know about I'm sorry but i cannot give it to you. I would hate for someone to ask where did you get that, have them say Beverly made it. And they would say "well no wonder it looks like ####. " Anyone else like this?

Exactly!

I'm afraid that we are all our own worst critiques! Can we never be happy with what we have accomplished? I think that after all these years (I just turned 50) I think that I am getting better with this & learning to "Not sweat the small stuff"! I gave a baby quilt to my dsil & I stressed over tiny flaws for weeks until I had it just sew! When she opened it she was truly overjoyed! She was full of tears & thought that it was the most incredably beautiful thing that she had ever been given! To me it was a real EYE OPENER! Sew I think that we should all learn "Not to sweat the small stuff" Life is hard enough & really if that's all we have to worry about then life is good!

I can always find something wrong! It's a good job that the recipients can't.

Well, count me in. I guess we all want to take pride in what we do. I don't think a person without a lot of patience would enjoy sewing. Or at least they would develope patience sooner or later. (maybe) I love painting and knitting and I'm the same way with in these things too. My DH tells me when to quit on a painting because I keep tring to improve on it. Drive myself crazy sometimes! Hugs, Judy

Count me in, unfortunately I am the same way, lol! My husband always tells me I'm being to nit picky! He says if I have to point it out becuase he can't see it to forget about it. I try to follow his direction as he does autobody repair and says he'd never get anything dsone if he did that, lol!

Well LOng ago I realized I'm not perfect and neither
is my machine. So I do the best job I can do.

I only recently started giving gifts because I feel
they are good enough now and I keep getting oohs and ahs and they can't beleive I made them.

I keep saying its not me its the machine! LOL

Recently I gave my mother in law an embroidered cell
phone holder decorated with her favorite flowers and
daisies and I was scared to death for some reason she wouldn't like and she was thrilled and is going
to use it every day!

So the results of happiness and joy over the love we
pour into things for friends and families is the most important thing and in the end the LOVE we make
and receive is what counts!

So relax, enjoy, and remember we are our own worst
critics.

Bev.....as you can see by the response, we all have the same monster creeping around in our heads!! The best way to get over it is to set up a booth at a local craft fair. My first time, I was literally sick, I just knew everyone would hate everything, well let me tell you it was the best ego-booster one can get when people start buying and telling you how wonderful your things are. To this day the "flaw monster" still lives in my head, but he is a lot quieter!! We all need to take pride in our art...me, included!!

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by bevintex 23 Feb 2011

That little monster, he never goes away does he. he may be quiet but he is always lurking in the back of my mind. I do get my stuff done just not as fast if i weren't so critical. As long as I'm having fun I'm happy.
bev

Great.... so now not only are we all Cute Addicts we are all Obsessive Compulsive as well... I think I'm seeing the trend.... Great Minds are all alike!! I am so OCD it isn't even funny - I'm even that way about my guest room when my mother comes to visit and she lives in town! She's seen me and my house at the worst and I want my guest room to be perfect (rolling eyes here). Now the rest of my house can be trashed - but the guest room has to be perfect. Mom and I went to a class where we were supposed to make a purse in a day... well she hasn't sewn in about 5 years and wasn't familiar with my machine I brought for her and was getting really frustrated so she started doing all the pinning and I started doing all the sewing (this is what we do at home when she helps me with quilts too). What's worse than 1 OCD person trying to make 2 purses in a day..... 2 OCD people trying to make 2 purses in a day!! The teacher kept coming over saying "it doesn't have to be perfect".... mom and I were pinning, sewing, ironing....(repeat) Those bags HAD to be perfect and we weren't giving in!! (note to self.... gotta finish those bags) When we left class - we really didn't have much to finish. When I got home with them - I realized they were perfect for embroidering on - so I ripped hers apart to embroider on as a surprise... I just hate pinning and now I have to pretty much redo her entire purse. I wish I had Superhero eyes that would just throw pins at stuff and put them in perfectly every time.

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by bevintex 23 Feb 2011

Funny. People like us can drive instructors crazy. Maybe I'm Normal after all. LOL
Bev

I am right there with you, my daughter always say MUM if they do not know how, how will they know you have made a mistake...but it has to be right or not at all...Sally

I am the same way, that is why I have not tried to sell anything. I have to point out any mistakes to my family and friends. I have a friend that I did things for as gifts and she wants me to do a bunch and get a booth at the flea market this summer but I am hesitant to even try.

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by bevintex 23 Feb 2011

i have sold a few things but most are giveaways to family and friends. i just get the joy of creating something not everyone else has. that's what I love about machine embroidery. i'm proud to say I made it.
Bev

You are so right. I have a longarm quilting machine but can't seem to get to doing for others. I worry and fuss over how it's going to come out and if they are going to like it. Guess I'll never make any money at it. :-) Like they say, we are our own worse critics. Guess we have to teach ourselves that we are in no way perfect and others shouldn't expect us to be. Just try to enjoy and have fun. That's the main thing.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

I do have alot of fun with my embroidery machine, it is just when it is for someone else I have to have it just so. I'm glad i'm not the only one who feels this way.
Bev

Bev: You are not Weird, or maybe I also am weird. I have the same experience. I will not give something to someone unless I am 110% satisfied. I have unsewn many times 2 and three times the same stitches. I am so picky on things that I make. I think we all are in the same CLUB. I have done some projects 3 times before I am satisfied. Cindy B.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

Welcome to the club. There are quite a few members here. LOL
Bev

We are definitely our own worse critics. I have stitched a logo on a shirt and if it is even 1 millimeter out ( I think that is less than a 16th of an inch) I will take the stitches out and start over even if my husband says it looks ok (he is the fussiest person I have ever met). I really don't want anyone to find anything wrong with what I do. I look at it with magnifying glasses on to make sure it is perfect. When I test stitch my designs that I digitize I get a bit flustered because I photograph them with a extremely good quality camera and it pick up every little detail. My camera sees things that the human eye just can't. But there is not much I can do about that I guess.
But when I did my digitizing course I was advised to not try to be to perfect or you will drive yourself insane.
Alice.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

And i thought it was just me. Glad to hear others feel the same way. I don't think I'll outgrow it , been this way too long. LOL
Bev

I also feel the same. It has to be just right. Like the 3 little bears. DeVon

I'm like that too. I never liked sewing for someone else because I'm so fussy. I finally did some sewing for someone I was recommended to because the lady needed something made like what she had with longer sleeves and I have always made my own patterns. She was impressed with what I did and talked me into doing more and had shown the first dress to a lady in the fabric store she shopped at and got told she didn't have just someone who sewed, but a real seamstress.
Now, if there is a flaw, but nobody would notice it unless I told them I don't worry about it if it's for myself - but have to make it perfect if it's for someone else.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

the same with me. If it's not right I would rather keep it for myself and make another until I did get it right.
Bev

Were you born in September. People tell me it is because I was born in September. People born under the star sign of Libra are supposed to be perfectionists. Don't know about that but I am fussy about getting things right, getting things centred, getting things even etc... But this is me and I am not weird (Or I don't think I am). LOL. Marg

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

No born in Feb. i just have to have it my way or not at all.
Bev

I'm the same way Bev! My DH gets so disgusted because I try to make everything perfectly. Oh well, it's the way that I am!...Barb

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

Good, I'm glad I'm not alone. LOL
bev

I use to be this way, but I have lived too long now, so if you are lucky I will get it done and it will be done well, but now if it is not just perfect, I know they can't do better or I wouldn't be making it for them....so they better be happy with what they do get as my embroidery work just doesn't get given to everyone.....learned this while doing quilting projects and quilts......

I'm the same way, it's like it Has to be perfect! My hubby saids I'm a perfectionist but I disagree with him! If there is a tiny booboo and nobody else could see it, I gave it, but it took me a long time to get to that point.
Carol

While it does bother me a bunch when I have a flaw I still give the project....I use to point out the flaw and people would say I thought that was part of the design or they would say they didn't care to them it looks great....so now I give the gift and don't even mention the flaw....of course if it was a major flaw I would not give it.

I'm the same way. I sell at the markets, and have a few of my items in a local store. I take a lot of pride in my work, and it has to be nice.

That goes the same with embroidery designs. I'm getting very picky where I buy from. Most people take the time to do very nice work, and then you get your few who just pop them out and don't care how they stitch.

I would feel terrible if I gave, or sold something that was not good.

I always feel the quality of work reflects back on the person who does it. Good, or Bad.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

I take it as a compliment if someone sees something i have made and they want one. I think I am my own worst critic. If I'm shopping at a craft fair I also expect to buy a quality item, not something that was thrown together and has a huge price tag.
Bev

I am just the same. I am always worried that something will go terribly wrong when sewing for someone else. I have just embroidered some hand towels for someone and I got myself into quite a state. They turned out beautifully.

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by bevintex 22 Feb 2011

My projects turn out fine, maybe i am just a worrier. I take pride in what I make and want it to be just so.
Bev