Apparently his moms heart is 95percent blocked and is too weak for any kind of surgery and she has pneumonia. He has worked to get his father into a nursing home as he hasn't been able to take care of himself since the medicine incident. Right now my husband is driving the six hours back home (should be home around midnight 1am). He is distraught about the events of the past few days and very tired as his father fell Tuesday night and he has had very little sleep trying to care for his dad and visits to the hospital. Asking for a prayer for his parents and for my husband to have a safe journey home. Thank you as the power of prayer for the many cuties having a rough time of things is endearing to us all.

We got home about 8:30pm Friday night from the funeral so that I could start baking the pies and then we had our Thanksgiving dinner on Saturday since my sister and her family had drove the eleven hours from Florida to be with us. She had a ham dinner waiting for us so that was wonderful. My sister asked my husband if he was going to unpack his bag as he left it by the door now that his father had passed and he said "No and I'm not even going to take my suit to the cleaners as I don't know when I will need it again." His mother is still very fragile and before his father passed he told me he felt there maybe two funerals before the end of the year. We were proud that our son was one of the pall bears after they asked him and after the furnal they gave the American flag to him. Will try for some normalcy as best we can.

I have not kept up with reading about your parents in law, so it is very sad to hear that your father in law has died. Keep remembering all the good times with him over the years. Take care of your selves as well.

I am glad to hear that the service for your FIL went well - too bad it was so cold that your MIL had to stay in the car with the two little ones - but she shouldn't be out in the cold - in her fragile shape. I will be praying for the family and especially your MIL. *4U

My Prayers are with your family!

My prayers to you and your family.
Cindy B

About 2am Wednesday Nov 24th my husbands father passed away. He was 90 and had lived a very long life. On Monday the hospital sent him back to the nursing home with Hospice and said they didn't think he would make it through the week. We were hoping to get through Thanksgiving holiday and were very aware of his time left. His mom remains with Hospice care in the home and the news of her husbands death has devastated her as she is not doing very well at all today. My husband left to be with his family and picked our son up at the university to go with him. Our daughter only gets one day paid for the funeral so we will leave thursday for the funeral on Friday morning. Have decided to have our Thanksgiving on Saturday when things can be more normal. It helps to have cuties to talk with when everyone is away and I'm home alone. I want to thank all the cuties that have given prayers.

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by shirlener88 25 Nov 2010

I am so sorry to hear this - I know that you all have been struggling with if he or your MIL would go - during the Holiday. I will be praying for all of you dear. *4U

by haydebug 25 Nov 2010

Big Hug to you! And prayers sent your way!

Still keeping your inlaws in my prayers.
Alice.

Update Friday Nov 19, 6:25pm: His father has not been eating and down to about 105 lbs. and has been admitted to ICU. With an DNR order I'm not sure what the hospital can do for him. My husband decided not to travel tonight. Will see how things are in the morning.

How hard this is ... especially during the holidays and having to travel a long distance in bad weather. All your dear husband can do is, to do his best. I will continue to play for your whole family.

Update Thursday November 18: My husband and I were just talking about him going to go spend some time with his mom and give his sister a break but he wouldn't feel good about the personal cleaning of his mom (bed pan, bathing, etc). He also just spent his first four days working after no job for seven months. It is a difficult decision for him I can't make. His sister reports their mom is a slight bit stronger than when she got home on Monday. Hope it don't sound bad but he said he hopes she can live at least through the holidays. We do know now that the bottom two lobes of her heart are not functioning and the upper two are 95% blocked.

Praying for all of you. It's very difficult when you are so far away to care for them.

Prayers heaven bound for you, hubby and his parents. It is so hard when it comes time to take care of the ones who used to take care of you. I hope he finds a good place for his Dad so he will have less to worry about. Prayers for his Mom that God's will be done for her. Bless you for taking care of hubby who is in such a difficult spot right now. Hubby is blessed to have you and your support which I'm sure he needs right now.
May God and his angels enfold you and keep you all in His loving arms.
Meri

I am really sorry to hear all this, will keep you all in my prayers. All I can say is that Hospice is great & they do good work. I am a nurse and worked with geriatric for about 15yrs. This does happen and it is very difficult for the family to deal with. As I say I will keep you in my prayers. Arlene

My dear - it seems that the plate is loaded - doesn't it? I really will be praying for your MIL and your husband - this is a tough time for all of you - they all need to have a little talk and get things straight - allowing her whatever diginity that she needs during this time - knowing what her wishes are - giving in to the needs of those left behind - to what hers are - having some peaceful hours or days to say her goodbye's. How I wished I could give you all a big hug. *4U

Update Monday November 15th 11pm: Earlier today his mother was brought home by ambulance under Hospice care. I appreciate all your caring thoughts and your prayers that you so graciously give.

Father God we come against this spirit of confusion. What the enemy has meant for harm, you turn it into a BLESSING. You said, in your word that all things work for your good. Lord, allow you good to come forth. Lord allow your will to come forth in this situation. You are too wise to every make a mistake and to just to FAIL. Lord you are a heart regulator and a doctor who has NEVER lost a patient. I speak forth healing and life. Allow peace to flow like a mighty river in a time such as this. I thank you in advance for the VICTORY and it is so in Jesus Name, AMEN!

In His Service,
Monica

I will remember your husband and his parents in prayer also.

Praying for everyone. This has to be difficult. Hugs Angie

Update Saturday November 13th 1:14pm: His Mom has been given antibiotic for the lung infection and morphine for pain. The Doctor say if she stays the same that Monday they will send her home under Hospice care.

Thinking of all of you at what must be a dreadful time

This really is terribly bad mews. Will keep all of you in my prayers and thoughts. May God be with you in this trying time.

So sorry to hear about this. Being a nurse & geriatrics my field of expertise I have seen this happen more times than once. I have often recommended brightly colored pill boxes(different colors for ea._ Someone else needs to fill the boxes with their meds, the boxes are inexpensive & come in a myriad of colors. I like a real bright green a red. As we get older we don't see as well or handle tiny pills well & you children don't notice it you are just so use to mom & pop caring for themselves. I encourage all to check on this often to see that there is no difficulty because this happens so easily & can be life threatening. I do so hope & pray they will get better & your hubby maintains his strength & peace of mind to help his parents.

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by asterixsew 13 Nov 2010

My mum had what was called a Dosset box. The chemist would fill it for a weeks medication. Tablets were then in compartments for each day and when on the day they were to be taken. All of this was sealed so if anything was taken out of order it was very obvious.

by asterixsew 13 Nov 2010

My mum had what was called a Dosset box. The chemist would fill it for a weeks medication. Tablets were then in compartments for each day and when on the day they were to be taken. All of this was sealed so if anything was taken out of order it was very obvious.

by capoodle 13 Nov 2010

We did get them the different colored boxes and had them not put them in the same place. Her heart was already blocked when that happened they just didn't catch it the two days they kept her for observation. I know in assistant living they have locked up medication boxes that the staff gives you your medications but they were still living on their own when this happened. My husband and I have already separated our meds and keeping in different places. I put my in a zippered cosmetic case as we travel often and now I can just grab the bag that has all my meds in it and go.

Will pray!!!CAROLYN

Update Nov. 12, 2010 8:30pm est. His Mom was returned to the ICU and a DNR has been posted. My husband was with his Mom on two occasions when she was somewhat alert so she knows that he had been there. Found out his sister's drama was more than he could take and that along with being overly tired and with pain in his back (he has arthritis of the spine) was why he came home. His sister is keeping him updated and really there isn't much more that can be done with a 95 percent blocked heart.

I will be praying for your husband and his parent and you....may God give you all peace even during these trying times....Gods blessings Janet.

will pray, hope the lord sends a special angel to protect them.

Anita, I'm sorry you are going through all this. I'm having to assist my parents also. It is very vexing and stressful. Will keep you ALL in prayer. God's mercy is everlasting...

I am praying for you all. I have been there and understand how stressful it is. Suzanne

I am praying for you all. I have been there and understand how stressful it is. Suzanne

My heart and prayers go out to youand your husband and his family at this time. Hopefullt things will improve and resolve.
Hugs Diane

I am sorry to hear of this predicament. My prayers are with all of you. Hugs, Mary

All of 4 of you are on my list. I am so sorry you are going through such a scary stressful time.

I'm relieved as my husband arrived home very tired and safe. The last hour of the drive is the most dangerous as the curvy mountain roads with few guardrails can have patches of black ice and the temperatures are hovering around 34 degrees. There also is no cell phone signal for about 40 miles so that is a worry. Thanks to all the cute family for taking a moment to give us a prayer.

We have some powerful prayer warriors on this site - I am sure they will join me in prayer for your husband and his parents. Please be strong for him - he needs you at this time, too. *4U

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by capoodle 12 Nov 2010

Have been nervous ever since he said he had to come home as I know how little rest he has had. He had just got to work on Monday when he got the call about his mom. That would have been the first day of work in seven months. The personnel at the new job understands about the situation and he going to be starting his first day again after he takes some rest.

So sorry to read this. They will be in my prayers. Hugs Yvonne

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by capoodle 12 Nov 2010

Thank you for keeping them in your prayers.

Your husband and his parents are in my prayers.

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by capoodle 12 Nov 2010

His parents are in two different places now and getting the best possible care for their failing health. It is just harder when both are in this downward spiral at the same time. Thank you for your prayers.

Oh my goodness, what a time you and your husband are having. Praying for his parents and that he has a safe journey home.

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by capoodle 12 Nov 2010

He called many times on his trip home and took a 15 minute nap at a rest stop. Just made me very nervous until he arrived home safe. Thank you for your prayers.