive but know that the quicker I set my own new routine the better for myself.

Elize, you and your husband are in my thoughts, for a safe return. It's time to keep yourself busy with sewing and embroidering :) Anytime you feel lonely, just write here, we are here to listen to you. Love, Yoriko

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Thank you I am definetly will spend more time here as soon as a new routine has been developed. You cuties are so dear to me after only a few months

Elize, I agree with all the other posts. Absence makes the heart grow fonder - I also would install Skype - we have it and it's great to see one another.

I can't imagine how cold it is over in Russia - here in Newcastle, Australia it doesn't get very cold. It's usually hot being on the East Coast.

I like the idea of Lillian's too keeping a diary of daily events. All of these will add to him being missed. Keep busy and the time will fly. Get the children to do things for him too that's always fun.

Love and blessings Chris - don't forget we are all here whenever you need us.

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Thank you. In Cape Town it doesn't get that cold either. He have sent me some photo's and it looked freezing. Do have skype but no camera yet. The writing on skype en email does help.

My advice stay busy & try to keep a daily journal. Every time something occurs u think he would laugh or smile at, write it down, even if u just have him in your thoughts. When he reads it he'll know how much he is loved & missed & it will help him keep up with everything going on in your daily life. Make the most of the time he's home with you. *

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Thank you this sound like a nice idea. I am writing him daily emails. The technology today make distance no problem. Know it matters what is in my head and keeping busy is the best.

7 weeks is a long time to be apart. If he has access to a computer SKYPE would help to stay in contact. Will the 5 days of travel get deducted from the 2 weeks home? What is the old saying? "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" Let us know if this is true. Hugs :)

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

We do skype and it helps. His home time is actually 21 days and the travel come from that so he will be home 16 days.Think the absence thing is true. The last month was full of stress and fights thoughts that the seperation must happen and be over with and now I already miss him like crazy

Elize, I will be thinking of you! Hope you have children, friends and family around. Suzette

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

Tks Suzette. Kids is only 72km from me, coming home every weekend, parents across the road and lots of friends.My sewing room does need my attention and I will make sure to spend some time here

You certainly have my prayers. I'd be so lost with my man. Well, this too shall pass and he will be back in 7 weeks. I hope you have lots of things planned to do in his absence.;)

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

I do miss him, but it is better than what I thought, up to now. I do have lots to do just need to start. Thank you for your prayers

The first thing that comes to my mind is "distance makes the heart grow fonder" I know you will dread the 7 week stretches that he is gone, but imagine the homecomings! Almost like being on a honeymoon every 7 weeks hehehe! I hope where he is at he will be able to keep in touch with the loved ones at home. Keep yourself busy, and the time will fly until he is back home again.

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by harmzen 14 Jan 2010

I think now is the time to become more fitter, for the homecoming.Maybe I like the honeymoon every 7weeks so much that after this contract I ask him to stay on.Ha..ha. Am planning to do lots while he is away