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In the last weeks befor christmass when we were all pushing ourselves to get our xmass gifts done,i had a lady ask for a towel to be done for free,she handed me a couple of extra towels with instructions of the designs. I posted in to the cute familyhow i felt used. Most of your replys told me to say no next time or ask for money to cover costs. Today the same lady asked me to do more towels. I asked her if the towels had washed well,she said that they had and their were no problems with them. Then went on to ask for more freebies to be done ASAP and do you think that you could do the names a lot larger as she thought it would look much better.. Well my friends i said No.... with a smile and offered her a cupa instead.
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Good for you
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Thankyou,flowers and hugs.
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Great . We all have to learn to say no sometimes and it is not easy to do
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thankyou Raels,flower for you.
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Good for you. It's not easy to say no, but sometimes you just have to.
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latly my days go so fast,i need more time in the day,to embroider,can we vote for more hours in a day.flowers4U
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I Had a friend like that too. I ask her to get the thread for me to do it. When she saw how much the thread was she didn't ask anymore. Good for you girl. *4u
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Clever idea
good idea,flowers for you.
Good one!
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Way to stand up for yourself:) IF she really wants the towels done she WILL offer to pay...NOTHING in life is FREE!
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Friendship is free... Finally, it just costs time and love :o)
I don't mind doing favours for friends and family,this lady only talks to me when she is looking for a freebee,thankyou for your input,i carn't believe how guilty i felt.flowers
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bikermomfl
25 Mar 2009
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Good for you - people sometimes 'expect' things for free not realizing that there really is an expense involved. I have someone just like that but at least every now and then she'll spring for a spool of thread - and get this, she now wants to use my machine herself and then tells me "You can go do something else!" Sure just turn over my $5000 machine to somebody for a spool of thread, don't think so, so now she's a little snippy with me when we run into each other, oh well, tsk tsk tsk. Stand your ground, you are in the right.
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Thant's funny use your machine ha! Mine only cost 200.00 and I wouldn't let anyone use mine. You made me laugh on that one Some people have a lot of guts HUH?
What a cheek !!! I am quite shocked, and, cannot believe some people.
GOOD FOR YOU !!!!
GOOD FOR YOU !!!!
I dont think these people are our friends.flowers for you
Mine is a old one but I gave 3500.00 for it when I bought it and I would not let any one else use it I know if something hapends to it I can not get another one . when I was on vacation my friend tolld me I could use hers I said I don't think so.
I have a friend here and she has 4 machines when mine broke she said come over and use mine I thanked her and told her she was very kind but I would wait for mine.
I have a friend here and she has 4 machines when mine broke she said come over and use mine I thanked her and told her she was very kind but I would wait for mine.
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sissibrode
25 Mar 2009
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you have done well to say no. I waited over 40 years to learn to say no ... and I regret not having said earlier!Sometimes, it is important to say NO with a smile :o)
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The smile seem to help.flowers for you
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memasanders
25 Mar 2009
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My congrats to you. I still have a had time saying no. I'm getting better at it but it only took losing half my stomach to ulcers to get here. Please take from one who knows don't worry yourself about people who are users if you want to do something for someone fine but people like yoou are talking about will keep coming back until you have nothing to give. God bless
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Well said
Ouch i will keep you in my thoughts,*4U
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marjialexa
25 Mar 2009
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Good for you!!! Hope she enjoyed the cuppa, and realizes everyone isn't a pushover. Price it out, who knows, maybe you could start a business, hee hee hee. I'm proud of you for standing your ground kindly but firmly!! Love, Marji
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Right on
I think i like the idea of keeping embroidery as a hobby getting paid for one sometimes to help buy new equipment would be good.flowers for you.
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Good for you !!!!!! I also belong to the "scared to say no" club, and think I must use your example, because you really sound good about yourself.
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Maybee we should send them to the enbroidery shop,he he he,flowers for you
I really think we should !!! LOL
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Didn't it make you feel good to achieve that. I know it did for me I was always a succor for jobs for free. I now have to control myself when I make something for myself not to give it away because some one likes it.
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yes,i now not give everything away i make,,flower for you.
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I am glad you took our advise and had the guts of saying no. Althought it is hard for us some times we just can't let people take advantage of our generosity. *2U
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thankyou,flowers for you.
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grandmamek
25 Mar 2009
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good for you. Sometimes it is hard to say no but I have learned that after saying it a few times, it does become easier to do!!
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i hope so,flowers for you.
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bokkieborduur
25 Mar 2009
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To all the cuties, you got to be cruel to be kind. Just say NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo. Love Marie
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Thats me now,lol,flowers for you.
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asterixsew
25 Mar 2009
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Congratulations Toet. The comments from other Cuties have made me laugh at the different situations people have been put in by people expecting work for free. The one about 'borrowing a machine' is totally priceless. Would she lend her car?
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Or her DH,lol. thankyou flowers for you.
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sometimes it's hard but some people deserve a NO!
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totally agree with you
Thanks for your support,*4u
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shirlener88
25 Mar 2009
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Heather, you did the right thing - I know for me - I have had to do just that and when it was all said and done - I still did the work - but it was paid for and both of us got what we wanted and still remain friends - once they understand that you mean what you say - they do come around to seeing it - your way. It is like opening a can of worms - Hehehe! Good for you, dear one. Shirlene
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hehehe ,worms are good for fishing......thankyou,flowers for you.
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Good on you GIRL! Very Proud of you :)
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thankyou,hugs&flowers
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If someone is asking for a favour they should realize you have a right to say no and they should accept that with a smile. They in turn do not have a right to be angry or upset if you do say no. If someone is only friends with you to demand things of you it is not much of a friendship.
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Thankyou,big hugs,*4U
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Just Marvelous toet. there comes a time when everyone has to b able to look someone n the eye & say that word. I too have learned people will take advantage of u. they seem to think " the machine does all the work" Little do they know all that's involved. Proud of u, now stick with it. * Congratulations on developing a backbone!!
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Thankyou,i have busy fingers tidying up all my UFOS,flowers for you.
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I am proud of you.I got stuck with a lot of that untill I started telling them it would be this much to do one and tthat put a stop to it.
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I remember that post you wrote and am so pleased you said NO.....Good on you!!!!!!
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Good for you! Think we've all let ourselves be taken advantage of and saying no or charging a fee it the only way to break em.
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