http://www.emb666.com/pic/jzw/1/1.asp
There are 5 pages of designs. Let each page load completely to see the designs & click on the image to download. Even those boxes without an image will download a design in most cases.
Here is a free lighthouse alphabet in crossstitch when you join Jenny's group.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Jennysembroidery/
You must register with Ann the Gran to get any free designs.
http://www.annthegran.com/FreeDesigns.aspx?fdid=9511&fdp=1
http://www.geocities.com/FashionAvenue/Mall/7407/JEAN.html
http://www.stitchbyte.com/service.html
http://www.tickytacky.btinternet.co.uk/designs_1.htm
http://www.geocities.com/FashionAvenue/2583/free00.html
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Fields/5960/deebfree.html
http://broderiesdefrance.free.fr/motifs.html

Oh my goodness powagrl, that is an answer and a half that you've given bunnylane, haha. I can't think of any others to add, so love and hugs for you both.