Hello CUTE family: It has been a couple weeks since I have written much more a something simple on someone else's posting. Rick and I are doing as well as we can with our given circumstance. I fear that something has been going on awful wrong with him. He has had a wound that we just could not get to clear up - since the end of November - I tried I don't know how many times to get him to go to the doctor for it - but no - he didn't want to go. He made some strange things through December and the first of January that causes us alot of heartache and days on end without our needs been met as the result of the circumstances. He has taken a fall or two - nothing serious - but once out at the mailbox in the snow - two guys driving down the road picked him up and set him on his way. He did wake me up from a nap the other day and asked if I would take him to the doctor - I was glad that he wanted to go - but I need a few more winks so told him that and laid back down and went to sleep - about 20 minutes later someone knocked on the door - delivering our Meals on Wheels for the day - I went in to let him know that lunch was here and he wasn't there. So I weny out looking for him - he wasn't anywhere - I went to the landlords, but no one answered - so I called the police - they had a couple cars out looking for him and one taking info from me - I told him all about the situation with Rick - the stroke, the seizures, the falls and the wound - so he did ask me if I had checked with the doctor's office - perhaps he got someone to take him there - so I called - he was there - as a walk in and the landlord had taken him - I can't believe they didn't call me - even if he told them I was asleep - they surely knew what me reaction would be if I woke and couldn't find him - he actually didn't get home for another 4 hours - they also took him to pickup some meds that the doctor ordered. His would had to be lanced and dug out - some stuff put on it to stop the bleeding & cotterized - he takes blood thinners - we have change the bandage several times a day - he went back and had it cotterized a second time on Thursday. Last night - I must have changed the bandage 5 times in an hours - it would just not stop bleeding - but I finally got it bandaged and he fell off to sleep early this morning and I have change the bandage just not - it wasn't bleeding bad this time - it is a Holdiay here in the US - so I can't take him in to see the doctor - but I intend to do another office visit to see if there isn't something they can do - to get this to heal better than it is. Unconditional Love to all of you.
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8767Oh, Dear Lord, listen to Shirlene's heart as she prays to you, and in your goodness give her some way to overcome these problems that have come her way through no fault of her own. Help Rick in his physical distress, and help him to bear the failings of his human body, and help him realize that asking for help is not weakness but strength; it gives someone else a chance to do good and to be kind. Move people's hearts to hear how alone Shirlene and Rick are, and to understand that it is not good for us to be so isolated, that a kind word or a lunch invitation can go so far to help. And help us to understand that each of us has the power to help, if not Shirlene and Rick because we are physically too far away, to help those in our own neighborhood, in our workplaces, on the bus; the old lady in the grocery store who can't reach the top shelf or read the small print on the vitamin bottle. We were put here to help each other, move our own hearts to remember that. You said: "What you do to the least of these, you do to me." We say it, but so often in life we just don't live like we remember it. Please help us to remember what you came here to teach us. In Jesus' name, we pray.
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by shirlener88
24 Jan 2013
Marji, dear - thank you so very much for this special prayer - I will treasure it. I know it will help. Unconditional Love
33451Shirleen, you and Rick are in my prayer and thoughts. I understand how you must feel about actually getting him to see a doctor.
My DH must be on the same wave length as Rick.
Please keep us posted ! Stay warm!
Hugs, Bonnie
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by shirlener88
24 Jan 2013
Bonnie, thank you my dear - we both appreciate it so very much.
Now tell me what you mean that you DH must be on the same wave length as Rick - you don't mean - he is doing the same things. I will be praying for you, my dear.
We are trying our best to stay warm - it snowed earily and then rained - it froze on top of the snow - so now we have frozen ooze on our waks and driveway - I bet the roads are the same too.
by bnilla9241
04 Feb 2013
My DH, Jorge, pronounced George, had both of his parents die from different types of cancer. He is 6'2, and might weigh 150 lbs soaking wet. He drinks water all day. I prepare normal meals and he wants to have only a bite or two. He adamantly refuses to see a Dr. diabetes runs in family too.
He finally saw a Dr. about 3 years ago and got the all clear. He weighed 230 pounds at that time. I wish he would see a Dr, but he won't go.
6803My thoughts and prayers are with you, Shirlene.
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5648I am praying and I send an angel. I hope so helps if many people we are praying.
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6430We are going to try to get into the doctor today or tomorrow. I do believe that Rick's wound is finally healing some. It is painful and the knuckle has a raised wound on the top of it almost a half inch. He got out with a friend for about an hour yesterday and slept most of the rest of the day. He had me up once during the middle of the night to change the bandage - it wasn't bleeding - I think it just hurt him - so he needed the soaking and new bandage to relieve his mind.
Now he wants to go on a ride on with the police - he thinks that they would want to have him along - yesterday with his friend he went down to check on it and they said that they police chief would call - I am unsure about it - but if he become close to some of the cops - they might understand the situation here a bit more. Hehehe! I am all for him having some fun and getting out of the house, too. I am just not sure that they really would want to deal with all his troubles and possible issues. I am going to try to do some embroidery work this week - yeah! Thank you all and Unconditional Love to you each.
211079Oh Shirlene, I'm so sorry things are so tough for you now. Hopefully the wound will be better soon, and life can get back to "normal" - whatever that is - LOL. Hang in there lady! hugs and prayers for you and Rick.
Jan
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Jan, thank you dear one - normal will never be the same for us - but we sure appreciate your prayers and hugs.
59631My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Rick. Definitely take him back to the Dr - take him in as a walk-in again if you have too. Ask the Dr about home health - Rick should qualify for Medicare and this is a covered service. I think he needs it - at least until his wound heals. This will help take the pressure off of you and ease the load on your mind. Did the Dr tell Rick what he thought caused the wound? Was he bit by a spider? PLEASE PLEASE, both of you take care of yourself.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Thanks for your idea's - we might be going into the doctor today or in the next day or so. I do believe that they need to do another proceedure. Rick knocked the knuckle of his pinkie on some of the wire fencing. It is more that he didn't get it looked at in the beginning and is now suffering because of it. Thank you so very much.
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8047Glad you are doing OK but what a fright not to find hubby. Good he finally went to the doctors too. The infection could have spread. Prayers are with you ..Suzanne
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111376Keep positive; hubby managed to get to doctor and found someone to take him; you seem to be managing to change bandages which some people can't do...Others suggestions that you may be eligible for more help seems right, bracelet with your phone number sounds good too. Good neighbors like your landlord are a godsend in difficult situations. Will keep you in my prayers....
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Thank you my dear - we so appreciate it. I was upset with the landlord for not contacting me, even if I were sleeping - you would think they would have for my peace of mind.
18403Prayers for you and Rick to a good health and help, and take care you self to Warm hugs Maria
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9483Hi Shirlene, What a shock when you couldn't find Rick. At least you did and he was ok. Sorry to hear about the problems you are having. You are in my thoughts everyday. Huge hugs for you both. Sally
24342Dear Shirlene. I am saddened to hear of your problems. Hope things soon begin to get better. Love and prayers for you both. Hugs Shirley
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Shirley, it is unreal about all the problems and I know there is something hear for me to learn - with each of your prayers - I know it helps, THANKS!
52686Shirlene, prayers are with you & Rick. Just wish some of us cuties were close enought to be of physical help. Please let us know what the doctor tells you next visit. Love & hugs to you.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Gerry, how I wished a few of you were here in person - that would be so much different for us - to have someone to just talk to - a live person. This is great & I so appreicate the prayers - it does help, too.
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Can't express enough how I feel for you and Rick. Hopefully he will heal quick with the medication. Check with your county for assistance. You need to get a break. I am sure there is something in your area. Stay in touch, and let us know how you and Rick are doing. I often think and look for you. Hugs and prayers go out your way. Love, Rachel
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Rachel, thank you - we are reaching out to all the places - but seem to slip under or over their guidelines. I will try to keep in touch more often and not just to report. Thanks for the prayers.
5290So sorry , I did not know things were this bad. You may need to get a night person to sit with him so you can get some sleep. Do you think it is to this stage yet/? My sister denied it for a long time with my Mom. If you are eligible for meals on wheels you may be eligible for more. I remember it covered my Mom's sitter also.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Kay, we have tried to get more help - just seem to be under or over the guidelines - I am not sure what to do about Rick and the situation that he seems to be getting himself into - but on the next visit to the doctor we will be discussing it in detail. Thanks so much.
85867Prayers for you and your dear hubby! May the dear Lord bolster and strengthen and heal you both!
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19452dear shirlene, praying that things get better for you and your husband. please take care of yourself too. i would like to thank you for all your help and kindness.you are one great lady. thank you. stella
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Stella, my dear - thank you so very much - Rick & I have you in our prayers daily. I appreciate your comments deeply.
4401I wish that there was more help nearby for you. Hanging bells on the doorknob is a great suggestion by capoodle. I know you don't need advise, you need help and I wish that I were close enough to give you a break.
"Lord, help me to rest in the assurance that I am not alone, but in your capable hands."
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Jerrilyn, I have had bells on my doorknobs for years - he just grabs them - so they will not ring - sneaky little boy. I wish you were close, too - but you have your own hands full. Thank you for the prayer. Unconditional Love!
158715I glad he finally went to the doctor. Sounds like you do need to get him back in to see about the bleeding and the fact that it isn't healing. Hope the next visit will get better results. Prayers are still with the two of you.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Thank you Carolyn - we have had a couple visits - I thought that they would do some cutting and stitching - but they did not. We plan a visiti today or tomorrow. Thanks for the prayers.
62461We're so sorry and we miss you. Our prayers and warm thoughts are with you.
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6963such a difficult time for you both , take care , I pray all will get much beter soon
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23581So good to hear from you, even though it is sad to hear what you have been going through with Rick. I will never forget your kindness when I first joined Cute. Thank you for being you and hugs to you both. You are in my thoughts. Sarah.
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255050Dear Shirlene and Rick,
You both are in my daily prayers and I am always thinking of you and the issues you have and are going through. I just pray that Rick's wound will heal and that YOU receive all the help and assistance you require for your ongoing health issues. Love and blessings Chris
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234496You just never know what troubles the guy next door has ???
Keep looking up its our only answer :):) hugs carolyn
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360641So sorry that things are so bad and all the uncertainty, hope things improve for you both, my prayers and possible thoughts going your way
hugs
Michelle
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Thank you so much Michelle - we sure appreciate it - you keep on stitching.
64451Shirlene, so sorry to hear this. You and Rick are always in my prayers. Hugs and love Yvonne xxx
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132773It must have been more than he could take so when he made up his mind to go he figured out how to get there. At least the wound is draining and he has medication to take and you found him. If the wound has been there that long it could take a few weeks to completely heal. Do you have a medical alert bracelet on him? You might be able to make labels with your phone number to sew into his garments or some other way to have information on him in case he goes off on his own again. Even a device to alert you when he goes out the door could be as simple as hanging a bell for the door to hit that you would hear. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Anita, thank you so very much - I know it will take some time - not just over night. I am not sure that the labels would work at this time - he already thinks I treat him as a child. Hehehe! I do have bells on my door - but as the little boy that he is - he is sneaky and grabs them so they will not ring - when he goes out. Thanks so very much.
89895Shirlene......What a trying time this has been for you......Stay strong, as I know you will!!! Hug to you..Vicki
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261163Dear Shirlene, my prayers are with you and your dear Husband. I know that God hold you in His hand and is carrying you both through your ordeal. Please stay strong. All my love and hugs and roses.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
My dear, I do know this - that is what keeps me going. Thanks so very much - I appreicate it.
21543oh dear, I hope and pray the wound will heal soon. Take good care, both of you. Hugs, Gerry
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29242So much I want to say. I am praying for you and Rick to get through this one as you've done before. God bless you unconditionaly.
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Mel, thank you dear - we will - the prayers do help. He has something here for us to learn. Unconditional Love
1752Shirlene the two of you are always in my thoughts. Take care.LOVIES
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by shirlener88
23 Jan 2013
Marthie, I do appreciate it and all the great emails and comments on FB, too. Unconditional Love
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