Hello Cuties, it’s 2 am and I can’t sleep. I got up an hour ago to go to the restroom and couldn’t go back to sleep. We have been sitting up with family the last few days and nights. Our brother in law Robert passed away yesterday morning at 10:32. He had cancer.

My husband’s family is large, as most of you know, but this sister and her husband have been really close to us. Their kids and our kids have remained close all these years too. While we were keeping vigil my sister in-law Nita asked me when the time came would I call all her side of the family. She said their son would call all Roberts side.
So yesterday morning, my oldest daughter was with us having sit up all night by his bedside. I asked Marsha to help me start making the calls. I gave her the number of one of her cousins to call to let the oldest sisters kids know. When Marsha called Brenda, Brenda said they had a tragedy going on too. She said Kyle, her sisters boy died this morning too. Marsha came to the bedroom I was in making my calls and I knew something had happened when she said really forcefully, “Mamma come in here” I followed her back in the living room where my sister-in-law and her kids were and then Marsha told us about Kyle. To say we were all shocked is an understatement.
Kyle must be about early thirties in age. He still lives at home helping take care of his dad Charlie. Charlie health has been declining over the years. He’s a severe diabetic and has had to have multiple amputations, due to an injury he suffered and the complications, because of diabetes. Kyles mom Mertie is a nurse, but because of her husband and helping her only remaining sister Brenda take care of their 96 year old mom Faye, Mertie hasn’t been working.
Yesterday morning Kyle went to the bathroom and Mertie heard a noise like he fell. When she went to check he was unresponsive. She called 911 and the ambulance came. He died after he got to the hospital but she said they worked with him trying to revive him nearly an hour. Mertie and Charlie are devastated.
Brenda told us that Kyle had hurt his leg a while back. She didn’t explain how or how long ago and with our shock we just let her talk. She said his leg bothered him but Mertie couldn’t get him to go to the doctor and check it out. Well then Brenda said overtime his side and other places started hurting. Mertie said she tried to persuade him to go see the doctor. She said what could she do if he refused. It wasn’t like she could physically force him to go.
Mertie thinks now maybe he was septic shock.
We have 2 funerals ahead of us in the next few days. I did call Brenda late yesterday afternoon and she said she wasn’t really sure Kyles time of death but would guess maybe 9:30 am. In an hours time we lost a dear brother in law and a great nephew.
Like Mertie, we have only one son and I can not imagine the pain she and Charlie feel. They do have a daughter Crystal and she is just as devastated as her mom and dad.
Having taken care of Robert at home this past year, Nita knew Robert’s time was coming. Though the loss is still heartbreaking, she is glad his suffering has ended. We were expecting this but not Kyle.
With everything happening I almost forgot my husband had a doctors appointment at 3 pm yesterday. Ashley came and went with us. Thank goodness our family doctor knows us all and was Robert’s family doctor too. Anyway without going into all that with you, I just hope he can get my husband straightened out.
Now you know why I can’t sleep. You would think by just getting a couple of hours sleep a day, over the last few days, I’d be knocked out. When I awoke to use the restroom and went back to bed, I laid there an hour my mind and heart just going over the last 15 or 16 hours events. Thank goodness my husband seems to be resting.
I know this is a lot to read and try to understand, who’s who and what’s what, having not knowing the people I speak about. I just had to write my thought down and let you all know this is a lot to deal with at one time. My heart is full of compassion for Nita and her kids, for Mertie, Charlie and Crystal, for our family as a whole.
I saw I had a text from our son text at 11 pm just asking if we were up. I didn’t see the text until I got up at 2am so I didn’t want to text back. I sure hope nothing else has happened. January 3, 2023 was eventful enough.
Take care my Cutie friends. Much ♥️ to all of you-Toogie