I've tried and tried to figure out my daughter...CAN"T..

Sometimes they have to make their own mistakes before they truly figure out what they should have done. You hate to have to pick up the pieces again and being there if that happens is all you can do when they are grown adults. Will pray that things will work out for the better for all of you.

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by camylow 14 Jan 2014

it seems like she's always moving back and forth...disrupts my GD life all the time...

Deanna, she is searching for something that she will one day realize the thing she is searching for lies within herself. continue to love and be there when she needs you.Everyday pray for God to have mercy on them and grant them grace. Grace also for you to hold up through it all. You will probably never come to a complete understanding of this child but you will know you have done your best. Hugs and prayers for all of you/Lillian

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by camylow 14 Jan 2014

I know she is.....but she won't listen or take our advice...mule headed..just like her father (hehe).
she'll stay there...

Maybe she will dislike the long, hot summers of the Sacramento valley so much that she will move back. That's quite a cultural change from a small town and large city.

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by camylow 14 Jan 2014

I doubt that..my daughter is so outside person..she loves the sun

by AuntAnnie 14 Jan 2014

Then maybe the dark, rainy winters will send her home.

Our children always think they know better than their parents. I hope your daughter wises up an moves back. My stepson in all his infinite wisdom packed his family up and moved from LA to OK last year right after Christmas. His mother convinced him he could do better there. She threw both him & his brother out when they were teenagers & they came to live with us. We have always been there for him, his girlfriend` & their 2 sons. They stayed with his mother when they arrived & she was very ugly to his girlfriend`. They finally moved into a tiny apartment but both boys still want to move back. We had them at least once a month & the 2 boys lived with us for over a year. We are very attached to them & miss them terribly. My stepson quit the job his mother got for him since he wasn't making the money she promised & now he is working at the store where his girlfriend works. He works during the day & he works at night. Fortunately the boys are in school whiles she sleeps but they both work weekends & they are left to fend for themselves. They are 9 & 6. I pray they wise up and move back. My heart goes out to you. I know how you feel.

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by camylow 14 Jan 2014

kids can be so trying...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know what you're going through. I am raising a granddaughter that was not wanted by either parent. At first they just kept her from us, then simply gave her to us to raise. This was 9 years ago, & 3 years ago we adopted her. I'm just praying that your daughter loves her daughter & she does take care of her. My granddaughter was nearly starved to death when we got her, and she was frightened of everything & everyone. She didn't know how to play, all she did was sit in a scared little huddle. Her mother does come to see her about once a year now...after the adoption went through....and she paid for the adoption. Talk about crazy young people. I don't think we'll ever understand them. Hang in there, things will work-out someway.

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by camylow 14 Jan 2014

sorry to hear this, however she has you and you have her to hold....Happy for both of you...

Unfortunately they must learn this on their own. I wish there was something that could be done but I have learned that you can't live their life for them & the choices they make whether good or bad are their choices all we can do is let them know we love them & always will. She is hopeful that he really LOVES her otherwise she wouldn't go? We don't always understand but it is what it is I'm afraid. They can't always see what our experience has taught us to see. My prayers are with all of you. Hugs Loralye

O dear dear Deanna, you have a lot to cope with, my heart goes out to you. and please please try to find joy in the fact that your daughter is happy, and you will have to take the advice given to stay close to your Granddaughter, There is no more to be done at the moment .
Hugs Pam.

So sorry you are going through this. Sometimes the children just have to learn the hard way. All you can do is pray that you will see and be with them again soon. Hugs to you.

Not easy but just be there for support and eventually she will make the right decision. If it didn't work the first time chances are the second time will be a shorter one and you can get you GD close by again. Hang in there,

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by camylow 13 Jan 2014

I don't know..she really thinks hes the one...

I will pray for you all.
Hugs

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by camylow 13 Jan 2014

Thank you

Deanna, I'm so truly sorry. She apparently can only hear the loud call of her heart and not the whispering of her soul. I will pray that she will be able to know what her path should be and that none of your family will have to suffer any repercussions unnecessarily. You can make this work between you and your darling grandbaby. Be persistent. Be present. Be love.

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by rescuer 13 Jan 2014

Beautifully stated

by camylow 13 Jan 2014

I guess I have to either way hugh...

I live in Spain and have a daughter in Sweden. Two grandchildren. Skype works perfect. You can play, hide. You can draw pictures. She is showing her things , she is dancing. But of course you still need them in reality

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by camylow 13 Jan 2014

yeah..its just not the same. she slept in our old bedroom that has a sliding window into our room...she would peak her head in to make sure we were there...wouldn't go to sleep unless either Grandpa or myself were beside her until she fell asleep...didn't want mamma to be there just us... not the same...

So sorry to read this Deanna, I hope that you can get to visit her often. I see you are a state away, I pray that things will turn out alright. Love Chris

I feel for you my dear, and know you will surely miss your GD...Children of today think only of them selves unfortunately. The Bible tells us in the end people and family will have no natural affection...how true that has become...Can you have phone calls or Skype on the computer with her and your GD...hope you find some comfort somehow....I have not seen my 2 GD's for almost 5 weeks as they went overseas for holidays to Thailand. I miss them all terriblely and looking forward to them all returning this week... there is political unrest and protests there today and I hope they are not too close to that sort of stuff. Stay strong...hugs Kerry

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by camylow 13 Jan 2014

I have a daughter that thinks what she hears is right...this guy totally screwed her over less than 6 months ago...don't understand young adults these days..they don't care what when or how..they just do..leaving a whirlwind or some times a tornado behind...