Hello my dear friends,
With what is happening in the world, my problems are nothing compared to the misery we are all witnessing.
It's Saturday 30th April 7.30am as I write this post. It's going to be a gorgeous day and can you believe it's the end of April already?
Well, our church closed last Sunday evening and I've had such a busy week looking after Mum and helping set up the church now for our Op Shop.
Yesterday, I did an Inventory of the things that we have to be either sold or put into archives. It's amazing how much 'stuff' we collect.
Today someone from Nelson Bay (the other side of Newcastle) is coming to take all the crockery, glasses and cutlery. Obviously someone who works for a community club or something.
I've got members from our three other parishes coming on Friday to take anything they need, we have numerous robes from previous priests and stoles, banners, Altar frontals, Lectern frontals, girdles etc.
The church looks so empty now, only the altar table is in situ, but we are going to use it as the desk to have our computer, cash register, telephone set up on it.
I will be attending Belmont Church (my old church from when we first came to Newcastle) with Mum tomorrow morning as their new Priest Peter Tinney was commissioned on Wednesday evening. The service is at 10.00, so that gives me a bit more time to get Mum organised.
Speaking of Mum, her Commonwealth Homecare Package Scheme (CHPS) was granted and her first service started yesterday (Friday). Mum gets someone coming in 3 times a week, to shower her (she says she doesn't need help doing that, but she does!), get her breakfast and then another person comes at lunchtime to ensure she has something substantial to eatl.
Once a fortnight we have a cleaning lady and also someone who can take Mum out for 2 hours for a social outing. It relieves me of the pressure of having to take her out every day.
I'll still have to go over every morning and make sure she takes her medication. She doesn't like taking her meds as she has difficulty swallowing them down. She has reflux and it sometimes bothers her.
With regards to the showering, I told her -
"Mum you don't have to have the carer in the shower with you, but she needs to make sure that you put the right taps (faucets) on to get the water the right temperature" That seemed to be ok with her, well I hope.
Yesterday when the girl came to do that, Mum said she'd already had a shower - she hadn't! I went there at 8.00 to make sure she took her tablets and she said the lady had been and she had told her not to worry as she'd had a shower - I went down to her ensuite and it wasn't wet!!!!!!!!!!
I had had a bad day with her on Thursday and left in tears, tried ringing my sister, no answer, I couldn't ring my girls as they both work, so I rang a friend from church and we had a lovely chat (she'd been through the same thing I'm going through with her Mum).
So I've not done any sewing this week, but have bought some beautiful FSL designs from EmbroiderybyTM - They are beautiful lace bootees that I hope to make for one of Amy's friends who is having her first baby - actually twins, in July. She is going to be 40, they've had a lot of difficulty in trying to have babies and now twins, wow! They are so excited.
Well, my dear friends, enough of my venting, but I'm so happy to be able to still come on here and visit, give out flowers and praise everyone who has done marvellous projects. God bless and I'll come on again soon. Love Chris
I was talking it over with Trevor and said the same thing, I left messages for them to do what I want, because Mum will say she can do that, when I know she can't. Love Chris
Vent all you want. Some of us have been in your shoes while others haven’t even tried them on. They will one day and will understand when their patience run thin. ❤️Toogie
My friend who I rang said the same thing re the gratitude thing, she even said her Mum used to say that her daughter never visited her anymore and Caroline did see her every day. It's so depressing knowing that this might happen with Mum.
I gave her a proper shower this morning and washed her hair and conditioned it, then set it in rollers. I've laid out her clothes for tomorrow for Church. So I'll arrive a bit earlier and do her hair and make sure she looks great. Thanks for your kind words, love Chris
I know it is both a blessing to have help in for your mum and a tough situation for your mum to learn to trust strangers. And now you will be communicating with the folks which means yet another item on your schedule. But it will work out. And you do need some time for you too. Please do vent with others and with us. I think most all of us do understand what you are going through. I like what stork said about hugging yourself. Ans as you hug yourself tight, think of all of us with our arms around you hugging you right back. And if you are having a bad day, don't be afraid to PM me and any others so we can tell you how much we love you and to pray with and for you.
Thank you for all your kind words and help too, it's so uplifting. I wish I could meet all of you and have a wonderful weekend away, just chatting, sewing etc. I bet it would be a blast. Love Chris
It brought back memories of the time when I had my sister in law and brother in law living with me. One with dementia and the other with Alzheimer. I am glad you are getting a little bit of help. Hugs