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Hello Cuties! I hope you don’t think me cruel or unfeeling when I tell you that I don’t think all deaths have to be sad. Yesterday a lady friend I loved deeply died. I was initially sad but immediately I felt such peace. You see, Clara had the beginnings of altzhiemiers or dementia. We just found this out right before Christmas. She had phoned here and spoke to my husband. He could tell she was a little confused. When he related their conversation to me I got in touch with the family. They said one of the sons were with her but must have been outside. The son was staying with her because her husband was in hospital with heart trouble. He died Christmas Eve. Now thirteen days later she has. I told another friend even though it’s hard on the children I hope when our time comes, we go close like this. Clara and Vester were like us. You didn’t see one without the other. They had only three sons and none of them live close. I am at peace for the sons, for Clara not having to cope with the dementia and I know where she is spending eternity! I loved her so much! When we got together talking never ceased-lol-she always made me feel special but knowing Clara she probably made everyone feel that way. I’m not sad, although I will miss her, I’m at peace.
Here is another quilt top I thought I would complete this week, but I need six 2 1/2 inch navy squares. Look at the last two blocks, bottom right. I also am missing the 3 1/2 inch navy outer border that goes all around. I can’t sew this stripe inner border, until I finish those 2 blocks, so I will put it aside for now. I have 3 more tops to piece and I would like to get them done this month.
Thanks for reading my thoughts if you made it this far-lol😂 as always best wishes for good health.-Toogie
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asterixsew
07 Jan 2021
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Toogie I clearly hear what you say. Very hard for the sons. Dementia robs of everything one has had and changes people. Love the quilt and love seeing what you have created
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Thanks and I am glad you understood what I meant. She would have had to move out of her home, to be cared for and so I’m glad it happened like this. She was what I call a true lady.
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This is a real rest in peace story. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. The quilt is very nice, as usual you have done an excellent job.
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Thanks and yes it is true. I felt this same peace when my mamma died.
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Thanks for sharing this beautiful story with us. It is so true that death does not have to be sad. Especially when you know you will be seeing each other in Heaven. I'm so glad she did not have to suffer the indignities of this terrible condition and she is now with her beloved Lord and having a loving reunion with her hubby.
And another lovely quilt top. You are amazing how you are able to make them so quickly.
And another lovely quilt top. You are amazing how you are able to make them so quickly.
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Hubby will let me sew on them as long as I fix something for meals- it can be a hamburger or leftovers, if it’s something he likes. 😉😂
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Hi Toogie, I am always amazed at your output! This is gorgeous and I'm sure you'll be able to find something to put in there.
What a beautiful story about your friend Clara and her husband Vester. We have a couple at church who are both in their late nineties. The wife Beryl died 4 weeks ago and her husband Eric 97 is on his last days. It's always in God's timing isn't it? We were asked on Sunday to keep the family in our prayers. They will be together soon. Love Chris
What a beautiful story about your friend Clara and her husband Vester. We have a couple at church who are both in their late nineties. The wife Beryl died 4 weeks ago and her husband Eric 97 is on his last days. It's always in God's timing isn't it? We were asked on Sunday to keep the family in our prayers. They will be together soon. Love Chris
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Sharon has all our QOV fabrics and is mailing me the 6 squares. She would have mailed the border too but I told her to wait and let me see if it’s a match.
Like you say it’s all in Gods timing. My oldest sister-in-law is 94 and still doing well. Faye is my hubby’s sister and his oldest brother Quince is 92 still drive about 5 miles to his son every night for supper/dinner. Of course they eat about 5 so he is home before dark. Their aunt is 102 and still gets around with a cane. She stopped driving at 100!-lol
Like you say it’s all in Gods timing. My oldest sister-in-law is 94 and still doing well. Faye is my hubby’s sister and his oldest brother Quince is 92 still drive about 5 miles to his son every night for supper/dinner. Of course they eat about 5 so he is home before dark. Their aunt is 102 and still gets around with a cane. She stopped driving at 100!-lol
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My friend Clara- I don’t know why the photo has a yellow tint across her face and hair, but it’s the best pic I had of her. She was so soft spoken, a true southern lady, in every sense of the word.
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What a beautiful looking lady she was. She has a really serene face and gentle eyes. God is looking after her now. Love Chris
You can see and feel the peace she oozes. Eyes are certainly windows of our souls and hers show peace and love. Such a beautiful lady and I know you will miss her.
She's beautiful :-)
Inside and out.
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clintonmiss22
09 Jan 2021
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A sweet story of Clara. Good to know you are at peace about your friend. Dementia is an awful disease, so glad she, and her family, don't have to cope with it in its final stages.
I lost a friend this week too. She just turned 96. Her children moved her from her home about six months ago. Took her out of her familiar surroundings and to a strange city where she only knew one daughter.
Because her daughter only had bedrooms upstairs she had to go to an assisted living home. I know it confused and saddened her. Because of COVID, no one could visit. She fell, broke a bone, and didn't recover from surgery. She loved Jesus, so am also at peace with her passing, but will miss her.
I lost a friend this week too. She just turned 96. Her children moved her from her home about six months ago. Took her out of her familiar surroundings and to a strange city where she only knew one daughter.
Because her daughter only had bedrooms upstairs she had to go to an assisted living home. I know it confused and saddened her. Because of COVID, no one could visit. She fell, broke a bone, and didn't recover from surgery. She loved Jesus, so am also at peace with her passing, but will miss her.
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I’m sorry for your loss and the last days of her life seem so sad.
I bet in Heaven she will only remember the good days!
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crafter2243
09 Jan 2021
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Today you taught me to read first and then look at the project. Ha, ha I looked at the corner of the quilt and wondered what happened. This does not look like something Toogie did. Now I get it. Did you order more material? If so one can only hope that it will be a good enough match.
After reading your sweet account of your friend Clara, memories of my husbands passing came back to me. I felt so guilty at the time, because I was relieved when he passed. He was in so much pain, that I thought it to be a blessing. Oh yes i missed him terrible at the same time and still do even though 15 years have passed.
After reading your sweet account of your friend Clara, memories of my husbands passing came back to me. I felt so guilty at the time, because I was relieved when he passed. He was in so much pain, that I thought it to be a blessing. Oh yes i missed him terrible at the same time and still do even though 15 years have passed.
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I understand exactly what you’re saying and how you feel. We watched my father-in-law die with cancer. I told my husband, his dad looked so much better, once he died because he had suffered so much before. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them, in fact just the opposite. Because you love them so much, you eventually welcome death, so their suffering will be over.
I’m sorry you lost your husband and if it’s been that long, he must have died the same year our granddaughter Isabella died, Avery’s twin. It will be 15 years on the 19th .
I’m sorry you lost your husband and if it’s been that long, he must have died the same year our granddaughter Isabella died, Avery’s twin. It will be 15 years on the 19th .
Forgot to address about the fabric. Sharon one of our group leaders has put me a piece in the mail. We buy it on bolts so no problem there. She has several different navy bolts and she ‘thinks’ she remembers the piece I took. If the 6 squares are the same navy then I’ll get her to mail me the wide Navy outer border.
Awesome because navy dye lots are difficult to match.
The date of Isabellas death is the my late husbands birthday.
The date of Isabellas death is the my late husbands birthday.
What a coincidence.
Toogie, I didn't realize Avery is a twin. How very sad. Would she have had the same challenges as Avery? Were they full term? I always admire you for the incredible love you share with Avery.
Yes, Avery was a twin, an identical twin. And yes, Isabella would have been like Avery. No they weren't 40 weeks but 26 . The pregnancy was know as Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome.
Taken from John Hopkins, Twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (TTTS) is a rare pregnancy condition affecting identical twins or other multiples. TTTS occurs in pregnancies where twins share one placenta (afterbirth) and a network of blood vessels that supply oxygen and nutrients essential for development in the womb.
Taken from John Hopkins, Twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (TTTS) is a rare pregnancy condition affecting identical twins or other multiples. TTTS occurs in pregnancies where twins share one placenta (afterbirth) and a network of blood vessels that supply oxygen and nutrients essential for development in the womb.
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dragonflyer
10 Jan 2021
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So nice that you had such a good friend in Clara...I know she is smiling down on you and relieved to be in the company of her dear husband. Glad you were able to get the missing fabric to finish your lovely quilt...
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Thank you, I received my strip of fabric to subcut my squares, yesterday. She put it inside a card I’ll have to show you above.
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Here is the card Sharon sent with the fabric I needed for the missing squares.
Of course, I laughed!
Of course, I laughed!
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What a super card and she must be a good friend of yours
I just met her two years ago. Gosh, we haven't got together for regular meetings, in almost a year! Time is just flying by. She is one of the leaders in our quilt group. She knows I like to laugh and have a good time. She also knows once I make a top, I like to try a different pattern. I like the challenge but I also told her it was boring to me to make the same top, over and over. She said one woman likes to make the bow tie pattern over and over. Maybe I am not normal-lol-since I like different.
Someone needs to digitize that!
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hightechgrammy
11 Jan 2021
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Toogie, I just LOVE you! You have a heart of gold with diamonds too! Your quilt is just incredible and I'm so glad someone had your fabric - I was going to go search my stash.... I'm so glad you feel joy for your friend. My parents passed away two years ago. Dad went first and the day after his funeral my mom joined him. The day before she passed away she told one aide at the memory care home "I'm going to see Angels tomorrow," and she told a different aide "I'm going to Heaven tomorrow." They were incredibly close - more in love than any other couple I have ever known. 91 years old and a life complete. We just feel like Dad was calling her to join him - and she did. I only felt joy and relief. Relief that neither would have to live without the other. Relief that Dad wouldn't have to move out of his little apartment he loved to a nursing home away from Mom. I have missed them each, terribly, but truly the grief just isn't there. There is JOY! Love and hugs, dear Toogie! Jan
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The love between your parents seem evident by their passing. I told my husband before and my daughters I hope my husband and I go like that. Of course, once when we were about to take a trip one of our daughters told us she dreamed we died in a fiery car crash. That kinda made you more cautious on the road.-lol