to hospital yesterday with hip pain so severe she could not walk, she is also plagued with skin cancers that have to keep being removed. She has been on a skin treatment that has burned her and causing her enormous discomfort. She is a very proud and stubborn women and is insisting that she be discharged from hospital so that she can go home and take care of her husband. They have applied for home help but the assessment was done on the phone. They were not given any assistance. I am very worried about her and I think she needs to stay in hospital for a bit of a rest. I think that her husband can manage better than she thinks he can. Please pray that she and he get the care and help that they need.

Update, My MIL is still in hospital and they still don't know what is wrong with her. Her husband, who is not my husbands father has been home by himself. The social worker is concerned and wants to put him in a nursing home for respite. Now we don't have a lot of room here because my two sons are here at the moment and we have a two story house. So he would have to sleep on a sofa bed in the family room because he can't do the stairs. The thing is that it seems crazy to me to put him in a nursing home when there is a very experienced Registered Nurse (me) right here and I am home all day. Now I am not saying I am champing at the bit to look after a grumpy old man, but family is family. Right? My husband is not at all keen on the idea. I guess it is up to him at the end of the day. All I can do is offer.

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by asterixsew 19 Nov 2010

Good luck with what ever you choose

by fannyfurkin 19 Nov 2010

I don't get a choice, all I can do is offer my help, my husbands family will be calling the shots. I think they sort of blame him for her being sick now. They (my husband and his sister) are a bit emotionally challenged.

by fannyfurkin 19 Nov 2010

OH that was a bit mean wasn't it, but it is sort of true.

by shirlener88 20 Nov 2010

The fact is - you offered - if the family - doesn't want it to happen - they will put in him in a nursing home - of coarse - if you care for him - you should make sure that the whole family is ok with it - just pray about it dear - God knows best.

Still praying for your MIL and the family.

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by fannyfurkin 19 Nov 2010

Thank you Shirlene, you are always in my prayers too. How is Rick doing?

by shirlener88 20 Nov 2010

He is having more trouble than we first thought. Time will tell.

Alice, things usually work for the best we know that but right now she is in the best place. Love and hugs Sally

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by fannyfurkin 19 Nov 2010

Thanks Sally, she is still in hospital now we have to try to take care of her husband, I am happy to do that but the decision is really up to my husband.

Dear Alice,

Your family are in my prayers and thoughts. I do hope she gets to stay a bit longer - she is in the best of hands there. I can't believe an assessment was done over the phone - we had the ACAT come out to my parent's place and it takes hours!!!!!!!! So please try and get some home assistance our hospital bent over backwards to help my Mum and Dad.

Love and blessings Chris, Newcastle, Australia

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by fannyfurkin 19 Nov 2010

I was stunned when they did it over the phone but the fact is that there is not enough funding put into aged care especially as we have an aging population. It is a real worry.

Alice, hope your MIL is doing better. How have you been? I've been keeping you in prayer also.

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by fannyfurkin 18 Nov 2010

They have kept her in hospital, I have not had an update today, but yesterday she was confined to bed rest and they still did not know what the problem was.

I will be praying for your MIL and your FIL, praying for healing and that they will get the help they need...blessings Janet

Alice, I will be praying for your MIL and her much younger husband - it sounds to me - like she is where she should be and that they might just get the help that the two of them need to care for him - while she is there - it is a good thing that your husband knows his business and that he has stepped in - please keep us updated. Prayers do change things. *4U

With time things will work out with your health care. Prayers have been said for your family.

It looks like they will be keeping her in hospital for a bit longer and they are running more tests. I hope they find what is causing her pain and that it is treatable. Thank you all for your prayers.

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by shirlener88 16 Nov 2010

another prayer answered.

Prayer for your family!

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by fannyfurkin 15 Nov 2010

Thank you.

Are you able to contact the agency and try to have them come to the home. I can't believe that is acceptable to do an assessment without actually seeing the people. Same on them.

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by fannyfurkin 15 Nov 2010

My husband has been to the hospital this morning and spoken to the social worker. He is an RN (and a bully) so he has made it quite clear that she needs some assistance.

All will be remembered in my prayers. Hope things get better soon.

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by fannyfurkin 15 Nov 2010

Thank you.

Alice, consider it done. Hopefully all will turn out well. Mary

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by fannyfurkin 15 Nov 2010

Thank you.

I pray for you all. Hope everything goes well . Suzanne

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by fannyfurkin 15 Nov 2010

Thank you.