I will be leaving you Cuties for two weeks. Hubby is taking me away from the responsibility of looking after the 'old people'. I sure do need it. They keep me busy 24/7. Stepdad is 87 and mom is 84. She has decided not to get out of bed and leave her room anymore and so she has to be served left right and center. She IS NOT bedridden, no illness just d..m difficult with eating, bathing and everything else in general. Makes life very difficult for me. In the evenings I'm pooped out no energy left. Now my blood pressure is rocketing sky high, my nerves are shattered, I don't sleep well (because I listen out for them at nights)and I look a wreck. Hubby has decided, so here we go and I am sure they will be all right. Have made them food(freezer) for as long as possible because she refuses to make meals. Sorry for venting out but that is how I feel right now, thank you for listening and see you later, hugs S*

I know what my Mom went through looking after my GM for many years. Today she is eighty and blind but my brother is taking good care of her. SHe says that the experience has given her insight and that she now tries not to do to him what GM did to her. So, RELAX REST RECOUPERATE you energies and come back safely.*****

Your patience is wonderful.
The old Dears really know how to work it.
Love and hugs and prayers for all who Help with the elderly and disabled.
We are surley going to be in this same boat if we live long enough...Ha ha.

I know just how you feel. My son has been confined mostly to his room for 15 years . Can only walk a few steps with grab rails cant leave the house unless we take him in wheel chair. Serving meals in room and getting him to the bathroom very difficult. But it is OK the government gives me a whole $50 dollas a week for my 24 hour service. What a joke he is 31 I am 68. Running out of steam getting old fast. You take your break while you can you deserve it. Hugs Joyce

WOW! Have a great hiatus from your usual daily work, and get some good R and R! Prayers for you for stamina and peace of mind:>) God Bless!

Wow! Rest well, don't worry... get back to us soon! LLDS!

At their ages a stint in a care facility might make them appreciate what they are blessed with. Home is not the only answer for the aged especially if they pose a danger to themselves. Prayers for you all.

S

Just take care of you and don't worry about them - while you are gone - you deserve a break.

Maybe while you are gone - you can rethink the situation and make a decision if what your Mom has done is really the best for her or you. Try to think of a way to get her out of bed on a regular basis - if it means - she doesn't eat without coming to the table or what. Do it for the both of you.

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

Hi Shirlene, the best was to get them into an old age home. They would have gone but my brother decided it was degrading FOR HIM to have them there so HE cancelled. Without his support we could not do it alone financially.

by rescuer 15 Jun 2012

I MUST be time for the brother to take his turn caring for them. I am sure after a month or two he will be only too happy to help pay.
Enjoy your break!

Enjoy your well deserved break ;)

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

...thank you...hugs S*

I so empathise with you, old people can be stubborn and selfish and if they were lazy in their earlier lives they get downright comatose as they get older.
I do hope your two week break will be enough for you but you may find your situation require may require some medical assistance.
MIL argues with me over every little thing and I finally had to accept that it is the dementia causing it, and trying to get her to go to bed at night always ends in a screaming match.

Enjoy your break, hopefully your Mum doesn't have dementia and will be able to get up and look after herself and your SD.
Hugs n blessings, Meganne

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

Mom REFUSES to do anything for herself. If she has to bath or come to table to eat she decides to stay in bed (playing sick). You cannot reason with her she simply ignores you. We will enjoy our break thanx, hugs S*

by anangel 14 Jun 2012

Sounds like, not just dementia, but severe depression, too. It is good to take time for yourself to maintain your strength and sanity! Enjoy your time to re-group and re-coop!! Your hubby needs you, too, plus, a big hug for suggesting a break!
Hugs,
Angel

God bless you and relax on your 2 weeks.

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

...thanx hugs S*

Many of us have gone through similar situations and feel the effects.
Rest up and relax while you're able.
Hugs,
Jacqueline

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

Thanx, hugs S*

Good for your husband You have to look after yourself before you can look after anyone else. ENJOY YOUR BREAK

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

We will, thank you, hugs S*

I hope you enjoy your 2 weeks away. Try not to worry about what you have left behind. Maybe this is just what they need. You need to look after your health. Hugs and blessings, Shirley

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by sadp 14 Jun 2012

Will try to do so, thank you, hugs S*