to be a problem in the bigger cities. Is this happening elsewhere in the world or is it just a problem for No. America?

I was picked on and bullied mercilessly by the other girls in high school because I had no uniform and wore hand me down clothes and shoes and my last name was Brown. I soon learnt that a good punch in the mouth of the ring leader (after school hours and away from the school grounds when she was on her own and it was one on one) pretty well put a stop to it. I never did make any new friends in high school but I figured I didn't want any of them as friends anyway. My friends from Primary school were far more worthy and much nicer to know.

I don't advocate violence to solve problems but in this instance it worked because it was what the individual girls needed to teach them a lesson.
Mind you, I'm talking about 48 years ago, it probably wouldn't solve anything these days.
hugs n roses, Meganne

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by celticlady1031 10 Apr 2010

I can just see you letting her have it right in the kisser! I don't think you would get away with that today. You would probably get yourself shot. I know what you mean though.

Kids are so crule and are getting worse I am afraid I would be arrested if I had kids because I would spank them for miss behaving. My parents spanked me and it did not hurt me but I grew up a good kid and you sure don't have many good ones any more.

It's better now than it used to be. When I was a kid, bullying went on, but no one dealt with it. The school wouldn't do anything, parents didn't get involved either. At least now, schools are having to deal with the problem, or risk getting sued themselves by parents of the victims.

Know what I think? If the parents of those caught bullying were incarcerated and fined, the bullying would soon stop. If my child had bullied someone, I would have KNOWN that it was a result of my not teaching that child the proper way to interact.

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by celticlady1031 09 Apr 2010

I agree 100%!

by designgirl 09 Apr 2010

I also agree 100%.

I'm sorry to see it is worldwide. We have become too politically correct, too fast paced and too entitled. I can remember boys getting swats in school for bad behavior. Can't do that now. Parents have to be carful how they punish their kids for fear of going to jail. I know bullying has been around for years but with cell phones and internet access everywhere it has grown and become way too hurtful. It breaks my heart every time I hear of another young person killing themself over this. I'm sorry to have posted such a sad question but it is an important one in my book.

There are very little consequences for kids these days... If I were to act like that, I would have gotten the tar beat out of me when I got home... unfortunately, you're not allowed to physically discipline your child anymore. Hence, they get away with murder (sometimes literally).

Sorry, I guess I would be sitting in jail over and over for disciplining my kids. A spanking worked on me when I did wrong, why on earth would people think it has changed. Even GOD says you spare the rod, spoil the child.

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by noah 09 Apr 2010

I agree 100% well said Carolyn

by holly12 09 Apr 2010

I agree wholeheartedly. I don't beleive in beating but there is nothing wrong with a spanking once in awhile, if needed. That's what is wrong with the kids today. Arlene

by celticlady1031 09 Apr 2010

I'm with you rosie... I'd have been thrown in jail to fast my head wouldn't have had a chance to spin.

by auntbaba 09 Apr 2010

I agree with you Rosie. Here in Florida, some of Southern moms still discipline their kids the old fashion way, but only when necessary. They have polite, well behaved, socially acceptable children. I say, Good for them!!

It is here in Canada. Toronto has had problems with bullying. The other thing kids do now, is "Punch A Ginger Day", which means punch a kid with red hair. My grandson has beautiful red hair and so does our neighbour's son.They are afraid to go to school on those days. What has happen to kids? Parents sometimes are just to busy trying to make ends meet that they have no time for the kids. No guidelines are there for them. They have to many things and money is never a problem. It is terrible that kids are afraid to go to school on some days. The principal told the students he will not put up with it. The police will be called if he see anything like this happening. I do hope they get this under control. Hugs Lynn.

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by noah 09 Apr 2010

Wow now thats a new one to me:(:(Carolyn

by designgirl 09 Apr 2010

I just read on the internet it is also called "Kick A Ginger Day". It is a sad day when kids think this is smart to do. What kind of adults will they become. Lynn

by celticlady1031 09 Apr 2010

I've heard of this one. The really hard part about bullying is that it's so many against the few and they can back up their stories so no one believes the one being bullied. I too worry about this generation.

by persiancatlover 10 Apr 2010

i have also a son with red hear who is 19 years old now and still they keep on bullying him with his red hear,i dont understand some people,some of them can only life when they can bully other people,here in belgium their is alot of bulluing in the schools,some schools do someting about it and other schools dont,my daughter who is 17 now was a victem of bullying for 3 years long,the school did not do anything against it ,my daughter was so sad that we changed her to another school,she is now a verry happy young lady,gr connie

This is not a new thing, It's been happening for many years. Back in the 60's, I recall a kid in my class going to the hospital because of other kids teasing him and than beat the tar out of him for no reason. He was an A student and was very well liked, except for the few bullies. Also when my kids were gowing up it was going on. I think it's just that people are more aware of what is going on now. And yes, It has gotten way out of hand.

When my daughter was in middle school one day some boys started throwing food at her during lunch. She got up and went to see the vice principal who then punished HER for leaving the lunch room. I went in and had a talk with the principal. I could not get the school to punish the boys until I threatened to go to the local newspaper.

Hi Mickey,

This is a problem close to my heart. We also have 3 Teachers in our family. Firstly my husband (who teaches adults at TAFE - an Adult Education facility) - my elder daughter Dana (who has just had her 3rd baby) and Naomi my son's wife.

Your country is not alone with regards to bullying. I think this problem is world-wide. I get so disgusted when I see what this bullying is doing to our children.

We also had a child who committed suicide over the bullying of her on mobile phones and the internet. It really makes my blood boil when this sort of behaviour exists. Where are the manners we grew up with and the respect that we had for our peers.

I don't understand why there is so much bitterness and hatred for our fellow human beings. If God was brought back into school curriculums maybe "love thy neighbour as thyself" would rub off on them.

I think that parents are trying too hard to succeed too Hanna and I just continue to pray that this Cyber bullying will cease. I think parents really need to vet their children's computers, mobiles (cell phones) and friends carefully.

As a child I was bullied to the point of coming home from pimary school with black, blue and yellow bruises. One of the girls in my year 7 class used to pinch my breasts as hard as she could - just because she was jealous I had breasts as a 12 year old! I can tell you it has never left me! And that was 45 years ago!!!! So I can really empathise with children who are bullied - they don't deserve the teasing.

My daughters (I regard Naomi as a daughter) said it is rife! What can we do - we need to write to our Government officials and complain and maybe our heads of state will finally listen.

It only takes a spark to get a fire going!

Love and blessings Chris

P.S. sorry for going on so, but this kind of "physical and mental torture" just gets me so mad!

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by noah 09 Apr 2010

Thanks for the writting of this i agree with you too!!Carolyn

A very sad chapter you are speaking about!
In Germany is the same - I worked with children in a christian youthgroup also in Egypt with streetkids.
The main problem is that the children feel boring and lonely. The parents are busy with themselves or to higher the lifestyle, give thme money or too much free decision instead of quality-time and love. They sit at the computer or televison, later they are hanging around anywhere - the parents often do not know their friends. May God have grace with that children all over the world. There is a hope - if the parents are turning to their children by sharing quality time and beeing interested in their thoughts and needs!
Prayer is a good help!
Baerbel

Mickey, with 4 school teachers in this family I can tell yous that there is absolutely nothing that kids want do these days to each other as well as faculty members. This is not just in big city schools either. They have problems in smaller rural schools also. Kids no longer have any respect for anyone, not even parents.

As a teacher i am telling you it happens everywhere even in elementary catholic schools where I used to teach for 33 years, I saw each year the problem growing, we have zero tolerance too, but it is hard to control if the parents do not help or do not want to face the facts. The excuse is you do not like my child!!!

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by celticlady1031 08 Apr 2010

What about the parents that are involed and do contact the schools with no results? Or the administrators that pass the blame? It's obvious to me that more adults (teachers, parents, school boards and law enforcement) need to get together so there is a united front. It's too sad to hear of a lost young life and the one dying isn't the only lost life here. It's also the ones prosocuted that lose.

It happens in New Zealand - most schools have a zero tolerance for bullying but it still happens, especially with the technology of today - texting and emails etc

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by celticlady1031 08 Apr 2010

I wonder why they do it to the extent that the one picked on ends up commiting suicide? The poor girl on the news now was being made fun of on the internet after her death. Are we now raising our children without a conscience? It's too sad.