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Hello Cuties! I tried a few weeks ago to get participation from you to show your view, from your sewing room. For those few of you who did, I thank you. However, now I want to try this.
Tell how you met or married your spouse.I will start.
Our meeting is nothing spectacular. I am the youngest of three girls. My oldest sister (4 years older) had a date coming and he bought a friend. My middle sister thought she would get the friend, but my oldest sister and I both knew the friend liked me. We dated 2 years and during that time, he was drafted in the Army. He did his basic training (6 weeks) in the state we lived in, but his AIT (8 weeks) was in another state. He was sent home during the 8 weeks for a brief time, because of emergency leave. His brother was not expected to live from an accident, but thankfully did. My guy told me when he came home for the emergency leave, that if his orders were for Vietnam, we would not marry. Sadly, we knew too many weren't coming home again and although he never voiced it, I suppose he didn't want to leave me a widow. His orders were to serve in Germany for 18 months. He had a 2 week leave before going overseas and we married just days into his leave. When he found an available apartment for us, I went to meet him. Our only son Brian was born there and we had 2 daughters, Marsha and Ashley, years after coming home. So we met in 1966, married 1968 and still together today. For our 50th anniversary, I made a quilt for him/us. I embroidered all the white blocks. I put info like his /my parents, grandparents both sides, our siblings (his took 4 blocks as he comes from a family of 12 kids!) our children, when they married, their children dates born, etc. I had a few more blocks that I didn't want to leave just white, so I embroidered when he was drafted and his stations in army on one block, our first address/apartment in Schwabisch Gmund, Germany where we married, and who was present (3 people not counting us), when we each accepted Christ & were baptized, both our retirements, etc. The grown grandchildren and others really enjoyed just 'reading the quilt' at our 50th anniversary party the kids gave us. (quilt is in one of my Sewing post here I think) I guess the most remarkable thing is that I was so young! About 10 years ago, one of my aunts told me something that I felt really good about. She had 2 children both divorced, son more than twice and both my sisters were divorced after years of marriage. The aunt said she would now admit she was one of the ones talked about us, that it would never work, I was too young. She said she was proud of me raising good kids and making a lovely home. I was speechless....(for once!-lol)
Another thing, if you're still reading-lol, I want to say and it is in no way meant to make light of the guys we lost in Vietnam, no way I mean to hurt anyone's feelings. I am so proud of our men and women who served and still serve.
You know with 50 plus years ,you are going to have disagreements or you are not of this world-lol- this is what I told my husband.
'I wonder how many times you wish your orders had been for War?!)-lol-lol just kidding, still love each other!
So what is your story? Please tell us, no matter if you think it is like mine, unremarkable.
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asterixsew
05 Aug 2021
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Toogie a great read. I will reply but I have just got home from looking after the boys. Being a grandparent is busy for me In school holidays. I am totally shattered
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I will enjoy reading, I am sure. So get your feet up, and start typing!
A evening meal has perked me up. Right how did I meet my husband, he dug me up on a archaeological dig one summer. I was at college and he had just finished studying and we were both working on a castle that was being excavated. Two great summers and a load of hard work. I was the cook housekeeper and fed everyone for about $1 a day - this was almost 50 years ago. The core staff which included my husband became the county's Rescue Archaeology Unit. I by then was teaching.
Eventually almost ten years later we married, my husband had moved to Wales and I followed and we have been here over 40 years.
Eventually almost ten years later we married, my husband had moved to Wales and I followed and we have been here over 40 years.
I must say I burst out laughing when I read ,'he dug me up'! I love all this sharing and reminiscing!!!
What a great autobiography! I also loved the dug you up statement. I can't top that! hehe I would have loved to become an archeologist but don't do well roughing it. I love history so love anything historical.
Right, then, may I ask if you were carbon dated?
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I enjoyed reading your story! LIfe has many turns!
I was a teacher and Apple Computer sent a free computer to every school in the USA back in 1971. The computer showed up and I thought I'd better learn about them. I got out the University's class catalog and signed up for Computers, Basic, 101A. When I showed up for class, I found out that "Basics" was the langue to program the computer, not how to use a computer. I stayed in the class as I had already paid for it. My husband was in the class and we started writing programs together. By the time we started dating, I assumed that he was a few years older. It turned out that he thought I was older than I was and I thought he was younger than he was. There was an 18 year difference between us. He had one child and I never wanted children of my own.I was 28 at the time. He was just the perfect man for me that we did marry.
That was 48 years ago. I never regretted having him in my life. He's 92 now and has all the age related problems that go along with that. He needs more health care are and his memory gets confused at times. That is stressful because he's sure what his brain is telling him is right and no amount of logic can persuade him otherwise. But, knew that would happen when I married him. While I'm sure his time with me is running out, we've had a good life I look forward to enjoying what time we have left together however long that may be.
I was a teacher and Apple Computer sent a free computer to every school in the USA back in 1971. The computer showed up and I thought I'd better learn about them. I got out the University's class catalog and signed up for Computers, Basic, 101A. When I showed up for class, I found out that "Basics" was the langue to program the computer, not how to use a computer. I stayed in the class as I had already paid for it. My husband was in the class and we started writing programs together. By the time we started dating, I assumed that he was a few years older. It turned out that he thought I was older than I was and I thought he was younger than he was. There was an 18 year difference between us. He had one child and I never wanted children of my own.I was 28 at the time. He was just the perfect man for me that we did marry.
That was 48 years ago. I never regretted having him in my life. He's 92 now and has all the age related problems that go along with that. He needs more health care are and his memory gets confused at times. That is stressful because he's sure what his brain is telling him is right and no amount of logic can persuade him otherwise. But, knew that would happen when I married him. While I'm sure his time with me is running out, we've had a good life I look forward to enjoying what time we have left together however long that may be.
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Oh I love reading your ‘story’. Along with aging, does come the health issues. I know, because you already sound like, you are appreciative of the life God has given you. Bless you both.
Sweet story. I think you two must have been made for each other.
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dlonnahawkins
05 Aug 2021
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Well, Toogie - I too married a service man serving in very early Viet Nam. I was a senior in high school in Nebraska, and he was with the SAC headquarters that had a radar site in my hometown. I had never had a blind date, and was set up by one of the Air Force "boys" that was completing his high school requirements and was in my senior English class.
We went out, and then he just kind of disappeared. I did not know at that time just exactly what he did. Well, after a few months he came back, we went out, but he again "disappeared". <br /><br />
I graduated high school, and actually started seeing someone else for a time. Ken came back into the picture, and called me. He came to my college and we went out. Well, he again "disappeared". <br /><br />
During my summer break he called my home, and we met up. I was then working at the local hospital, planning to go into nursing training, and not seeing anyone. I learned that he was possibly discharging from the service. Later in the summer he told me his sisters were coming to Nebraska to drive back with him when he went home, and asked me to go with him.
My parents met his sisters, and agreed to let me go. During this trip to West Virginia, and my visit with his family we decided to get married, but he did not have a job, and I went back to Nebraska, but we kept in contact....this was in 1963. We met in early 1962, and married in 1964. By that time he had gone to Florida, got a job and called and asked my dad to bring me to Florida. We married, and celebrated our 55th anniversary.
Ken has traveled the world in his job in data processing, earned his degrees, and I never learned exactly what he did in the service until much later.
We had 2 girls, both got their educations, and gave us 4 grandchildren. 2 boys, and 2 girls. Now these grands, are giving us our greats....we have 7 so far, and another one due in September. That will give us 5 girls, and 3 boys in the greats....and believe me...this makes it being a great-grandparent the best!
We went out, and then he just kind of disappeared. I did not know at that time just exactly what he did. Well, after a few months he came back, we went out, but he again "disappeared". <br /><br />
I graduated high school, and actually started seeing someone else for a time. Ken came back into the picture, and called me. He came to my college and we went out. Well, he again "disappeared". <br /><br />
During my summer break he called my home, and we met up. I was then working at the local hospital, planning to go into nursing training, and not seeing anyone. I learned that he was possibly discharging from the service. Later in the summer he told me his sisters were coming to Nebraska to drive back with him when he went home, and asked me to go with him.
My parents met his sisters, and agreed to let me go. During this trip to West Virginia, and my visit with his family we decided to get married, but he did not have a job, and I went back to Nebraska, but we kept in contact....this was in 1963. We met in early 1962, and married in 1964. By that time he had gone to Florida, got a job and called and asked my dad to bring me to Florida. We married, and celebrated our 55th anniversary.
Ken has traveled the world in his job in data processing, earned his degrees, and I never learned exactly what he did in the service until much later.
We had 2 girls, both got their educations, and gave us 4 grandchildren. 2 boys, and 2 girls. Now these grands, are giving us our greats....we have 7 so far, and another one due in September. That will give us 5 girls, and 3 boys in the greats....and believe me...this makes it being a great-grandparent the best!
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I have to say OOPS - we have been married 57 years. LOL
One does loose count!-lol-I will have to google SAC headquarters so I will understand his ‘disappearances’. So did your parents go to your wedding ceremony in Florida?
He was in what they call special ops now....He was later assigned to Strategic Air Command.
dlonna, my husband was in SAC too!
Well, I'm glad he gave up his disappearing act! LOL
Great love story.
Great love story.
Jrob - I think that he has had his disappearing act for many years. LOL The work he was in for various companies and the DOD had him traveling a lot. He once told some friends that we were probably still together because we had only really lived together for 15 y
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My husband, Rob, and I met at a Bible Study. Honest! It was pretty much love at first sight. He was a paramedic, interesting since I hate even the sight of needles. hehe We married 18 months later, had no money but lived on love, I guess. He had started the first paramedic ambulance company on our state which is still in existence. He sold it and went to Seminary and entered the Air Force as a Chaplain. During most of this time I supported us, I was a Special Education teacher. I loved following him around to the different states and Bases during the 16 years he spent as a Chaplain. He retired and we retired to our home in Florida. And now we take care of each other as we struggle like everyone else with medical issues. We have been married for 34 years, never had children but have have shared our lives with so many wonderful people. There is so much more I would love to tell, but my husband's brother is due very soon for a quick visit. And BTW, I am enjoying hearing about the stories others are telling.
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I say, I for one, will look forward to more of what you’d like to say. Enjoy your visit for now.
You're handsome hubby was verys weet to keep us informed when you were so very ill and we were so worried about you. That's a kindness not soon forgotten.
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asterixsew
05 Aug 2021
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Right Toogie I have added my 'bit' under my post at the bottom
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Was a 'bit' used to 'dig you up?'-lol
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crafter2243
05 Aug 2021
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Kind of ironic that you would ask that question today. Today it has been 16 years since he passed away due to pancreatic cancer.
I am not very good with words so unlike all the other descriptions this is short. We both worked in a wonderful hotel by the beach. Me trying to earn enough money to support my 2 children as a divorced and single mom and him supplementing income while starting his business. I first paid attention to him when he put a unruly guest in his place. The guest was very rude towards me. Later he pretended to be my husband. A group of workers would meet after our shifts and stop by at a local pizza place and he was always among them. Evtl we started dating and then he met my children. I used to tease him that he married me because he was in love with my 2 year old daughter and then he became the father figure for my 7 year old son. He was a 36 year old bachelor when he married me and instant fatherhood was not so easy specially when we added twin girls to the mix 2 years later. We were married 34 years when he passed away.
I am not very good with words so unlike all the other descriptions this is short. We both worked in a wonderful hotel by the beach. Me trying to earn enough money to support my 2 children as a divorced and single mom and him supplementing income while starting his business. I first paid attention to him when he put a unruly guest in his place. The guest was very rude towards me. Later he pretended to be my husband. A group of workers would meet after our shifts and stop by at a local pizza place and he was always among them. Evtl we started dating and then he met my children. I used to tease him that he married me because he was in love with my 2 year old daughter and then he became the father figure for my 7 year old son. He was a 36 year old bachelor when he married me and instant fatherhood was not so easy specially when we added twin girls to the mix 2 years later. We were married 34 years when he passed away.
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'He put a unruly guest in his place' makes him your knight in shining armor! I know you miss him. Thank you for sharing.
What a sweet story, and so like mine. I also was a recently divorced mother of two. My life changed for the better that day! I know you miss your husband still, we never "get over" a loss so great. Hugs, Jan
Jan tell us more of you and Willie. How did you meet?
Such a sweet story, Angie. I know you must miss him terribly.
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dailylaundry
05 Aug 2021
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Toogie - Honestly, my roommate at University of Florida introduced me to my future husband, who was a good friend of hers. We ate as a group one night and after, I was impressed that he unset the table and started washing dishes!! That truly impressed me - lol. We were friends within a group of friends (all without much money) - but we had the best time at UofF. Every time I saw him - my heart skipped a beat - wasn't long before he asked me out and that was it - we were a couple from that time on. Even when we were at our poorest - we never argued about money - we are both big savers. Hubby accepted a job in Mobile, Alabama and we were there for 14 years and then were transferred to Michigan. We have 1 girl and 3 boys (last two are twins). They are all college educated, with good jobs, thank heavers! Two married and two will be married within the next 6 months. We love our "In-law" kiddos and are blessed that all the kids love each other and get along so well. We have 3 grandchildren (one adopted - but he is ours!!!!). Next January, we will celebrate our 45th wedding anniversary. My husband is wonderful - he supports me in my hobbies as I do with his. Our disagreements are few thank goodness. I know I am blessed!
Thanks for this thread - nice learning more about each other!!! Hugs!
Thanks for this thread - nice learning more about each other!!! Hugs!
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Although there are differences many are the same. We never had much money and at times we wonder how we would make it, but God always provided. It does teach us to be careful with what He provides or to 'save' until we can have what we want. Nowadays, the irresponsible use of credit cards, have broken many people and relationships. People don't try to save for what they want because they want it NOW. However, do they still want it when it comes time to pay up? I doubt it.
I have told this to my kids/grands. I didn't have an outside job at the time that we got a utility bill over half of my husbands monthly paycheck which was not much at that time. I still had other utility bills to pay,house note and food to buy for the month. My oldest said he remembers when I opened the bill, my face turned white. I remember having to sit down, my legs were so weak. My sister had married well and offered to loan us money at the time. I politely refused. My sister told me years later her oldest daughter had wondered why I just didn't take the money/loan. I knew as how as it would be to make it that month it would be even harder to pay back the loan the next month. God provided. We too are blessed and know it and are thankful. We have much love in our home and our hearts.
I have told this to my kids/grands. I didn't have an outside job at the time that we got a utility bill over half of my husbands monthly paycheck which was not much at that time. I still had other utility bills to pay,house note and food to buy for the month. My oldest said he remembers when I opened the bill, my face turned white. I remember having to sit down, my legs were so weak. My sister had married well and offered to loan us money at the time. I politely refused. My sister told me years later her oldest daughter had wondered why I just didn't take the money/loan. I knew as how as it would be to make it that month it would be even harder to pay back the loan the next month. God provided. We too are blessed and know it and are thankful. We have much love in our home and our hearts.
Toogie, I really thought - you'd pick up on the fact that he cleaned the dishes which first caught my attention - hehehe!
Believe me when I say, it didn't go unnoticed!
Find a good man and make him yours!
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Hi Toogie, what a wonderful story of your love and journey in life, and the others too.
I met Trev at BHP (Broken Hill Proprietary) which back then was the biggest company in Australia. He was a cadet learning all about the company when the Vietnam war came, but since he was studying at University he was exempted from conscription.
I was 15 when I met him in 1968 and he was 18. I had just left school and got a job at the Lord Mayor's Stock Exchange company. I used to drop off the scripts for all the Stock Exchange companies in Adelaide. He asked me out one day as the lift doors were closing on his floor and I said 'Yes". I fell in love with his beautiful blue eyes and sense of humour. We went out for 4 years and got engaged on Christmas Eve 1970 and were married on January 22nd 1972. We will celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary on 22/1/22. I just love numbers that mean something, don't you? We are still in love with each other and he's one in a million.
We love going away on holidays together and touring the world and once Covid is over plan to visit our favourite country, Italy, at least one more time, then hopefully England and America.
As you know we have 3 children, Ben, Dana and Amy and they have blessed us with 8 grandchildren, 4 boys and 4 girls. Unfortunately Ben is divorced and so is Dana. Amy, Steve, Ophelie and Delphi, plus Maisie are still living with us whilst their new home is being built. We have had the kids come back for one reason or another over the past 6 years or so, but hey, that's what one does as a parent, right?
Thanks for this post Toogie, it's been informative reading everyone's stories. Love and blessings Chris
I met Trev at BHP (Broken Hill Proprietary) which back then was the biggest company in Australia. He was a cadet learning all about the company when the Vietnam war came, but since he was studying at University he was exempted from conscription.
I was 15 when I met him in 1968 and he was 18. I had just left school and got a job at the Lord Mayor's Stock Exchange company. I used to drop off the scripts for all the Stock Exchange companies in Adelaide. He asked me out one day as the lift doors were closing on his floor and I said 'Yes". I fell in love with his beautiful blue eyes and sense of humour. We went out for 4 years and got engaged on Christmas Eve 1970 and were married on January 22nd 1972. We will celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary on 22/1/22. I just love numbers that mean something, don't you? We are still in love with each other and he's one in a million.
We love going away on holidays together and touring the world and once Covid is over plan to visit our favourite country, Italy, at least one more time, then hopefully England and America.
As you know we have 3 children, Ben, Dana and Amy and they have blessed us with 8 grandchildren, 4 boys and 4 girls. Unfortunately Ben is divorced and so is Dana. Amy, Steve, Ophelie and Delphi, plus Maisie are still living with us whilst their new home is being built. We have had the kids come back for one reason or another over the past 6 years or so, but hey, that's what one does as a parent, right?
Thanks for this post Toogie, it's been informative reading everyone's stories. Love and blessings Chris
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You have a beautiful family Chris and we do appreciate the photos you post from time to time. I do hope this Covid mess ends and everyone can travel safely again. I am glad I was able to travel the last few years. Such a difference in living now when you can’t even safely go to the grocery store.
I too am enjoying hearing from everyone. I feel like we are visiting in Cute’s living room! I even told Caroline to put her feet up!-lol - who is making the coffee?😃
I too am enjoying hearing from everyone. I feel like we are visiting in Cute’s living room! I even told Caroline to put her feet up!-lol - who is making the coffee?😃
I'll make the coffee. I even have a pie I can bring out. Come on over! Chris, I love that you and Trevor are enjoying life at this point. So many don't, can't won't. Give him a big hug and tell him I think he's pretty lucky to snag a jewel like you
I agree jrob and bring on the pie!
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asterixsew
06 Aug 2021
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Follow the link for another great story
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Can it be moved here with all the rest?
No we ca only delete. Only the person posted can repost it in the right category
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clintonmiss22
06 Aug 2021
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I met my husband in church. The church I attended was the closest church to the Air Force base, so we got lots of young men visiting. I could sit in the choir and "check out" the airmen. ☺
Another airman brought him to my house one night after church to see if I wanted to go get ice cream. Of course! We dated for about a year and he got orders for Tripoli, Libya -- at least it wasn't Vietnam. He asked me to marry him before he left. His tour was supposed to be 18 months, so I went to college. That sure helped pass the time. Lots of letters flew through the mail. We married in March 1970 and we celebrated 51 years this year. He still had 9 months of service left when we married, so we moved to California. I enjoyed my time in Merced, but he hated it. When he went for his "re-up" interview they said he could have a year in his base of choice. "Where then?" he asked. They flipped through his papers and said he hadn't been to Vietnam yet. He got up, scooted his chair in, and left! We headed back to his home state, enrolled in college on the GI bill, and never left the college town we settled in. He spent most of his working years as an insurance adjuster. I stayed home with our children and then worked at the college for 30 years.
We have three grown children and nine grands who all live within 30 minutes of us.
The airman who introduced us also married a girl from my hometown. Together with about 5 other Air Force couples who met at my church, we meet at least once a year for several days in places like Gatlinburg, Tennessee, and Branson, Missouri. We mostly lost track of each other while we were raising families, but are having the best time now that we are all retired.
Another airman brought him to my house one night after church to see if I wanted to go get ice cream. Of course! We dated for about a year and he got orders for Tripoli, Libya -- at least it wasn't Vietnam. He asked me to marry him before he left. His tour was supposed to be 18 months, so I went to college. That sure helped pass the time. Lots of letters flew through the mail. We married in March 1970 and we celebrated 51 years this year. He still had 9 months of service left when we married, so we moved to California. I enjoyed my time in Merced, but he hated it. When he went for his "re-up" interview they said he could have a year in his base of choice. "Where then?" he asked. They flipped through his papers and said he hadn't been to Vietnam yet. He got up, scooted his chair in, and left! We headed back to his home state, enrolled in college on the GI bill, and never left the college town we settled in. He spent most of his working years as an insurance adjuster. I stayed home with our children and then worked at the college for 30 years.
We have three grown children and nine grands who all live within 30 minutes of us.
The airman who introduced us also married a girl from my hometown. Together with about 5 other Air Force couples who met at my church, we meet at least once a year for several days in places like Gatlinburg, Tennessee, and Branson, Missouri. We mostly lost track of each other while we were raising families, but are having the best time now that we are all retired.
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I love that y’all still get together with service buddies, we do too. They have a special bond.
Your hubby sounded like mine- he liked serving but knew if he re-upped he’d go to Nam. He served his years and got out too. You may want to tell your husband I said he better appreciate you. You had your choice of all those airmen and you chose him!-lol
Your hubby sounded like mine- he liked serving but knew if he re-upped he’d go to Nam. He served his years and got out too. You may want to tell your husband I said he better appreciate you. You had your choice of all those airmen and you chose him!-lol
What a great story! Lucky you to have your children so close.
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graceandham
07 Aug 2021
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I met my sweet Charles at a singles dinner at the church. Our speaker that night spoke on "How to meet the Love of your Life." FIrst point was to clear away all the debris (to do list) in your life to be your best, like fixing the screen door, giving away to Goodwill, new hair style, oil change, etc. Second was to sit down and make a list of what you are really looking for in a spouse. Weirdly enough, I had made that list on a page of my Daytimer calendar that week. (Tired of dating the wrong guys once or twice.) Then, she passed out pencils and paper so everyone could make their list. Last, she asked if anybody was brave enough to stand and read their list to the group. The first lady said she wanted a man who was "trained" (put the toilet seat back down, loaded the dishwasher with his dishes) and "very ugly" so he would appreciate having her beautiful self. Her ex, a doctor, had cheated on her repeatedly, and she really was quite beautiful. This guy had stepped out into the hall to get a dessert and told another guy, now that's my kind of woman. They married in six weeks. The second woman, I forgot what she said. Third, my extremely shy Charles stood up and said the five things he was looking for. A Christian woman who loved attending church, a great sense of humor, very frugal with money, a desire to travel, and well, we always forgot what the fifth requirement was. Then she asked for us ladies to raise our hands if that described ourselves. I wildly waved my hand, thinking, who wouldn't list all those things. It was everything on my list except perfectly polished shoes and a well tied tie. I was the only person with a hand up and I was so embarrassed. Afterwards he came up and introduced himself and got my phone number. We were married five months later. Five and a half months after that he unexpectedly died of a massive heart attack. He was the love of my life and I'm so glad I had that time with him, however short. We held hands everywhere we went and adored each other. We never had an argument. We loved working together on projects in the yard and around the house. He was patient, kind and courteous, generous, very quiet and absolutely a genius. He taught me how to be happy about paying bills. Every month as he paid bills, he would make little $10 donations in honor or memory of those he loved. He was always happy when he finished paying and mailing the bills. I never knew them, but his mother and grandmother must have been fabulous people, raising him while his father was mostly overseas in the military in hot spots around the world. Did I mention he was Attention Deficit Disorder, a terrible speller and a crackerjack computer programmer who briefly had a career as a spy in the military?
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What an interesting fellow that I'm sure is still nestled in your heart. I'm sorry you didn't have more time, but the memories you've accumulated!
I agree with jrob, sorry your time was cut short. However, it looks like you made the most of the time you did have. That's what it's about. Loving with all your heart and thinking of others before yourself. Your Charles had a good system of accounting, for what he was blessed with by giving to others. Love that!
The memories were very few and one of my greatest fears after he died was that I would forget any of that wonderful time, that I would lose him. I got a little blank book and started writing our story. When I would feel sad or lonely, I would hold that little blank book until I thought of another story to add and I would begin writing. Yes, Toogie, God blessed his money because he blessed others and I'm not real into that message that money equals God's approval, because you can be poor and approved, too. However, in his case it was a side benefit. He also gave generously of his time and talents, such as photography, at church. He took all the new member and baptism pictures for about 30 years at the church. In the early years, he developed them, too. He hosted the coffee in our Sunday School class, coffee maker, napkins, coffee, sugar, spoons, creamer, styrofoam cups, keeping it all clean and neat and fully supplied and in order. He had so many shy ways of being of use. My favorite: there was usually a very large offering each week and a high proportion of that in cash. He would saunter into the counting room with his camera and case around his neck, and saunter out to the car with over $10,000 in his camera case to make the bank deposit. The money counters would exit the room later with fake, empty bank bags.
What a sweet story you have shared with us. I know you made his life complete and what a tremendous love story you lived even though it was far too short.
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I married very young, we had three children, we moved around a lot, even went overseas with his job. Before we went over seas we lost our eldest son aged 8 in very tragic circumstances. He was playing in a playground and he climbed on the monkey bars and a stranger pushed him and he fell. The stranger was charged with manslaughter, and went to prison for a long time. Eighteen months later my husband transferred to Cocos Island and we were only there a very short time. While out scuba diving his spear gun missed fired and he drowned. I was still very young left with two children aged 13 and 9. On our return to Australia I had to go back to work right away. Looking back on that time I still marvel at how I managed.
Several years later a friend asked me if I would go out with a friend of theirs as he needed a partner for a fund rising event. I agreed, but then I panicked tried to phone her and cancel the date. She in her wisdom just knew I would try and get out of it. Well to cut a long story short I went and twelve months later we married. We are still together and he is the best husband and father in the world. We never had any children of our own, my/our two love him to bits and get very annoyed if anyone dares to say "he is their stepfather". We have three grandchildren and two great grand children. Our son married a second time and his wife had a son who is in a relationship and that is how we got our lovely two great grand sons.
I can never remember dates of any kind, even now I have all the special days including birthdays written down so I don't forget. Our grandson still reminds me of his 13 birthday, I could not for the life of me remember if he was 13 or 14, so I just hoped for the best and got him a birthday card with 14 on it. We still laugh about that even all these years later. Where as my darling is the time and date man, good job one of us is otherwise well you know what I mean. LOL
Of course by now you are all wanting to know how long we have been married, just a minute and I will ask my darling. LOL He just looked at me and groaned and said "not again" and we both laughed, good job he loves me. Ok we have been married 45 years and still enjoy each others company, we often go out for a cuppa and chat away to each other, we notice that most times while out other couples just seem to be playing with their mobiles how sad is that.
Now having mention a cuppa we are about to go out for a drive and afternoon tea.
Hope I have not bored you all .
Several years later a friend asked me if I would go out with a friend of theirs as he needed a partner for a fund rising event. I agreed, but then I panicked tried to phone her and cancel the date. She in her wisdom just knew I would try and get out of it. Well to cut a long story short I went and twelve months later we married. We are still together and he is the best husband and father in the world. We never had any children of our own, my/our two love him to bits and get very annoyed if anyone dares to say "he is their stepfather". We have three grandchildren and two great grand children. Our son married a second time and his wife had a son who is in a relationship and that is how we got our lovely two great grand sons.
I can never remember dates of any kind, even now I have all the special days including birthdays written down so I don't forget. Our grandson still reminds me of his 13 birthday, I could not for the life of me remember if he was 13 or 14, so I just hoped for the best and got him a birthday card with 14 on it. We still laugh about that even all these years later. Where as my darling is the time and date man, good job one of us is otherwise well you know what I mean. LOL
Of course by now you are all wanting to know how long we have been married, just a minute and I will ask my darling. LOL He just looked at me and groaned and said "not again" and we both laughed, good job he loves me. Ok we have been married 45 years and still enjoy each others company, we often go out for a cuppa and chat away to each other, we notice that most times while out other couples just seem to be playing with their mobiles how sad is that.
Now having mention a cuppa we are about to go out for a drive and afternoon tea.
Hope I have not bored you all .
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My dear friend, my heart aches to know how you have suffered these losses and heartbreaks. The reasons why we may never comprehend.
I think you have a wise and caring friend, finding you a great man to love and share your life with. Your children sound so loyal and loving,too. I was happy to read the rest of your ‘story’ and so pleased ‘they lived happily ever after’.
You have not bored me. ❤️Toogie
I think you have a wise and caring friend, finding you a great man to love and share your life with. Your children sound so loyal and loving,too. I was happy to read the rest of your ‘story’ and so pleased ‘they lived happily ever after’.
You have not bored me. ❤️Toogie
You began with terrible tragedies. I pray that you have nothing but joy and happiness from here on!
You have lived an incredible life with a terrible valley but oh the mountain top you now have. I love how you laugh about your difficulties with numbers. Enjoy your grands and all the love and laughter your family shares.
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Many Cuties followed me through my life with my wonderful husband "Blackie".
I first met him when I was 16. He was married to my best friends sister. My group of girl friends had crushes on the cutie, including me. Fast forward 20 or so years.
I was out on the town, with girlfriends at a local bar. The lounge had band and dancing.
A grey hair man came up to me, asked me to dance, I declined with the comment to the girls "I'm not out for that gray hair stuff I'm looking for some young stuff!" He was persistent, asked me again, I accepted.
We danced beautifully together. On the dance floor he told me his name. I told him I knew him from many years ago, we discussed how I knew him. Yes it was Blackie! We married about a year later. For 33 years it was the best years of my life. I still miss and love him. As I am writing this I am getting knots in my stomach, and tears are flowing. Precious memories.
The stories written here are so beautiful, loving and heart warming. I have read them all, thank you Toogie for letting us share our hearts. Hugs and Flowers to all, Suzanna
I first met him when I was 16. He was married to my best friends sister. My group of girl friends had crushes on the cutie, including me. Fast forward 20 or so years.
I was out on the town, with girlfriends at a local bar. The lounge had band and dancing.
A grey hair man came up to me, asked me to dance, I declined with the comment to the girls "I'm not out for that gray hair stuff I'm looking for some young stuff!" He was persistent, asked me again, I accepted.
We danced beautifully together. On the dance floor he told me his name. I told him I knew him from many years ago, we discussed how I knew him. Yes it was Blackie! We married about a year later. For 33 years it was the best years of my life. I still miss and love him. As I am writing this I am getting knots in my stomach, and tears are flowing. Precious memories.
The stories written here are so beautiful, loving and heart warming. I have read them all, thank you Toogie for letting us share our hearts. Hugs and Flowers to all, Suzanna
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What a beautiful love story. Thank you for letting us share your journey.
I am so glad you met him again and got to dance 33 years, through life with Blackie. I know he is/was the love of your life. Thank goodness we have good precious memories to sustain us. I'm glad you took this opportunity to share a few more of those happy memories with us.
Thank you for sharing such a sweet story. I'm so glad you 2 met up again and then shared a beautiful 33 years together Your tears are testimony to your love.
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I've so enjoyed reading all of your stories! What a grand idea Toogie. You are all such wonderful writers (storytellers) but I'm going to give it a shot- here goes;
How I met my darling husband.
My boyfriend of 3 years was struggling with things going on in his life and was rebelling against discipline. I was becoming disenchanted, but read 3 years again. I don't give up easily. He had become friends with a guy that went to the county schools, (we went to city schools) who played guitar. We went to the music store where this handsome fellow worked selling records and teaching guitar lessons one day. I thought he was pretty cool. A couple of days later these two picked me and my girlfriend, Dana up and we went to the beach up on the Tennessee River and spent the day. It was lots of fun and I was getting to know David's friend, Mike. He was funny and joked around with me.
David left home. He was from a wonderful Christian family and I was having a hard time understanding what was going on. David landed at Mike's house. Mike's family took him in. Mike was always no trouble to his parents, and they trusted him.
David was at my house working on his motorcycle in the backyard and Mike called to speak to him. I told him that I would go get David, and Mike said, “hey, if you ever decide to get rid of him, give me call.” I laughed because I was raised that I should NEVER call a boy! Besides he was just teasing me again.
So, David's rebellion turned to me. He started dating other girls. I was done. I went on my merry way, a bit heartbroken, but relieved in a way. Remember I'm not one to give up.
After my dad was killed in car wreck, my mother bought me a car. Her cousin was a used car dealer and talked her into buying me a 1967 Convertible Ford Mustang. Oh, man, did I LOVE her cousin!!!
I was driving from school home and passed Mike going in a different direction across the railroad tracks that ran down the middle of our town. The phone was ringing when I walked in the door. It was Mike. The rest is history. He's been my love for the last 51 years. Through good times and bad times, I've never one single time, held out my hand that he wasn't there to take it. I will love him with my last breath.
How I met my darling husband.
My boyfriend of 3 years was struggling with things going on in his life and was rebelling against discipline. I was becoming disenchanted, but read 3 years again. I don't give up easily. He had become friends with a guy that went to the county schools, (we went to city schools) who played guitar. We went to the music store where this handsome fellow worked selling records and teaching guitar lessons one day. I thought he was pretty cool. A couple of days later these two picked me and my girlfriend, Dana up and we went to the beach up on the Tennessee River and spent the day. It was lots of fun and I was getting to know David's friend, Mike. He was funny and joked around with me.
David left home. He was from a wonderful Christian family and I was having a hard time understanding what was going on. David landed at Mike's house. Mike's family took him in. Mike was always no trouble to his parents, and they trusted him.
David was at my house working on his motorcycle in the backyard and Mike called to speak to him. I told him that I would go get David, and Mike said, “hey, if you ever decide to get rid of him, give me call.” I laughed because I was raised that I should NEVER call a boy! Besides he was just teasing me again.
So, David's rebellion turned to me. He started dating other girls. I was done. I went on my merry way, a bit heartbroken, but relieved in a way. Remember I'm not one to give up.
After my dad was killed in car wreck, my mother bought me a car. Her cousin was a used car dealer and talked her into buying me a 1967 Convertible Ford Mustang. Oh, man, did I LOVE her cousin!!!
I was driving from school home and passed Mike going in a different direction across the railroad tracks that ran down the middle of our town. The phone was ringing when I walked in the door. It was Mike. The rest is history. He's been my love for the last 51 years. Through good times and bad times, I've never one single time, held out my hand that he wasn't there to take it. I will love him with my last breath.
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I am so glad you were done with David. He didn't deserve anyone as good as you. Now Mike on the other hand....I met your handsome fellow! I could see the love you both have for one another. He brought you to another state to meet me/us! He has to be a good guy!!-lol
It's so interesting looking back at how God uses people (David here) to weave our lives and us into stronger (refining us, such as in sewmadau's case and others) witnesses for Him. He does and will reward us. So glad you have a piece of heaven on earth with Mike!
It's so interesting looking back at how God uses people (David here) to weave our lives and us into stronger (refining us, such as in sewmadau's case and others) witnesses for Him. He does and will reward us. So glad you have a piece of heaven on earth with Mike!
Jerrilyn, my hubby once owned a baby blue 1967 Mustang convertible. He loved that car!!! Your last line makes me think of my hubby, "I will love him with my last breath"!!
Thanks, Toogie. He'd take me anywhere, he says.
Glad that you agree, Laura. That car was a Boss!
Glad that you agree, Laura. That car was a Boss!
Good for you to marry such a good man. And congrats on 51 years (and hopefully many more) of a wonderful marriage.
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I too have so enjoyed reading your stories. I am almost too embarrassed to say that I have been married 3 times. First marriage lasted 7 years. Second lasted 18 years and I have recently celebrated 30 years with husband number three. Far too much to write down, so will leave it at that. 🙂
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Sarah don’t be embarrassed, we don’t want you to feel any shame. Your past is what made you who you are today. We learn from our/ their mistakes and sometimes it is out of our control. My youngest said when she married her first husband she thought it was for life. He had others ideas and no matter what you try you can’t make someone want to make it work if they want out. She is happily remarried to a good Christian man.
Tell us how you met your current husband. Is his name Phillip or is that your stepson? I'm so bad with names.
Tell us how you met your current husband. Is his name Phillip or is that your stepson? I'm so bad with names.