Do you ever have an idea, thinking it would be the perfect gift only to second guess yourself when it is over 1/2 done...Maybe its not the right color or maybe they don't like the pattern you picked....Maybe they expected more from you than what you aive...Its not big enough, you should have spent more why didn't you buy something instead of making it....You know all those questions...Well I was just wondering If anyone else felt the way I do or if its just me being paranoid...
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All the Time! I say run with it, and see what happens. In my opinion handmade knowing the artist is always better than store bought!
173693Yes, Yes , Yes!!! I'm trying to do a wedding plaque for my son's wedding. I've been working on it for months! Every time I make a change something else doesn't seem to be right for the changes. I actually I put it aside for about a month because it was driving me crazy. I think I finally have one I like. But we seem to over think colors and etc. So yes I know how you feel.
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62461My friend, I think it's this particular gift that has you in knots, to these particular people. If a relationship is iffy, strained, not on sure footing, however you wish to say that, then of course these feelings pop up. I think you would not feel this way about making a gift for your best friend. Apparently the new mom's parents have more money, and could afford lavish gifts. But personal opinion, Deanna, you have so much more than mere money, you have a loving, generous heart; more so than almost anyone I know. How many "strays" have you taken in, both four-footed and human! Foster kids, troubled kids, pets, all the work you do for the missions and the orphanage, making things for them, fundraising, giving of your time and talent to actually go there, etc. etc. Maybe if you'd just be more selfish and money-oriented like so much of the rest of the world you too could purchase expensive flashy gifts. But don't do it, please don't!! The world needs so much more of an attitude like yours, giving, loving, caring, always willing to go the extra mile, or two or three---the child needs a quilt made by his gramma, with love in every stitch, to wrap him or her in the unique love only you can give, that maybe some of God's incredible grace that shines through your life will enlighten and enliven the very heart and soul of that baby. Baby won't really care what the gift is, for a long time yet. Parents (especially stepson) may not be satisfied with anything you give, even if you mortgage your house to give it. Other grandparents should take time to know you before "judging" your gift to the baby, and if they have any sense will realize your gift's value, and your own value. Now, my friend, you need to realize your own worth, too; don't allow the judgement of the "world" at large to shake you, make you feel less worthy. The only Judge that counts has seen your heart from the beginning, and the works of your hands in His name, "...as you have treated the least of these....."---give with love what your hands have made in love, and trust you'll be ok, and they'll be ok with it.
And, if not, you could always try stuffing that quilt up somebody's nose, see if it fits......
With my admiration and love, Marji
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33451Yes - and I think perhaps we all do in some way or another.
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158716Yes, I am making a quilt for our 4-H auction and I just don't like the blocks. This a.m. I started to cut another quilt out instead of keep working on the other. Daughter likes the first one so we'll see!!
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20088Another thought - the most valuable thing you can give is your time.
140717I agree that the hand made gifts are what become heirlooms for the individual. Don't second guess yourself. Your gifts will be well made with love stitched in every stitch. People will be ohhhing and ahhhing and wishing they had a mom like you.
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by camylow
06 Aug 2013
my stepson is one of these self centered people...hasn't talked to her in almost 2 years cause she went to a pre planned doctors appointment instead of having dinner with them...so that's my delima
169064Fear not. Most people do appreciate the double gift of time & effort! All they have to do is price some handmade things & they'll see what they have! I'm sure all your gifts are well loved & welcomed! How many store bought items do you see people holding on to for years? But handmade, that's another story!!
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by camylow
06 Aug 2013
Well I love everything my mother ever made for me...well except for the alligator pants when we were kids (hehehe the style was horrible then)
3567515626Anyone can run down to the store and grab a gift off the shelf but a handmade gift comes from the heart. You have to take the time to decide on a special design,gather the materials and assemble it. Give me handmade any day. It might also be passed down to another generation some day. While others say look what I bought you stand proud and smile and say look what I made
Bev
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67271Deanna, I do all the time. Because some people look at "handmade" as second class gifts, I worry if people will think I give handmade because I can't afford "store" bought. It doesn't matter how many times someone tells me how beautiful my work is. I DO have a gift from God to sew and create. Sometimes my creations do "flop" (slang translation--fail) but over all my work is pretty good. I have two baby showers coming up for the daughters of people at church. Will my "homemade" items be appreciated?? I think so. I have been giving some of the same items for years and have a reputation for what's in my gift bag. I don't think you should second guess what you are doing for your son. My oldest daughter said of my first grandchild, "Mom, Sarah thinks you made the sun and the moon and then hung them in the sky." Sarah loved everything I did for her and proudly told others, "My Grandma made this." You are very talented and those that matter will notice and those that don't .... well they just don't matter anyway. Hugs and have a great day. Becky
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by camylow
06 Aug 2013
well I am hoping...a long time ago I crochet my stepson an afaghan.. I believe he still has it...he's 38 now. it was always on the couch being used. we were struggling then also but he loved that, so I am hoping she will love this baby blanket...I made it ib blues which is her favorite color....its too bad people didn't realize the time and effort, let alone the cost handmade gifts cost
9846You shouldn't feel like that at all Deanna. You give so much of your love, time and support. Besides anything made by hand is made with LOVE, thought and consideration of the recipient. Love and blessings Chris
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234498I'm sure we all feel like that at times! I know I do.
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by camylow
06 Aug 2013
well at least that helps...my stepson is having their first child
...they don't want to know the gender...However
both her parents have money and His Mother is well off. We are the only ones not able to afford too much. So I am feeling the pressure..
by lilylady
06 Aug 2013
you do what you can afford and give your love, the most important thing in life. god bless you and new grandchild.
by sbott54
07 Aug 2013
Love is the most precious gift you can give. Your handmade gift will be treasured forever since it is made with love. We who make gifts give of ourselves with our time and skills. Isn't that better than the most costly gift those with money can offer!? Hugs to you, Sandra
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