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update.....
there is going to be graveside service just for family...there is a 14 day quarantine if Jim and I went, so we couldn't even be around our family for 14 days, then another 14 dau quarantine when we get home, so unfortunately we made the tough decision to stay put...
Jim's dad passed this AM after being taken off life support, he has been on it since Thursday.....not covid but too long to write about......due to covid no one could be with him......I am just sick......staying strong for Jim....this all happened in PA over 750 miles from us......just waiting for his sister to let us know what next........This is just a horrible time to lose a loved one......😭 I know he is with God and his loving wife now and out of pain......he was 88......
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dragonflyer
22 Dec 2020
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So sad to hear this, Vicki....it's never a good time, but especially difficult in these time and at this time of the year... thoughts and prayers to all...
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graceandham
22 Dec 2020
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So sorry for both of you in this loss. Try to find ways that mimic the usual traditions in a time of death, that is, find ways to "meet" with people who cared about him and who care about you, whether over the phone, computer (Facebook, Zoom, or right here). Perhaps you two can set a time to sit together to talk about the important things and the memories of him, if the funeral is to be postponed or limited. The kitties will be a lot of reassurance in this time for you guys, as they pick up on emotions and give more rubs, purrs and attention. Don't forget to celebrate as well as mourn. He had a long life and probably had many wonderful years and wonderful people and experiences in them.
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So sorry to hear this. Not being able to stay with them when the ends comes is so sad.
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Oh Vickie, words can never ever fill the void you and Jim are now carrying. I'm so very sorry. I agree with gaceandham to celebrate his life and remember the treasures of memories you both carry. Please know you are all wrapped in hundreds of cyber hugs. And let kitties help to comfort you.
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dailylaundry
22 Dec 2020
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Such sad news for Jim, his family and you. It is so difficult to lose a parent regardless of your age, and then just before Christmas. Seems like no words can help dealing with the grief. Please know your hubby and you are in my prayers and I am sending you a big cyber hug. Laura
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Oh No.... My sympathies to you Jim and the family ... Never a good time to die but so close to the holidays seems worse. Take it one day at a time. Cyber hugs to you both. My thoughts and my prayers are with you now and always. Hope you are doing better after your surgery. HUGS
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crafter2243
22 Dec 2020
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Vickie I am so so sorry. It is never a good time to loose a loved one, but right now it has to be the worse. Not being able to be with them has to be gut wrenching. My condolences to Jim and you.
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So sorry Vickie!! My sympathy to your family. I am in PA and I know those who are going or have gone thru this. It is awful that most are dying alone without any family......so sad. Prayers for you all. Tonya
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asterixsew
22 Dec 2020
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Sad news dear. I know of a few who have lost a parent in 2020 and due to COVID could not visit to say goodbye. Thinking positive thoughts for you.
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sorry Vickie, it must be hard to loose a loved parent and not be able to be together. My condolences, my thoughts and prayers for you and family.
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I am so sorry for your & Jim’s loss. It is so sad and really tears at your heart to know family can’t be with a loved one at a time of death. I feel so bad for y’all and others that this happens to.
My hubby’s brother Douglas is on hospice now. He says he NEVER wants to go back into the hospital, so this means he will die at home with his family. We are just hoping it comes after the holidays....
May you be comforted during this time, with good memories. Toogie
My hubby’s brother Douglas is on hospice now. He says he NEVER wants to go back into the hospital, so this means he will die at home with his family. We are just hoping it comes after the holidays....
May you be comforted during this time, with good memories. Toogie
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Praying for you all. Even in a time such as this God is still there! Be encouraged! You all are not alone (Isiah 43:2-3)
May the Lord strengthen you all on every leaning side!
May the Lord strengthen you all on every leaning side!
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May God be with you and Jim at this time, Good to know in the mist of our sorrow God is our source strength. will be praying for the family.
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My prayers for your family, and whilst I know you are all so very sad think how happy Jim's Dad must be to be out of pain but most of all to be with our Lord. How wonderful you know the Lord and can get so much comfort from knowing this and for yourselves. God Bless.
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May the good Lord bless and keep you and your family in this time of sorrow.....
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My condolences. The separation of family from their loved ones at such a time is one of the cruelties of this virus. May God comfort you and your family. Please stay strong, as you can see from all the comments, many folks care about you.
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Oh! Vicki, I am so sad to read this post. It's never a good time when a loved one dies, but during this Covid pandemic it's doubly worse. I pray that you will all be comforted knowing he is out of pain. My heartfelt sympathy for you and Jim. Love Chris
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Sorry for your loss, this is especially hard at this time of year hopefully you will be able to visit the family safely soon.
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I am sorry to hear of his passing. You and Jim made the right choice, although a tough decision it was the right one. Please know I will keep you and Jim in my prayers.
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graceandham
27 Dec 2020
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Praying for you and Jim during these hard days when it seems everyone else is having a joyous family time and you two can't even have a proper mourning. Thank God for God being with you. Next Christmas will be a new perspective on everything! Meanwhile, hang in there. Writing some of your memories of times with your father in law may be useful.
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Oh praise God another angel came home So happy for him .Now you guys left behind need to stand strong and wait for the trumpet blast.May God be with you big hugs Carolynxxx
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard to accept that you could not be with Jim's dad through it all. Yes, it is a horrible time ,and this time of year you will always remember saying goodby to him.
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kustomkuddle
28 Dec 2020
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Oh Vicki, I am so sorry to hear of JIm's Dad's passing. I know a while ago he was not doing well and Jim had flown to be with him. My heart goes out to you that you can not be among family during this heart wrenching time. Please know that all the cuties are sending their loving arms around you and Jim and our prayers are with you. Wishing I could give you a hug in person, but here is a cyber hug instead. Know that Jim's dad has finally gone home to loved ones that have already passed and will be waiting with open arms for others to join.
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hightechgrammy
30 Dec 2020
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Vicki, I'm so sad for you and Jim. I think not being able to be there has to be as bad as losing him. A virtual funeral is just not the same. My cousin and his dad both died in September, and no one could be with either of them. They had nurses by their beds. So sad for everyone who loved them. Then my friend lost both his parents this last week to COVID. So sad. I am praying for you and Jim's family in this very hard time. Love and cyber hugs, Jan