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We lost our son in law this week to terminal liver failure. He and our oldest daughter had been married less than a year. He hid his illness from her with lies until the last two months when it grew to be too hard to hide. His illness was caused from chronic alcohol abuse. It was a horrible way to die. Please remember our daughter in your prayers, as she is dealing with such anger at his actions and choices, and yet missing him so very much. Thank you.
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dailylaundry
14 Jun 2018
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This is very sad. Prayers for your daughter. Her grief must be overwhelming.
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She is hurting so much and it is so difficult to be unable to take that hurt away. She plans to seek counseling to help with all the conflicting issues and feelings. I have so much admiration for her.
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I'm so sorry and my thoughts are with your daughter and your family,
hugs,
Gabi
hugs,
Gabi
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Thank you. It's been tough. I didn't realize how much it would affect us just to see our daughter in such pain. We all feel broken. But she is strong, and we will get through this with God's help and guidance.
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So sorry that your daughter and family must go thru this. We sometimes forget how our actions affect those around us and I am sure he was trying to protect her. Prayers for your daughter and family!
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thank you. He has two sons that haven't even been told yet, and I fear that those boys will have many future problems in dealing with this.
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graceandham
14 Jun 2018
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How awful for her. I will pray that she comes out of this whole and blessed with a new, wonderful life.
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She is such a good person, and I hope she is blessed with a person who treats her as the special person she is.
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kustomkuddle
14 Jun 2018
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Wow. What a myriad of emotions. I am surprised that he could hide it that long. You are correct in that it is a horrible disease. I've cared for several people with this condition during my nursing career. Praying for healing and comfort for all of your family. May your spirits be lifted by God's love and mercy.
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Looking back, there were signs and symptoms that he brushed off as other things that we see now were caused from his sickness. I so wish he had been able to be honest with my daughter, but I guess the toxins affected his judgement and decisions. Thank you for your kind words.
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I'm so very sorry that you all are suffering from this shock and loss. Please know that we all are here for you. May you both find peace and comfort during this terrible time. You and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you for those words. It has been a difficult time for sure. I know that tragedies like this bring out either the best or the worst in people, and we are seeing both.
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So sorry for your family's loss.
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thank you. We didn't know him well, but our daughter is hurting so much and it is so difficult to see, and be powerless to take her pain away.
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crafter2243
14 Jun 2018
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I am so sorry for your daughter and also for you. It is hard to see any of our children be in pain. Prayers will be said. May God remove the anger from her and help her to deal with the loss.
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Thank you. I didn't realize how deep the anger mixed with anguish that she is experiencing.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and her during this time.
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Thank you. She is talking with us and her sister, and we see that she is struggling but her inner strength is also shining through.
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This makes my heart ache. I can imagine the the anger and hurt of not being told the truth and yet loving enough to want to spend her life with him. prayers for you all/Lillian
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In just a few words, you have summed up the situation. Our hearts do ache. Thanks
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shirley124
15 Jun 2018
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Sending prayers for you and your daughter. Hugs
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Thank you. It's a tough time
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I am so sorry that your strong girl must go through this. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for your to watch her struggle. Just let her know that you are praying for her. Let her know what you are praying and give her verses that she can claim as she navigates this most difficult journey. I pray that his children have someone who comes up beside them and gets them the help they need. This illness is hereditary in nature and they can be saved the same fate with the right help.
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They and our daughter are planning to go to counseling. I so appreciate the part about claiming the verses for her. I've been praying for her but her having those verses is wonderful. Thank you so much.
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I am so very sorry to read this. Your daughter is so very lucky to have parents who will stand by her at this tragic time. My condolences to you all.
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Thank you. We are proud of how well she is coping.
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jofrog2000
15 Jun 2018
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It really hits hard when your child has to go through such heartache. Sending prayers for you all.
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Heartache and heartbreak and heartsick are all true. But she is so strong and we will do all we can to help.
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I am so sorry to hear this. He must have had reasons for hiding his addiction from family. You will need to search for ways to forgive him. When our children hurt we hurt as well. You, your daughter and family are in my prayers.
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He did tell his family that he really thought he would drink and then go to sleep and not wake up, but he didn't know it would end in this awful way. My daughter did get to tell him that she forgave him, so that gives her peace.
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My condolences to you your daughter and family. It is hard to lose someone so close, no matter what the circumstance.
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It is difficult to deal with, but I am proud of my daughter for dealing with this with grace and humility.
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lots of strenght and prayers send. I hope you all find a way to understand the reason of not telling and to cope with that.
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It has been a difficult time, but my daughter is reaching out and letting us be part of her support system and that feels good to us. We won't ever know why he (and his family) kept such secrets, but she will come to terms with it,with God's help.
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sharonleekesner
15 Jun 2018
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Healing, peace, strength and faith for all of you. This is truly a tragedy.
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It is sad, because he was a very smart man who made some bad choices. My daughter is grieving for a lot of reasons, and will be getting counseling for help. I know there's no right or wrong way to grieve, but I think my daughter is handling it in a thoughtful and sensitive way that is healthy for her and her little girl.
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What a mix of swirling emotions. May God grant her peace and comfort.
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Thanks so much. It is a swirl of things. My daughter is hurting, but not holding anything back and I think she is coping in healthy ways, and I admire her so much
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He must have been so desperate for her love to keep this from her. May all those who loved him find peace and I pray that you too can come to terms with this.
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That is an excellent way of putting it. He definitely had his demons,but I believe that my daughter and her daughter kept him alive longer. She misses him terribly but began counseling this week to help herself.
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I am so sorry to read this and my heart aches for your daughter and family. I’m praying for peace and acceptance and a sense of serenity during the funeral and the coming days, weeks, months and years. Love Chris
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Thank you. He passed away on Sunday evening, and his funeral was on Tuesday morning. It seemed as though his family (his siblings all have their own addiction problems) wanted to get it over with as soon as possible. That was definitely difficult for my daughter but she handled it and is coping the best she can.
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My condolences go out to your daughter and you. Thoughts and prayers too. Hugs from Maureen
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Thank you. Its a situation I never expected to happen, but my daughter is a strong, level-headed person who will get through this. I am so proud of the woman she is.
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hightechgrammy
23 Jun 2018
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I will certainly pray for her. May God comfort you in your time of grief.
Hugs, Jan
Hugs, Jan
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Thank you. My daughter isn't used to being at the mercy of her emotions, so she feels very unsettled. But since it's only been two weeks, I think she is doing very well.
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jgwatchorn
23 Jun 2018
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My thoughts and prayers are with you . Janette
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thank you so much. My daughter is seeing a counselor to help her sort out her feelings and it is helping some.
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I'm sorry for the loss, hope your daughter can accept and move on without anger but with loving memories. Prayers for her and rest of family.
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Thank you. She hasn't gotten to that point yet, but I'm confident that she will get there
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My prayers are with your family
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Thank you so much.
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Sorry he used your daughter and caused her grief when he could have been honest. I pray she gets her family back together.
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She is hurting and it is so hard to see my child in pain over this man who lied and deceived her about so many things.