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do you do this too?
If my mom had still lived; today would be her 99th birthday. But she died in traffic when she was 65... However on her birthday august 31, I always say in myself: "happy birthday mom...."
Do you do this too, or is it just my abnormality, I wondered?
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I have celebrated my father's birthday for the last 40 years without him. I miss him a lot and it helps to remember him the way he was. I don't think it's a strange thing at all.
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thank you for this sweet reply. well it was my mom's today and my father's on September 3.
Hugs, Gerry
Hugs, Gerry
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Yes, I speak to my Father and Mother all the time and even ask their opinion on things. Very comforting as I know they are right beside me.
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thank you for this reply :)
140717✽
No, Gerry. We all do it for people we care about. Lat week was my late sister's birthday her late husband's and my late father-in-law's so it kept me pretty busy.
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thank you for this reply :)
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dragonflyer
31 Aug 2016
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My Mom was also born on August 31 and this will be my first without her...she passed earlier this year and would have been 90 today...feeling a bit melancholy...
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May you have comfort in your memories. Our mothers are always with us. Aw, I too say Happy Birthdat to our my loved ones who have passed. They made me who I am. I'm sure others feel the same. You are loved here.
Yes, you are Kim! and we do all think of our moms on their day.
that first time without her, always a sad moment. Perhaps they celebrated together now our moms ( yours mine and Sandra's all born on the 31 of August.) Hugs, Gerry
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I always wish anyone I loved who has passed, Happy Birthday on their day.....a nice way to remember them and how much they are loved still.
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yes it is, thank you for this reply :)
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graceandham
31 Aug 2016
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Yes, I do this, too. It acknowledges the past and that as a member of the communion of saints, she is present and aware.
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thank you for this reply :)
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carolpountney
31 Aug 2016
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Oh yes not strange my mom's birthday is 2 December and I wish her every year in fact I talk to her all the time.
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thank you for this reply :)
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asterixsew
31 Aug 2016
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No. My father would have been 107 last week and I sent a text to my daughters letting them know
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thank you for this reply :)
255054✽
I always think of my mum on her birthday. She would be 103 now.
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thank you for sharing :)
145305✽
October 7th is the day my father would have been 104, my mother 102 12 days later. I don't exactly wish them happy birthday but think of them, bake a cake or something like that. it is still their month for me
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Thank you too for this reply :)
109788✽
My mom would have been 92, August 8. I lost her and my grand daughter the same year. I think you always remember anyone you loved deeply, on what 'would have been', their birthdays. My kids even will call and say," Today is Grandma's birthday, how old would she have been this year?"<br /><br />
In the early stages of her dementia/altzhemier's, when it was her birthday, I would ask, "Mamma how old are you today?" She would pondered and draw it out,"A hundred and..." Before she could put another number with her 100, I would say, "Mamma if you're going to lie about your age, make yourself younger!" and then we would both laugh....that was the early stage. Never will we forget our moms!
Today was also my mother-in-laws. She passed at age 96 and this year she would have been 109.
In the early stages of her dementia/altzhemier's, when it was her birthday, I would ask, "Mamma how old are you today?" She would pondered and draw it out,"A hundred and..." Before she could put another number with her 100, I would say, "Mamma if you're going to lie about your age, make yourself younger!" and then we would both laugh....that was the early stage. Never will we forget our moms!
Today was also my mother-in-laws. She passed at age 96 and this year she would have been 109.
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thank you for your story :)
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Oh YES, every Sep. 10th I whisper "Happy Birthday Mom" and this year she would have been 91 years old. I wish we had the internet at least 5 years before I lost her, to have shared in with her Saudi family..... I pray that when my time comes that the Good Lord takes me in the same way he took her..... took a nap and that was that, the same way her father died!
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thank you for sharing :)
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sandralane
01 Sep 2016
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Yes, today the 31st of August my Mum would have been 91 years. Unfortunately she passed away 12 years ago from cancer. I still think of her daily and especially on her birthday. She would have loved all the new machines now on the market, as she was an excellent dress maker and crafter. Sandra.
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thank you Sandra, perhaps our moms celebrated their birthdays together :)
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shirley124
01 Sep 2016
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My mum passed away in 1958. She was 58 years of age so she would have been 116 on the 3rd of May if she were to be still with us. Every time we pass one of the cemeteries where of my family members are buried I always say hello to them I can assure you there are quite a few not with us now. I still miss them all. Hugs
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thank you for this reply
6122✽
I am so glad to hear that others do that too. My dad was infamous for saving all his change (coins). He had jars and jars of coins when he passed. Now, every time I find a coin on the floor or the sidewalk, etc, I pick it up and say "thanks Dad) and no he is thinking of me too. Maybe silly - but it is comforting to keep his memory alive.
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thank you for sharing
10852✽
My mom lived 3000 miles away, but we talked every day, while I had a cup of tea , my husband made for me?. Now, at that time of day I always say "Hi mom. I miss you. Take care of Gord."
Some how it gives me comfort. She passed away the day before her 89th birthday 2008, on my husbands birthday. He passed away 4 months ago and I talk to him every day. I don't think it is abnormal to remember, maybe it is to forget.
Some how it gives me comfort. She passed away the day before her 89th birthday 2008, on my husbands birthday. He passed away 4 months ago and I talk to him every day. I don't think it is abnormal to remember, maybe it is to forget.
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thank you for this reply
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I'm going to let you in on my "birthday song" that I post for everyone's birthday (no, not that I really sing it; yes every time).I do remember my mother's birthday every year, but I mostly miss her on my birthday. On my birthday for the 34 years I had a mother, I awoke to her singing happy birthday to me. After I moved into my own house, hers was that early morning phone call on my birthday. I call my children, grandchildren, siblings, and nieces and nephews. They all wait for my call, not that I can sing well because, believe me, I can't, but because someone always remembers them first thing on their special day.
You are doing that which I know has been done over 2000 years- remember Christmas? Love to you as you celebrate your precious mother.
You are doing that which I know has been done over 2000 years- remember Christmas? Love to you as you celebrate your precious mother.
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thank you so much for your sweet reply, she will love your birthday song :)
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I do the same, Gerry. Not only I remember my parents and close relatives on their birthday but also on the day they have died. I don't thinks that's abnormal.
Hugs, Lidia
Hugs, Lidia
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Oh yes I certainly always remember the day both my parents did die, it always makes me sad because they were so full of life when it happened so unexpectedly.... Thank you for your reply
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momofeight
01 Sep 2016
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Yes I always wish my Mom,Dad,Sister and my 3 brothers a Happy Birthday on their birthdays I never told anyone this, so you are the first
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thank you for sharing :)
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AllRaggedy
01 Sep 2016
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Hello Gerry,
I wish all of my dear ones that have passed away a Happy Birthday on their special day. If possible I always visit my Mom and Dad at their grave site on their special day and I sing "Happy Birthday" to them! I know they are around me, close by, looking out for me, so this seems like a very normal thing to do in my mind. Happy Birthday to your Mom! I am sure she is celebrating up in Heaven! Hugs, Sharon
I wish all of my dear ones that have passed away a Happy Birthday on their special day. If possible I always visit my Mom and Dad at their grave site on their special day and I sing "Happy Birthday" to them! I know they are around me, close by, looking out for me, so this seems like a very normal thing to do in my mind. Happy Birthday to your Mom! I am sure she is celebrating up in Heaven! Hugs, Sharon
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thank you for the sweet reply.
743327✽
Thank you all, it's so good to read you all do the same. Thank you for sharing and hugs and * for you all.
35675✽
I also still "talk" to my parents! We move on, the pain lessens, and the memories grow sweeter every day! (and my daddy would have been 104 this Aug.) I think of my Mom especially on Sept. 7 as her second great grand daughter was born that day ALMOST 15 yrs. ago...and yes, my daughter did name her after my sweet mama! She would be 103. Goodness, am I getting old??
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thank you for sharing Gerry
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I always wish my parents and relatives happy birthdays. I was born on my Moms birthday so It was always special to celebrate with her . I always wish her a happy Birthday. I miss her... She died young also.
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thank you and hugs )))
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Yes I do this. I miss my Mom every day. I tell my Mom I love her and I know she is with The Lord. I thank the Lord for her. Even if she did not raise me she birth me and The Lord let us have years with each other & special time and my prayer was answered in that. I treasure in my heart all we had! Away 11 years now, was 80 1/2 years on that day in June 21, 2005. Love & Miss so much
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thank you, hugs )))
45918✽
You are not alone in sending birthday wishes and love to family how have past..
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hugs ))
35167✽
You are in my group, too. With each family member that has passed, we go out or cook a special meal in remembrance of them. Happy birthday to your mom . :)
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thank you and hugs )))
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by
seamripper40
18 Sep 2016
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My dad died when I was 13 and Mom in 09 and still say have birthday and a prayer. Still missing them.
26714✽
I do that too. Every December 30th I say happy Birthday to my late husband. Cut a piece of cake and plain white milk sing happy birthday. .. His favorite combination. i know he listens to me. Why did God take him?