by lique 12 Mar 2012

Is it me or are there so much more personal comments made on cuties lately. I have noticed that in the last few months there are people taking one side or the other, there are statements made that hurt other people's feelings. Can we please go back to embroidery and crafts!

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by marjialexa Moderator 12 Mar 2012

I've taken to not coming a lot because of this very problem. Please, can we keep it on embroidery, sewing, crafting, whatever, and keep all the jokes, babies, prayer requests, etc. in Personal? That's why Veronika gave us the Personal tab in the first place, the Public Community was designed to be of help to others with embroidery & craft related posts. It would make life easier when you don't have a lot of time, but still want to see if you can be of help with a question someone has. And sniping and hurtful comments have no place anywhere. There are people here from all over the world, literally, whose first language is not necessarily American English. Maybe we could give all Cuties a break, give the benefit of the doubt instead of getting knickers in a twist, and let your fingers take a walk around some nice fabric or designs to cool off before firing off comments that may be hurtful or misunderstood. Life's hard enough, embroidery shouldn't have to be. There are days when my life is too hard to listen to any more pain, I just want to help somebody with a design problem. And those seem to be getting kind of lost again. Could we keep it simple, please? I want to come here to relax, not get my nerves jangled. I really do care for all of you, and miss you when I'm not here. I love keeping up with your happenings in Personal, and I do whenever I'm here. Spring's coming, maybe the Seasonal Affective Disorder will let up a bit? Hugs, Marji

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caroldann by caroldann 12 Mar 2012

I have wondered how and if I should reply to lique's post several times today. Marji, I couldn't have said it better. Thank you. Hugs..Carol

dragonflyer by dragonflyer 12 Mar 2012

Amen...I so agree that personal comments (as you stated above) should all be relagated to the Personal Tab...It sure would be a lot easier to focus on embroidery issues, questions, etc....

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by janetedna 12 Mar 2012

Yes please. Jan

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree.

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by sdrise 12 Mar 2012

I agree Embroidery and crafts ! Suzanne

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree.

caroldann by caroldann 12 Mar 2012

And I'll second that. Hugs..Carol

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by darmoola 12 Mar 2012

I agree! I've noticed some people are very defensive without gathering all the information. Some comments have been mean. I think this is a good idea or at least if someone has something to say...make the critism constructive.

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree.

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by asterixsew Moderator 12 Mar 2012

Lique, thanks for your comments and to all others for their comments too. As I put below there are many with limited time here and it can take a age to work through postings that are have no embroidery/craft element in at all. When I have time I do read the Personal section

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree

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by sandyqueen 12 Mar 2012

Tis the time of year in many parts of the world where Seasonal Affective Disorder hits. This disorder is due to a lack of sunshine, vitamin D levels get lower. It is a form of depression that usually goes away with more sunshine. My sister sits under a sunlamp which also helps. Another thing about worldwide is words have different meaning even in different parts of a country. Hopefully most will consider this and cut Cuties a little slack. Final say on this site belongs to the owner.

S

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by spendlove Moderator 12 Mar 2012

It would be great if everyone used the community section for "on-topic" posts and the rest went in personal or private. Some questions are being left unanswered for too long because the forum is swamped at the moment.

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suelyn7 by suelyn7 12 Mar 2012

Yes I agree

cathiejones by cathiejones 12 Mar 2012

I agree too !

asterixsew by asterixsew 12 Mar 2012

Swamped is a great word Sue. As someone who has limited time here it can often take far longer than I have wading through posts that have nothing to do with embroidery

marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree, too. Don't have time to wade thru pages of stuff to find questions about embroidery, crafting. Hugs, M

dragonflyer by dragonflyer 12 Mar 2012

Ditto!!!

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by cfidl 12 Mar 2012

It seems that there have been a couple tough days, and a few words at the time not the best. I do not think we hurt each other intentionally and I believe the day will come when there really is Peace on Earth. This morning has been with tears on Cute as we support our friends through difficult times. Please remember that we are only human.

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by susiesembroidery 12 Mar 2012

Let's all be positive in our minds and love one another whilst sharing our daily embroidery and sewing stuff. Lovies.****

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by justonlyme 12 Mar 2012

I saw some prime examples of what you are referring to last night and was taken aback with the bold back stabbing I agree with you. That belongs in private messaging if at all!!

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by leenova54 12 Mar 2012

Agree also, I have seen some comments lately that are just not necessary. If you have a problem address it in the Private messages or at least personal.

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by mi30kaja 12 Mar 2012

I have enough problems with my sewing and embroidery to be involved with other problems.

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shirley124 by shirley124 12 Mar 2012

I agree.I have a saying in my sewing room "I have enough problems of my own without worring about other peoples"

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by lbrow 12 Mar 2012

As in most large families, someone says something once in a while that hurts, the rest of the family rallies for the wounded one and soon there is healing. Personals is for personals and that's where personal opinions should be, be they good or bad. this has always been a wonderful site so lets keep it that way and not cause hurt feelings please. We are all in one accord when it comes to our crafts sewing and embroidery and a myriad of other things that give us pleasure. That is what Cute is all about. /Lillian

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

You hit the nail on the head, Lillian, thanks for your input! I miss you, M

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by mjjust2ofus 12 Mar 2012

Hi Cuties, I joined this group because of the diversity. I don't want a site that everyone is the same. Diversitey nurtures creativity but harsh comments nurture conflict. Lets keep our judgements to ourselves and share our creativity with all of our sisters. I love you all and we are one in his eyes.

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mj

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

Yes!!

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by ansalu 12 Mar 2012

Agree with you 100% :-)
Please post all those "jokes" and statements in PERSONAL.
For the peace of this community I think we should use the rules for "smalltalk": No politics and no religion so nobody will be offended.
We have members from so many different countries all over the world peaceful together here and that means also many points of view which is wonderful and we should try to keep this :o)
Greetings, Bettina

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

Totally agree with you, Bettina!! Hugs, M

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by jayce 12 Mar 2012

I must admit, i have been wondering why everyone seems so unhappy today ♥

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by suelyn7 12 Mar 2012

Yes me too I thought that was what we had the personals tab for. we get soooo much help here with our embroidery and craft problems its such a shame to read all the other stuff. sometimes the written words can be misunderstood simply because we read them rather than hear them and so we dont hear compassion or caring in the reading like we would if they were spoken out loud. sorry for the rambling hope I haven't confused the situation more. best wishes sue

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marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

I agree, Sue, the Personal tab is for all the prayer requests, jokes, grandbabies, etc. Public Community is for sewing/embroidery/crafting etc. questions and help. Please, pretty please? I'm glad to see others mentioning this, too, all for it! Hugs, M

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by pennifold 12 Mar 2012

Yes, I've noticed too Angelique. I would love this page to be only about embroidery and put other things in the Personal tab. Love and blessings Chris

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nannynorfolk by nannynorfolk 12 Mar 2012

Agree Chris
hugs

marjialexa by marjialexa 12 Mar 2012

Yes, personal stuff in Personals, craft stuff in Public Community, please? Thanks for saying so, Chris. Hugs, M

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