Hello my friends. Just wanted to say good Monday morning to ya'll. I got up at 4:30 am to walk my dog. and usually stay up but today I laid back down. slept until 8 and the picked up my laptop and I'm still in bed. It feels great This is something I never do.
It probably sounds strange to you all. But I've been going and doing for other people so long it's strange to me just to relax. Zoey (my little Yorkie is right beside me snoozing) I'm still in my night gown and I may stay in it all day. I realize no one is responsible for me but me. I have been having a hard time of it but I'm going to get better physically and with Gods help mentally.
It has been a year and a half since I left my husband of 42 years. He said he didn't want to take care of me and that I was to expensive for him. So yes I did leave and I have been trying to make it on my own. Very hard but today feels great. First morning in a long time I really feel good. My physical state is a little gooey thats a medical term by the way but mentally I really feel lighter. Don't know why just do. But anyway just babbling again thanks for listening. I love to read all your comments, tips, your life stories etc. I feel like I'm part of something very special thank you so much for being so special. God bless love ya'll Ronny
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Ronny , in my eyes you are a hero. I am so glad you had the courage to do what you did. You deserved better. I know it's a very hard job to be on your own when for 42 yrs you haven't been. One day you are up the next day you are down. You say with God's help you are going to be better, He will give you the Grace you need as long as you lean on him. Life will get better for you, just keep taking those baby steps and before you know it you will be going in strides. Lean on us, talk to us when you are feeling down and make friends with those around you. God bless/Lillian
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by memasanders
01 Nov 2014
Thank you so much that's sweet and your right, baby steps. I'll be fine with Gods help I know it and He will prove it. Sometimes this frail body gets lonely, but I keep busy so that doesn't happen and I love to come here and read all the posts. Everyday is an adventure. Thanks again God Bless Ronny
145791I commented under eggieannie, so bumping this up so you can read it. Sorry, lol!
23282I can see that you all need a it more help with the rules of the JBIC club so here goes.
#1 buy some nice fleecy PJ'S. Something really way out in the style a child would wear It will brighten your day
#2 Stop worrying about what the other folk will think if you answer the door wearing them. ITS YOUR LIFE NOT THEIRS. It just may make them laugh and so you have achieved a wonderful thing because laughter will help make the world go around and can make friends.
Plus you just may set someone else free and enable them to become members of your JBIC club
Make or buy a fleece top and embroider the words
" Its a chill out day today" on it. You can do it as a patch or directly on the top. Buy fleece bottoms to mix or match.
#4 Do not be afraid to be seen wearing the above. Its the latest trend, and even if its not you can start it right there in your own community
#5 invite friends around but tell them they can only come if they wear PJ's. Yea. that,s right have a PJ party at mid day.
If you have just laughed about any of the above rules then you are starting to become a fully fledged member.
I once purchased a set of PJ's that had a nice T shirt type top and matching chequered bottoms. I was having a chill out day and during the morning i realised i had run out flour to make a cake so simply got in the car and went to the supermarket and got me some. I was in the shop when i suddenly realised i was still wearing my PJ's . But, guess what, NO ONE was taking the least bit of interest because they looked like a set Did i feel naughty? yep but only i knew why i was grinning
I have just purchased a new set of PJ's to wear when i go away with my little Bambi motor home and i will take a photo of myself wearing them . And yes i have walked around outside in them to go to the shower.
Wear your Pjs to answer the door its better than going naked
Lounge suits are PJ's by another name they are simply clothes to lounge about in
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by sewilso
29 Oct 2014
lol! Good for you, I see several out in pj's these days, I couldn't pull it off but it does happen, rest up, that little yorkie sounds like a sweetie, I have one too, he's a big one though. On my days off I sometimes chill out in what I like to call lounge clothes, I love men's sleep pants in that knit they use, they might be a team fabric or cookie monster, etc. They are extremely comfy and not hot like sweat pants or jeans.
by memasanders
29 Oct 2014
Mens Pants are the best no binding Glad your one of the gang Thanks and have a great day
by memasanders
30 Oct 2014
I bought myself a pair of Ladies Pj's with the feet in them now top that hehehe. Their lavender and have Ehor all over them. And yes I'm for real they do have the feet in them just like we all used to wear. I love them.
14995It is always good to take some time off to relax. Taking care of yourself is a good thing. You will be just fine! One day at a time one step in front of the other and before you know it you are there. Suzanne
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
You are right. Take time for me. No more rushing trying to have no more stress working on that one but I am getting better everyday Thanks
111375Ronny, I'm so happy to hear that you are taking care of you. Love what Annie wrote. I wasn't like feeling myself the other day and was in my pajamas at 11AM and the doorbell rang. I made a mad dash for my bedroom to try and throw on some clothes and realized, it's my door and I don't have to answer it if I don't want to. If there's an emergency, they will just keep trying to get me and then, I'll answer. It was a very freeing feeling. Do what you want that keeps you sane and happy.....it's your home and your rules if you feel like making any. Love you!
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
I see you understand what I'm saying sometime the ladies here at the apartments look at me like I have three heads,but while I'm watering my plants and things on the porch they all decide to bring thier plants out. I think everyone needs to enjoy the life God meant for them to have and not stress so much about things we can't change You stay in your pj's I allow it It is national Pj day we will have declare one soon Love you too
158714WELCOME TO THE JUST BECAUSE I CAN CLUB
Well done on finally finding out that you do not have to get dressed if you do not want to but simply lounge about in your jimjams all day. doesn't that naughty feeling feel great. it makes my face tingle and grin. Just lieng back down in bed with a little dog snuggled up by your side and a cup of tea or coffee waiting to be drunk and perhaps a nice bit of choccy simply asking to be sucked real slow.
Just finally realising that there is no law to say you have to move your butt if you don't want too is so relaxing.
If i don't have any plans for going out then i simply throw a fleecy (home made) kaftan on and relax, boil the kettle and make a drink and then pour the rest of the hot water into a flask to be used when you want another. No waiting for the kettle to boil again. Make it a ping cuisine day or indulge in cooking yourself a nice meal. do that one thing you have always never had time to do before. Yea, relax and smile and not feel guilty.
Girl you are now going to find out how to live like the stars do and it realy isn't difficult to do. Be a child again, even if its just for today but never forget you can do this any time you want to because there is no one to tell you you can't.
Do not do it every day,you do still have to interact with the outside world but keep it for those special days Stock up on DVDS from thrift shops and get a nice collection of books. I actually stayed in bed one day and re read Ann of Green Gables all the way through and then started on The secret Garden . Both books from my childhood that i always wanted to read again. just had soup and fruit for meals and fell asleep several times during the time but next day i felt amazing.
Ok. If you want to walk the dog at four in the morning why not. I have got up at that time just to go and sit outside to watch a meteorite shower that occurs every year at this time. I call it my "watching the fairies going home late from the Ball time " Just sitting there in the dark with a hot drink in my hand watching all those lights streak across the night sky you can almost hear the fairies urging each other on to get back before dad realises they are late.
Enjoy your new found freedom my friend and live the life that YOU want to live now.
I heard a song once and i can't remember who by but the words have stopped with me ever since and i try to live by them
Youth only happens to you one time
At least that's what Iv'e been told
If you should miss it in your young time.
Have it when your old.
Go on, do it. you are now allowed to be free and laugh out loud and not get dressed in outdoor clothes or get up when everyone else does.
Enjoy feeling one up manship now when you see others living by rules they have made themselves and not feeling like you do.
Bless you my friend and welcome to the world of "Just because i can"
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by irenewayne
28 Oct 2014
eggyannie....I love your post & agree with what you say, Ronnie you stay in your jamas if that's what you want, I stay in mine some days as well & feel comfortable in them, mind you there's a mad rush if there's a knock on the door. LOL) Hope your well being is here to stay & enjoy your doggie & new found freedom. Best of luck
Irene
by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
Oh my God I love you. You hit the nail n the head. It is great to look at my little house and say I'll do it tomorrow or go the bingo game they have at the drug store. I am happy I really really am and you have just put the icing on my cake thank you so much God bless and I truly love you all.
14995Your little doggie will comfort yoy and love you and keep you warm and cuddle with you and be your buddy and your BESTESEST friend, My husband of 47 years and still counting loves our new little doggie---she got away twice and thank God we got her back---she is licensed, bonded, microchipped, GPSed, so many tags she jingles----she has a kitty to play with who is about her size---they play so good together---those little animals are surely blessings from God---Praying that you will continue to get your spirits bright---God bless you!!!!!
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
Zoey my yorkie is a mess she is my heart. She is alot of company and we go everywhere together. Thank you for your kind thoughts
4698Wow 42 years you are /were married the same length-of time as me.
I will pray ******
God gives you get up and go with no looking back and that the blues are far behind you and you can't see them lol
Keep up the great job .Hugs Carolyn from Cana
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
Well technically we are still married but he goes his way and I'm learning to go mine. It gets easier every day On the blue days I try to get busy and make something. So between Zoey and crafts I get plenty done. Thanks for being a freind
360641Dearest Ronny, well you know how I feel about ya, don't you? I'm so glad that you have finally come through the darkness and now are into the light so to speak. Things will get better, day by day and I know you have a strong faith. Time is a great healer and you can come on here as often as you like and let us know how you are going. I know there are a lot of ladies on here who are going through traumas and just have problems they like to talk about. That is why this community is so good to belong to and it is so loving - I feel as if we are all like one big family spread around the world. God bless ya'll too, love Chris
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
Yes I know how you feel I think about ya'll everyday. I use the quilt on my bed all the time and it give me strength The beautiful blocks and the bible verse are a great help. One day you and I will meet face to face. I'm gonna get there one day it's on my bucket list. Love to all and thanks for everything God bless
234492Good for you to let your body take care of itself. I hope you take more days to be rather than do.
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169064May this blessed feeling remain with you & give you the strength to face each brand new day! ~hugs~
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299559The best prescription for gooey is exactly what you are doing. Listen to your body!
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
So you also know about medical terms lol. I'm getting better at letting things ride and it really doesn't bother me. Thanks for the prescription.
626I understand gooey. I for one am so proud of you. You have taken responsibility for yourself and not cow tying to an ungrateful partner. I hope you continue to feel good every morning and live your life to your fullest and happiest ever. God Bless.
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by memasanders
28 Oct 2014
Thanks for the blessings I'm learning to appreciate everyone of them. Minute by minute doing what I want to do. Hugs Ronny
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