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Hello Cuties, I want to thank you for prayers for our family. My husband and I lost his brother Douglas (70) to that horrible disease Cancer. This is the brother next in age to my hubby and the second brother to die within 6 weeks of one another. This has been so hard on him, his devoted wife of 48 years and all of us that love him. Jenny, his wife, said yesterday that she has never seen a family this size that were so close to each other. The next few days will be hard to go though but we know our Father in heaven will comfort us and be with us after. To know Douglas was to love him. He treated our kids like his own and vise-Versa. We will always love and remember him from precious memories and through his music. Jenny has been a perfect mate and caregiver. She has endured through finding her grandson to suicide, losing her youngest son to Fredricks Ataxia and now caring for Douglas through this. Everyone says she is a strong woman. I know she could never have faced all this without God by her side. I hope she is comforted through our love, compassion and prayers.
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asterixsew
28 Apr 2021
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Toogie condolences to you and your husband and to Jenny. Remember the many great times that you all had together. Take care
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Thank you, we did have good times with Douglas. He has left a void in our family and will always be remembered. He was so kind to our youngest daughter once in particular, when someone wronged her. I know she will always remember how touched she was for his loving kindness.
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dailylaundry
28 Apr 2021
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Such sad news, Toogie - your family are in my prayers - prayers especially for Jenny. Cancer took my father many years ago - I doubt if there is a family that hasn't been touched by that terrible disease. Again, my sympathies and love, Laura
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Laura I’m sorry your dad and your family had to go through this. It is a horrible disease, you’re right and unfortunately you’re right, most families have been touched with cancer. We have Hope that one day their will be no more disease or suffering, according to His word.❤️
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Sorry to hear of more death in your family. You are fortunate your family is so close. Condolences to you and your family.
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Thank you, we do love one another and are there for each other when there is a need. I know my own kids sent Jenny money so she could take off work to be with Douglas and not have the void of a missing pay day. Other members would send too.
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shirley124
29 Apr 2021
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Sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers to all. Hugs
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Thank you Shirley, it’s been hard losing ‘the baby’ of the family. I would keep the 85 year old brother updated on Douglas. RD was having a hard time accepting the eventual loss. He said as he was 15 years older, when he worked and got his paycheck, he always bought the little ones a bag of Candy. He said he always handed it to Douglas because he was the baby, knowing he would share with the other children.
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graceandham
29 Apr 2021
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You may not feel this yet because of your sadness, but a great relief and victory for Douglas, though wrenching for his sweet wife and you and the rest of the family. May you find moments of joy in this time of sending him home - good stories, good companions, and a continuing sense of the love in the family. That was a long time he suffered.
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Yes it was. He longed, welcomed and prayed for death to come. It was not easy waiting for Gods timing but thankful when it came.
I have to say this though. Get your checkups. Douglas didn’t even though cancer history is in the family. It was too late for him finding at 4th last stage. I have a daughter, a nephew and a niece survivors because caught early. My husbands colonoscopy was scheduled for day of funeral so rescheduled for the 13th. Please all Cuties be in prayer that he is cancer free.
I have to say this though. Get your checkups. Douglas didn’t even though cancer history is in the family. It was too late for him finding at 4th last stage. I have a daughter, a nephew and a niece survivors because caught early. My husbands colonoscopy was scheduled for day of funeral so rescheduled for the 13th. Please all Cuties be in prayer that he is cancer free.
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So sorry to hear this news, but your faith is so inspiring. May it help you through these tough times. Blessings on you and your loved ones.
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Thank you , yes we are not lost, without hope. One day the sufferings of all believers will be no more.
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My condolences go out to Jenny, yourself and all the family. Hugs from Maureen
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Thank you Maureen, you and my Cute family hold a place in my heart and I feel your love.
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Hi Toogie, keeping your family in my prayers. So nice to hear about your closeness. Hugs. Nan
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Oh Nan, the night of the funeral Douglas’ daughter checked on us. I thought I should have checked on them but thought they may finally be able to rest early. I thought that was so sweet of her. I told her nothing has changed between her mom and us. She will always be our sister (in-law).
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Oh Toogie, I am so very sorry to hear you and your hubby and extended are now struggling through another death of a loved one. How I wish I could give you a real hug. Please know I am praying for strength, comfort and wisdom for all.
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I feel peace because his death was welcomed by him and all of us. If this sounds crazy, then one hasn’t walked this path. Douglas went from a nice looking man of 189 pounds to a skin covered skeleton, almost unrecognizable at 80-90 pounds. His suffering is no more. God promised believers no more suffering or shedding of tears. We believe that!
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Dear Toogie, I am so sorry for the loss in your family. Yes, cancer is the worst. We just found out my hubby has bladder cancer and starts chemo today. May the good Lord bless and keep you and your family in your time of need....
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Praying for your hubby, too.
Keep us informed of his status, reminding us to pray for you both. Hope he tolerates the Chemo well. Love to you-Toogie
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toogie so very sorry for yet another loss. Prayers are coming you way for you and the family. HUGS to all!
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Thank you. There were 12 siblings and now there are six left- Two of the oldest are still living at almost 95 & 93, one 85 in June, three in their 70’s. With a large family and everyone up in age, it seems it’s happening often.
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dragonflyer
29 Apr 2021
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So sad to hear this, Toogie...condolences to you and your family.
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Thank you very much Kim. His suffering it over and for that we can be happy.
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crafter2243
29 Apr 2021
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My heart goes out to you and your family. This has been a rough year. Hugs for you.
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Yes it has. You know only too well, the ordeal Jenny has endured with Douglas. Love to you-Toogie
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Toogie, I am so sorry for your family's loss. My sympathy to your family. I will lift you all up in prayer
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Thank you so much. We can all use prayer and Jenny and the kids will need it as their life has changed with him gone.
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clintonmiss22
29 Apr 2021
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So sorry to hear of this loss, but good to know he knew the Lord. Will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Thank you, we are thankful his ordeal has ended. I hate cancer and the suffering it causes.
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hightechgrammy
30 Apr 2021
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Toogie, I am just so sorry your family has had so much to endure. Love and prayers for you and your family,
Hugs, Jan
Hugs, Jan
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This journey though his illness was the worse but now it’s finished, we will be alright. I would feel sick when we came back from their house, literally drained. I prayed as much for Jenny as for Douglas, because caring for him was so stressful. She sounded ok last night as I’m sure she feels the weight lifted from her.
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So sorry to read this news Toogie, prayers for you and your whole family. I'm so glad that your faith will keep you all comforted. Love Chris
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He gives us peace that we need, but then He promises us a comforter and our daily needs. Thank you Chris, we loved him so.
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So very sad for your family. Praying for God's grace to sustain you all in this sad journey. Love, Millie
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Thank you Millie. I think the worse is over, his suffering and funeral. We loved him very much and have our good memories.
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I'm so very sorry for yet another loss in your family. What sweet memories you already have coming forth of him. Please know that my prayers are with you and his wife and the rest of the family. This has been such a hard year of loss. I'm thankful for faith. How else could anyone endure?
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I have no idea how they do, if they only knew the peace of our Comforter.
We have very good memories of Douglas. Even though we didn’t go to their house and visit that often he came here a lot. When weather kept him from working and his wife worked he came here to visit. My husband and him walked the woods together when they were younger teen to about 50 deer hunting. They still rabbit hunted together even tried to go once he was diagnosed but proved to be too much for him. Douglas liked to joke or ‘pick’ as we call it, but he once made even happy go lucky me cry. I laugh now thinking of it and how apologetic he was.
He came in and I was scraping the skins off of fresh red potatoes. I felt terrible because I was a grown woman swollen with mumps on both sides, trying to cook a meal for my family. When he cam in saying, ‘ Gal, you look like a bullfrog fixing to croak’ I burst out in tears! I think he was shocked at my reaction because I usually welcomed a joke or picking. ( and this was a long time before menopause!-lol)
We have very good memories of Douglas. Even though we didn’t go to their house and visit that often he came here a lot. When weather kept him from working and his wife worked he came here to visit. My husband and him walked the woods together when they were younger teen to about 50 deer hunting. They still rabbit hunted together even tried to go once he was diagnosed but proved to be too much for him. Douglas liked to joke or ‘pick’ as we call it, but he once made even happy go lucky me cry. I laugh now thinking of it and how apologetic he was.
He came in and I was scraping the skins off of fresh red potatoes. I felt terrible because I was a grown woman swollen with mumps on both sides, trying to cook a meal for my family. When he cam in saying, ‘ Gal, you look like a bullfrog fixing to croak’ I burst out in tears! I think he was shocked at my reaction because I usually welcomed a joke or picking. ( and this was a long time before menopause!-lol)