My father took ill suddenly with a sore stomach in the afternoon and I rushed him to hospital. To cut a long story short after a 3hr operation we were advised that he has suffered a burst colon and he was put into intensive care on life support as he had gone into toxic shock. He sadly passed away yesterday afternoon. He had been living with us since my Mom passed away 2 years ago. Today after coming back from the mortuary feeling dazed and tearful I found my little Maltese poodle, my doggy child, had drowned in our pool. She was diabetic and was blind and relied on me to take her outside for toilet etc. I have now lost 2 important members of my family. Tonite I made dinner for 2 instead of 3 and put down 1 bowl of doggy food instead of 2. I am still numb to the bone, my heart torn apart. How a life can change in an instant.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory that no one can steal. Sympathy and prayers to you.

I'm really sorry for your loss Debswebster... Pray for you.
With all my love,
Sissi

I lost my beloved little "Charmin"..(my sweet baby girl Pom)..she was hit by a car in front of me...I held her till she passed away,,,,the only way I got through that ordeal was as she gave her final breath I got a glimpse of her running around JESUS"S feet...Some say I was just wishing, but I know what I saw....It will hurt, yes, but the true knowledge of the fact that Jesus has our beloved family and little pets is such a comfort and when you take comfort in that, then you will be able to heal and be able to smile again....Your father is at peace and when the time comes, you and your parents will be reunited and there will be wonderful joy for you again.....Letting GOD take care of you and your hurts is what you need to try to do at this time.....We will always be here for you if you need us...And the LORD in Heaven is with you always....A Great BIG HUG FOR YOU MY FRIEND...Love, Prayers, Warmth and a shoulder is here at cute...deanna

So sorry for your loss. I pray the Lord will help carry you thru this sad time.

Deb there are no words that can assuage The grief you are going through. The only ones who can come close to know how you feel are those who have also lost a parent or pet that was more a child to you than a pet. God will comfort you if you will let him ,simply let him know how lost & undone you feel. He will wrap His loving arms around you & bestow grace that will help you deal with your aching heart. I am so very sorry that you lost your dad & little poodle child. *

Dear Deb - my thoughts of deepest sympathy are winging their way to you in your time of such sadness.....
with love, AlmaG.

What an awful time for you. There is nothing that can be said that will relieve your pain & grief; just know that we are praying for you. Rely on God for strength to get through this.
Blessings,
Diane

Pour avoir,moi aussi,perdu mon Papa,je peux comprendre votre chagrin.Pensez seulement que maintenant,il vit dans votre coeur.Amitiés de la France. Georgette.

Iknow nothing can heal your sorrow but remembering how much love they both received from you while they were with you can be comforting; you were very important to them. They will always be a part of you just as people I have lost seem somehow to always stay in my heart.

I am so sorry for your loss, I too have been there and I know how hard it is.My mom lived with us for 17 yrs. after my dad passed. Last yr. she was diagnosed with lung cancer and we lost her in Feb. All I can say is that time does heal the hurt...but there will be days that are not good. We have also lost many pets over time and that too is difficult. I do have a thought that can help a little there. I always say to my DH that there is another waiting for our love ( a lot have been rescue or adopted ).
I hope this helps a little.Know that you have a lot of "cuties" sending prayers and love.
Hugs, Nadyne

I'm sorry to hear about your loss and both so suddenly. You will be in my thoughts.

I am sorry for your loss. May the arms of God envelope you in his love now. I know the impact the loss of 'family' members can have on a person. Be sure to take the time you need to heal. Don't forget to be sure to give extra 'loves' to the doggy you still have. A part of him/her is empty too. Hugs from Kathy in California,USA

May God be with you in such a difficult time for you and your family. May he bless and keep you.
My prayers,
Mary

I am so sorry for your loss of your Dad as well as your dog. I know what it is to lose your parents both of mine are gone and I have lost some very precious animals as well. Just thank God that it was fast. It is harder on us but better for them. I will keep you in my prayers. Arlene

I pray God for you from France
Alice

I am so sorry for your losses and pray that God gives you the necessary strength to get through the coming days. I will certainly will keep you in my prayers. Kay

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Your tears are mine! My God help you through these difficult times.

God bless
Marion in KY

Dear Deb,

No words can heal your pain right now, it takes a long time. The thing that finally helped me much later after loosing my mum and dad nearly at the same time, was that they had had their years and would want for me to enjoy my remaining years.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Hugs
Edith

Deb, I am so sorry for your losses. Hugs and kisses and we will pray for you all.

Deb, I am so sorry for your losses. You are in my prayers.

I feel for you and can relate as well; sorry for those love losses. Keep your head up high knowing you did everything you could. Hugs & Prayers for you and the family. Margie

I am so sorry to hear about these terrible events. You have my prayers.

I am sorry for your losses. Try to remember the good memories and pray that time will ease your pain.

I am really sorry for everything that had happend in a short period of time, my simphathy for you and all your family. God bless you.

Dear Deb
I am so sorry to hear about your sorrows. There are no words that can help, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Frannie

Iam so sorry, wish I had magic words, but there are none. Consider yourself hugged.

I feel for your loss.But I know in my heart that at this time your little dog and dad are on their journey together they are not alone. Your pain will ease in time as you know it will but have comfort in that they are together.

I am so sorry that you have lost your dad and also your little dog. I hope that each day gets a little easier for you.
Sarah.

So sorry to hear about your loss of family members. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs Lynn

I am so sorry to hear of your losses.Just remember your dad had the best care avaliable with you. You enjoyed him all to youeself for the two years. Try to remember the happy moments you share and the laughs. I know its hard to right now but every time you are sad try it. I also think maybe your dad took the dog with him on his journey. He was lonesome for your mom and the dog kept him company on his way to see your mom. You will be numb for awhile until it all sinks in. I know I have been there. You have a ton of support here and a lot of shoulders to cry on. WE ARE ALL HERE for you. Suzanne

I am so sorry. What a terrible day! Your heart and life have been torn apart. But we are here for you. We grieve with you.

I am so sorry for your losses. I do feel that your father and puppy are happy to have been able to go to Heaven together. I will pray for you and the rest of your family.

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. Please take the time to remember all the good times you had with them and remember God is good and will get you through. Prayers and thoughts are with you. Sara.

I am so sorry for your losses. I read what you wrote and my heart went out to you. I pray that you will be given the strength to get thru this time. Ruthie

Deb, I want to extend my condolences on your losses. May God grant you the strength during this difficult time in your life. Hugs, Mary

So sorry to hear about your loss. Will put you in my prayers. Love Marie

Deb, I am so sorry! My heart goes out to you and your husband. I will be praying for you. May God help you bear your pain.

I'm so sorry for you. I will pray that our God may comfort you deeply and wash away your tears.
He may lift up your faith to believe that everything happens is for your best, you can see now or later.
After this sickness of your father it would have been so hard to see him suffering, a big problem for elder people. Now he is at home with no more pain.
I even can understand how it is to loose a litte dog living in the family.
I had a simular white sweety and died for heart attack too early - it neede a while not to call her by name.
The Lord bless you with strenght and trust in His abylities to comfort you.
Bärbel

oh dear, my heart cries for you. so sorry to read this. many hugs, thoughts and prayers for you.

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So sorry to hear about your loss,my thoughts and prayers are with you.****

Sorry to hear of your loss. Never easy. I lost my mom Oct. 1/88, an uncle Nov.5/88 and my first husband Nov. 26/88 and a few cuddly dogs over time.
My mom had cancer, uncle had had a stroke a couple years before, and my husband had an anurism of the brain and it burst.
I've always thought my mom and my first husband have been looking over my shoulder and helping me when needed - it somehow gives you an uplift.
Sometimes it even feels like they are standing right beside me.
You will come through your sorrow and the pain will lessen with each day but will never be comepletly forgotten. They may no longer be physically with you but they are in your heart.
So take care during the next trying days and know everyone here is thinking of you and yours.

So sorry for you, it happened so suddently. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs Claude

Deb so sorry to hear your news. Hugs Yvonne

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I am so sorry for your losses ,I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling.May u get the strength to bear this pain.

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It is horrible to have this happen to you & yes things happen very quickly at times .Earlier this year a friend was deciding if she should put her dog to sleep or not ,a few days later we read her husbands obituary (he was alright when we spoke )in the paper .Also in that week her cat died.

Deb I am so sorry to hear of your losses. It has just been 7 months since I lost my Husband and the pain is still there. I look around sometimes and think he is still here and wants something. My prayers go out to you. Mildred

No happy time that passes
Is ever truly gone
If it leaves a loving memory
For looking back upon.

May your grief soon pass and allow you to see all the happy memories that enrich your life because of your love for your Dad and of course your doggy child.

This part of life is the most difficult thing we humans have to endure and none of us are immune from the pain it brings, we all share your pain and our love goes out to you.
Hugs and blessing, Meganne

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My prayers are with you.

I do not have words for you. I can only pray for you. May God be your strength now and in coming times.

There is nothing that anyone else hasn't said. I will be praying for you.

Deb, my heart goes out to you and your husband on the loss of your father and your little dog! I know words will not heal your broken heart at this time, but I want you to know that you can alway count on me to listen!
I like you had a hard time understanding how life could change in an instant after my father passed away 3 yr old to an unexpected heart attack! If there is anything I can do let me know! A prayer sent to you and your family!

I am so sorry this all happened to you, my Prayers are with you and your family in the loss of part of that family. Hugs, Judy

I am so sorry to hear of your loses, I can't imagine the pain you must feel in your heart....I will lift you up in prayer as only God can bring you through your season of sorrow.....know that many will be praying for you.

so sorry for your loses.

I'm so truely sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. Please know how much I care. Hugs, Marjorie ***

So sorry to hear, you are in my prayers.

Oh my Deb I am so sorry this is almost more than a person can take .I sure will be praying for you .
love and hugs Lena Mae

I feel for your pain and am so glad you have a safe place to share it. You will be in my prayers.
Kathy C

Dear Deb,

My heart is aching for you and your family. I will hold you up in prayer. Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you during this very sad time.

Love and blessings Chris

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I know your adjustments of your everyday will take some time. I just prayed that God would wrap his healing arms around you and give you peace. Trust him. He will be there for you.

I wish there was something I could say to take your pain away. I will remember you in my prayers. I pray that God will help ease your pain.

I am praying for you!!Carolyn

Our hearts go out to you and you will be in our thoughts. One loss is bad enough but both is just....can't find the words. Please take it one step at a time and hang in there.
Debra

So sorry for your loss.
Helen

Please accept these big hugs ((((BIG HUGS)))
so so sorry to hear xxxxxxxx

OH, Deb! I feel for you... God had been with you to give you forces.
Mind you: " Nobody dies, while it remains live in our heart ".
A comfort hug.
Dilceia

Deb, I know how hard it is right now. Just remember that time will ease the pain and enhance all of the wonderful memories. You know that there is a reason for everything and I would like to think that the two "buddies" are together in their eternal life. Your parents are back together and your little girl has gone to keep them company. Hold your Dad close to your heart but never forget that we will all be together again and in a much better place. I am sure that you would not have wanted your Dad to stay with you any longer if it was his time to go and be with our Heavenly Father. I wish for you a better tomorrow and an even better week next week and so on until the grief goes away. It will go away for our Lord is also wathching over you. You will wake up one morning soon and what you will remember the most will be the wonderful times you had with him..and..your furbaby also. I lost my beloved Gizzy (Pekingese) right before I had a horrible surgery that went bad and put me in a nursing home for 8 months. That was over 6 yrs ago and there are very few days that go by that I don't think of him and miss my little buddy. His pictures are still hanging around my desk and on the refridgerator along with some of the others that have continued to live in my heart. I have 2 now and I will love my girls just as much and when they are gone, if I am still here. I will still be looking at their pictures and thinking about their quirky little ways.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you but just as sure as it is going to rain again, the sun will soon follow. Keep your Mom and Dad close to your heart and in your memories as well as your furbaby. The Lord did not do this so you would feel pain and grief. It was their time to go be with their Father. Hugs and prayers, Linda

Dear One, I am so sorry to hear this for you. I will pray that you get through this as gentle as possible. Know that I feel for you and we will be here for you when ever. Pray to God for strength to help you cope. He is the hearer of prayer through Jesus.

So sorry to hear of your loss. Just keep in mind all of the good moments you have had with both.

I am deeply sorry for your losses. This is a lot to bear all at once.

My prayers are with you. I lost my mom when I was 21 of colon cancer, which had caused her colon to burst as well. I know that this is a tough time for your family, and want you to know that God will see you through it just as he has seen me through the same many years ago.

Deb, there is nothing that can be said or written that will take away the pain of the passing of your father or your doggy child. As I see you said - your father must have been surprised that Kelsey followed him to heaven, but more than likely there was a reason for that, too. They needed each other. I cannot comprehend the pain you must feel. But I can mourn with you and I can pray for you. And I can send this note of encouragement. Not that words fix anything or change anything, they do not provide relief or escape, but they can express my concern for you and - more importantly - they can speak of God's love for you. And it might be hard to see God's love at work in your life right now. You are in the shadow of the darkest days you may ever live, and the light of God's guiding hand may be hard to discern. But please be assured that it is there. Be assured that this is God's world and we are his children, and that he leads us and watches us, even as we pass through the valley of the shadow of death. There is no situation so bad that God cannot make it good. There is no wound so deep that God cannot make it whole. There is no pain so great that God cannot make it bearable. And there is no place so distant and alone that God cannot come to it to give us solace. I believe that your father did not die, I believe he was taken home. Taken home to the God who had only given him to you - for you. Our loved ones are gifts from God, his children shared with us, for an hour or a lifetime, with us as long as they need to be, away from him no longer than they need to be. Sent down here to do what they need to do, and then to go home. To a home where we will one day join them. Each of us has a different purpose in this life. Each of us has something different we are to get from life. We must have faith that it makes sense to God, and that it serves his purpose, that it is motivated by his perfect love for us and based on his perfect understanding of us. He knows what is best, and he knows that what seems catastrophic from the limited perspective of mortality may actually be a great gift from the perfect perspective of eternity. We may find out in heaven that our greatest trials in this life were in fact our greatest blessings. I know you will see your father again, it may seem like a long time to you - but to him - it will be an instant. He will greet you along with your mother, when it is your turn to pass. Your father has permanent place in the heart of your family not to torment you, but to remind you, to remind you that waiting on the other side will be your loving father and mother. I pray your faith, will be enough to hold you until that day. May you look to God for guidance and direction - for the next little while - you will be in a haze of uncertainty - please know - there are a few of us - that have recently walked this same path and may or may not be completely through our grieving process - but will understand the sorrow and the pain that you are going though. Please don't hesitate to ask for some help.

I do know how a life can change in an instant.

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by sarahrose 19 Jul 2010

Thank you for sharing this.

Deb, I am so sorry for all that has happened to you and know what it is to lose a father. Please know that we (Cuties) are lifting you up in prayer and I pray that you will feel God's loving arms around you during these difficut times. We know God is in control and He will see you through all your sadness. Stay strong in the Lord and tell Him how you feel and He will give you the peace that passes all understanding. His ways are not ours, but in time we will understand. Love in Christ, Judy

My prayers are with you in this time of loss. My own belief is that heaven is a wonderful place, free of pain and all things disagreeable. I pray that you Father is there and that you little dog is in a better place, also.
Try to reach out to others who may need your help, as this will help you through this time of grief.
Love and hugs,
Jacqueline

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Oh my God. I am so sorry. This is most certainly a terrible day for you. I wish I could make you all better, but I know just too well no one can right now. I pray that the good and funny memories take over your heart and push the sad onbes away.

I'm sorry to read about your losses...loosing a loved one is terribly hard but 2 within such a short time is hard to endure..but with god's help you'll make it thru this horrific time...God never gives us more then we can handle but he sure can push it close... Prayers for you and all involved from all of us...

I am so sorry for your losses. Just think for your father, he didn't linger. I think that is much worse. It is hard at any time to lose a parent, but when it's fast it's harder, the same as with your dog. Just keep thinking it was better for them. I know everyone here will pray for you as will I. Arlene

I am so sorry for your loss, prayers to you and your family.Trust the Lord.

Deb I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Just know you and your husband are in our prayers. Nancy

I am very sorry. My prayers are with you.

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSSES,IT IS HARD TO LOSE 2 LOVED ONES,I WILL PRAY FOR HEALLINING FOR THE VOID LEFT BEHIND.I KNOW HOW IT FEEL TO LOSE ONE YOU LOVE. TIME IS A WOUNDERFULL HEALER,IT WILL EVENTULEY DULL THE ACK,, BUT YOU STILL HAVE THE MEMORIES,, SORRY,,I CANT BE THERE FOR YOU ,I WILL UP LIFT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND,,LOVE LUCY GOD BLESS

I am so sorry for you lose. I will praying for you .

Oh goodness how sad.My heart goes out to you. Trust the Lord to see you through and know how happy your father must be seeing your mother again. Know that he will always be in your heart. I know it is difficult and I hope your special memories of your father and doggy child will later make you smile instead of cry. (((hugs)))

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by debswebster 19 Jul 2010

I did have a little smile, as I imagined my Dad saying, "Hey Kelsey what are you doing here??" As she followed him up to heaven. They were very close and I know wondered why he wasn't here. :(

God loves you hun so much ..I know he has his arms around you holding on..

Thinking of you at this time!

Thinking of you

Deb so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayer will be with you at this time.

Deb, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know there are many here praying for you, and you can always find someone here to talk to. Will keep you in prayer as you adjust to not having your parents and puppy around.

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Thinking of you

I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your father and your little friend. God bless you.

so sorry for all your sadness.

"Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted."

Matthew 5:4

Deb, no words can ever begin to describe your pain, let alone take it away. I've lost both parents, my brother, 2 husbands and countless fur kids, so know my heart is with you in your losses. I hope you have friends and family to comfort you in this awful time. Big hugs, Marji

I am so sorry for you lose. I will be thinking of you and praying you and your family. Deepest condolences.