My recently widowed sister has been staying with me. She has watched my machine before but yesterday I made her use it herself and today I took her into the dealer to see what else was available. After 2 hours in the shop, she bought a Janome 200e. This is an entry level embroidery only machine. (She already has quite an advanced sewing machine.)
We've spent the last couple of hours playing with it and she has just packed it up and set off back home with it. I hope she will still be able to remember how to do everything tomorrow!
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Well Sue, Yes you have done the correct thing. I'm sure she is also going to be addicted to cute, won't take her long!!
Hugs Yvonne
132773Did the same for my mother when she was widowed mid-life; she is now 90 and still going. She still tells me it was the best gift she could ever have received and, it helped her fill the long days- hobbies are a great remedy! Good idea; you helped her more than you know.
18403Way to go Sue!!!If she wasn't interested she would not have bought the machine. You did the right thing and you created a stronger bond between the two of you. When you want to spend time together, there so many things you can do together from shoping to shows and seminars. You can also get together for "creative" weekends where you go to one of your homes with your machines and work on a project or even creat challenges for her to help her learn. And her own personal tutor! How lucky is that?
22354The right thing? YES! This will give her something to do when she is feeling alone. She knows her way around her machine so finding her way on the new one should be fine and you and cute are always here to help with any problems she might encounter. Totally the right thing to do! Congrats for adding something new to your sister's life!
33580I think it is the right thing. She has to deal with being alone sometime. I went throught it and the first is the hardest but it really does get easier with time. If she has something that will interest her as well that should help.
48168Sue you are getting some brilliant answers should you still be wondering if you did the right thing.
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115776You have definitely done the right thing. Keeping busy occupies the mind. Sure, she will still grieve but having something to do helps a lot.
27028Well congratulations with this step. I fully agree with loosie. And she wont forget her lesson with you. I am sure she is only a phone call away.
18960Yes, yes, yes, yes you have done the right thing. Once your sister has mastered the machine she will be so grateful to you. The machine will help her cope I am sure. I have never had a lesson although I bought my machine new. If I can work it out anyone can. LOL. Marg
24826Sue - she will be absolutely fine. I bought my embroidery machine second hand. I have never had a lesson but with a bit of trial and error I think I have done fairly well. You are a phone call away and there is always Cute......
255054The ultimate decision was hers - you didn't take the credit card out of her purse or sign the check did you? Hehehe. She will love you for it - as anyone of us would - had we been your sister and you opened up our world to embroidery. Can't wait to see what she makes - please help her with the PC, too and let us know - when she joins CUTE and we will welcome her with open arms.
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211079First off - if she has an advanced sewing machine, then she already has a love of sewing and how things come together. Machine emb. is another part of that and it gives a lot of joy watching something stitch out - come to life.
It will also be something she can do to fill the void. It's something new - going forward.
And lastly, I'm sure if she really couldn't have managed it, she wouldn't have spent the money.
She probably knew it was a good thing to help her through the next little while and also have something to show for it, therefore well worth the investment.
I can relate as I was a widow at 37.
Cheer up - it's all good.
38558This is not only the right thing, but it is a great thing you have done for your sister!
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62461How Lucky you are to have a Sister who is interested in the same things as you. I am sure if she has any problems - you are only a phone call away.
29801I think you did a wonderful thing, introducing her to something new will help her with her loss. As to the expense people send more on grief counselling; in the long run you may have saved her a ton of money!
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17214Of course you did, she will have lots of fun with it, and if she does not remember what to do with it tomorrow at least she has you to help her. How many of us bought our first machine when we had no one to help and the internet was not what it is today, with all of the info on it. I think it is excellent that she has an experienced embroiderer to guide her. She will be an expert in no time and will be making her own awesome projects.
19430You did good Sue! What a thoughtful sister you are and I'm sure your sister will get lots of enjoyment out of it. Once things have settled for her, she will hopefully get much more involved with the Machine Embroidery world, and with your assistance I'm sure she will cope with a computer too.
Us CUTE members will always help anyone out.
Love and blessings Chris
234507It will be great for her to have something new to take pleasure in and have an interest in.. as well as being able to bounce of each other with ideas :-)
fabulous all round I think
Big hugs - Maria xx
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25169My only complaint if I was her is that she has only a small hoop!! But what a great sis. I talked my BF into a machine and she lives in IL and I live in FL!! She bought the 350e!! She later bought the 11000SE! Then so did I!!!
Judy/ ALexgrandma
8047It sounds like you did everything right. I think sewing is one of the best therapies there is. And you have something to show for your efforts.Add cuties to it and you have a great afternoon.
6596excellent sounds like me so i write it all in my little black book lol carolyn
360666Brilliant news Sue. Have you also introduced her to us here at Cute too? I wish her many happy years with her new embroidery machine
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115776I'm wondering what you are questioning with regard to your actions. You spent time with your sister, showed her your toys, encouraged her to use them, got her excited, and helped her find one of her own. I think what you did was wonderful.
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by justonlyme
04 Aug 2011
Loss is a very difficult animal to overcome. Perhaps you have opened some doors for her to help with that process. If SHE is happy, then you probably did the right thing. I know that getting my embroidery machine, while expensive, opened up a whole new world to me!
16302You did good. Having a "toy" to play with will help take her mind off her loss. If she finds she really likes ME she can upgrade to a fancier machine later. I started with an entry level embroidery only machine too - that way I was not out too much if I really did not use it alot (I already had a pretty advanced sewing machine too - that was less than a year old at that time). I am betting she will love it as she gets going on her own - just like the rest of us cuties!
11271I think you really did great! Thoughtful and if she needs help, she can call you! Hugs to you both! Judy
92391You did a wonderful thing, did you tell her about Cute? She would be most welcome here
Bev
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by justonlyme
04 Aug 2011
When she gets started with embroidery and looking for designs, then the computer will become her friend. I know. I've helped lots of people go from not knowing how to type at all to wanting a computer/internet connection where ever they happen to be. Doesn't take that long either!! Plus, old dogs CAN learn new tricks, contrary to popular belief. :)
by fannyfurkin
04 Aug 2011
justonlyme makes a good point,old dogs can learn new tricks. maybe you will be helping her buy a new computer and finding a faster internet connection as well. hehe.
67271You had a great idea to distract her. I was widowed at 22 and know what it is. It is very difficult, because the missed us very depressed. A sewing machine is a good distraction when the person likes. May God protect her and give her comfort.
A hug for his sister.
Kisses and congratulations on your healing touch.I have a Janome 300E
46919You mean did you do the right thing in creating another embroidery addict? Hee hee hee. Do you mean the Janome 300E? I have this machine, if you do, and it's just wonderful. It is an easy machine to use, not fussy about which thread you use, has the larger hoop size as well. That's the biggest problem I've heard people say, that they only have the 4x4 and wish they had known to get a machine that takes the 5x7. This 300E will do wonderful embroidery, although there's no bobbin sensor, which for a doof like me is sometimes a problem, sewing out a design without bobbin thread doesn't work very well. It doesn't cut threads, but I have scissors. It has a needle threader, so blind ol' me doesn't have to worry about that. I think she'll have a ball with it! My wonderful husband bought mine for me about 7 months before he died, and the long winter he was first gone, that machine, software, and Cute kept me going. It will give her something else to focus on besides her loss. So, I suppose you'll be forgiven for 'enabling' another 'addict' in the long run, hee hee hee. Tell her to sign up here, if she forgets anything you told her, she'll get lots of help. Hugs, Marji
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by spendlove
04 Aug 2011
It is a 200e which has a 5.5 inch square hoop and much nicer built in designs than on my MC9700! Also it uses a memory stick which is nice and easy.
33451A crafter encouraging another's addiction is "normal"! (So, feel confident it was the right thing to do!!) LOL She will soon be wanting a more advanced machine with all "the bells and whistles"!
An embroidery machine is just the thing to help her think on other things, rather than her recent loss. A helpful sister you are!!
Angel
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