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have been in Sacramento taking care of her. She has had a few good days. I don't allow anyone that comes to visit her have any negative thoughts. On Sept. 8th she will be getting a 5 hr. dose of chemo. She just shaved her head, I told her to take control and not let the chemo take her hair, she looks beautiful. She has always worn large pretty earrings and makeup so she fixed herself up really awesome and she looks great without hair. Anyway if all you cuties could please send prayers her way I will really appreciate it. Her name is Connie and she has told me that she has felt all the prayers her friends and family have sent her way. I believe the more the better. So thank you in advance.
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Only good thoughts! When I knew the chemo was coming I too shaved my head, rather take it myself than let cancer take that too. I was lucky, it was caught early, they removed part of my lung so I am cancer free for now. I have a 50% chance it will not happen again.
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God bless you. My sister had just had her physical in May and all was well. End of June she went to the dr. because of pain in the shoulder and that is when they found the cancer, the first dr. gave her 2-3 months another dr. told her they were not God and only God knew when and how long she had. She has been able to see all of her brothers/sisters and we have all taken picture with her. I sorry I am going on and on. I just feel I need to let it out. Thank you for you response.
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keeponsewing
31 Aug 2010
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Mary, I'll keep your sister in my prayers. Be strong and may the Lord keep you and her encouraged. Things like this draw us closer to family and friends, but mostly it draws you closer to God. I'm 33 yr. cancer free.
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You have been blessed by the Lord to have kept you cancer free for so long. I have had a couple of melt downs with her when she tells me how much pain she is in. I just hold her. Her husband is also a wonderful man so between the both of us we tend to her meds, get her out when she is up to it. I also have a wonderful husband for being understanding and telling me that she is more important right now. Thank you for your prayers.
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31 Aug 2010
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So sorry this is happening to your sister. Prayers sent her way.
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Thank you so very much. I knew I could count on all of you. I say the power of prayer is so great. I want to share this story, I hope you have a couple of minutes. I was at Macy's with my other sister that was also visiting. The cashier asked if there was anything else she could help us with. I asked her if she believed in God, Jesus, the Lord, Christ take you pick. She said yes, so I asked her to pray for my sister, she asked for her name so we told her and she said "Oh my God" I know her she used to come in here everyday with her husband to browse around and get out of the house, I know about her puppies, etc." She came from around the counter and held our hands and prayered right there in the center of the aisle in Macy's. She was so sweet to do that, I was like totally floored I didn't expect that but it was so beautiful.
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31 Aug 2010
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my prayers are with you, I know how you feel, my mother is coming this week to visit my aunt who is in stage 4 also, she has stated that all is fine but my uncle got on the phone and told my mother to come visit her now. My aunt's twin sister lefts us in 2008 and my mother never got to see her, she was saying the same thing that everything was alright and no need to come home and see her. So my mother is not taking any chances and will be home Sat. So I will pray for both of them.
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My sister has always been like my mother. My mother and I have never been close since I was a child so she took me under her wing, so it has been difficult for me but I will be here for her for as long as she needs me. I make her laugh even when she is in pain and that is how I want to remember her. We are very close so it pains me to see her suffer. She will rarely complain that she is in pain but you can see it while she sleeps. I too will pray for your aunt. All my brothers and sisters have come to visit w/her and they did not say good-bye only that they would see her soon. Thank you for your prayers.
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Your sister and family are in our prayers!! Big Hug! Kim
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Thank you so much.
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it seems you and your sis share a good and assertive approach. I will also be assertive in my prayers for good days in the challenges of her chemo. Connie is lucky to have you. You are both blessed with prayers.
Lord let touch of your hand be ever on this family.
Lord let touch of your hand be ever on this family.
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Thank you, and I know I may be asking for a lot, but maybe if you belong to a church or something maybe you can ask them also to pray for her. I really would appreciate it. Could you also include her husband Manuel to give him strengh through out this. They just celebrated their 49th wedding anniversay on the 20th. They have been such a role model. Again thank you so much.
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Oh how I wish this nasty disease would be cured. My mother,her 2 brothers and their mother have all been taken by it. Please know that my heart aches for you knowing how it feels. I pray that a miracle happens for your sweet sister. God be with you all.
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Thank you so much. The pain you must have suffered along with them, God bless you, I know so many of the Cuties have someone they know too that has suffered or passed away, so I knew I could ask many of you to please keep her in prayer. Again thank you so much.
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31 Aug 2010
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At the beginning of the Shinsokan will be the Invocation and Kiai (shout which is optional). The English Invocation is as follows:
O Parent God who gives life to all living beings,
Fill my whole being with your Spirit and all blessings
My Life is not my own to claim,
It is the life of God, who permeates the universe.
My acts are not my own to claim,
They are the acts of God, who permeates the universe.
May the Lord of Seicho-No-Ie, who has appeared to teach us the
way of God, the Parent of heaven and earth,
Guide us and protect us!
Follow the Invocation with:
I now leave the world of the five senses and enter the Kingdom of God.
This is now, as is, the Kingdom of God!
http://www.snitruth.org/shinsokan.html
http://www.snitruth.org/centers.html
Desire to help and for this I am indicating this site. Here in Brazil many people if cure in the Seicho-no-IE. She has stories of miraculous cures. If she will be able looks an orientation with a preletor. She blesses it to god.
O Parent God who gives life to all living beings,
Fill my whole being with your Spirit and all blessings
My Life is not my own to claim,
It is the life of God, who permeates the universe.
My acts are not my own to claim,
They are the acts of God, who permeates the universe.
May the Lord of Seicho-No-Ie, who has appeared to teach us the
way of God, the Parent of heaven and earth,
Guide us and protect us!
Follow the Invocation with:
I now leave the world of the five senses and enter the Kingdom of God.
This is now, as is, the Kingdom of God!
http://www.snitruth.org/shinsokan.html
http://www.snitruth.org/centers.html
Desire to help and for this I am indicating this site. Here in Brazil many people if cure in the Seicho-no-IE. She has stories of miraculous cures. If she will be able looks an orientation with a preletor. She blesses it to god.
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I will share this with her when she has the energy to read. Thank you so much.
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I will keep your sister in my prayers... What a nasty cancer... Someday they will find a cure.. let's hope it is soon..
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Thank you. Your prayers are sooooo appreciated.
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marciabrasil
31 Aug 2010
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Cures After to receive such revelations, Prof. Taniguchi started to divulge the teachings. Cures had started to occur; people if had cured of some illnesses, having included cancer and tuberculosis. Others had found harmony and prosperity after to hear or to read its teachings.
http://www.sni-boston.org/pt/whatissni.htm
translation
http://br.babelfish.yahoo.com/translate_txt
http://www.sni-boston.org/pt/whatissni.htm
translation
http://br.babelfish.yahoo.com/translate_txt
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Thank you.
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crafter2243
31 Aug 2010
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It is heartbraking to read this, but also encouraging when I read about the girl at Macy's. Never underestimate the power of prayer. Your sister will be in my prayer as well as her husband and you. Having lost my husband to cancer I have some idea what you are going through. Also don't forget to take care of yourself. I am in Roseville. Should you need some pampering yourself I am not far away. Send me a PM. Angie
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i will hold you and your sister in my hart when i say my prays to night i now it is hard i have had to deal with cancer with my husband and dad so sorry god bless you both. and lots of HUGGS!!
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister, and families...huge hugs Sally
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thank you so much. this means so much to all of us.
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31 Aug 2010
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Mary, I will add your sister and her family to my prayer list. My thoughts and prayers are with you both, Hugs, Mary
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Thank you so very much. Greatly appreciated.
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31 Aug 2010
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Will say a rosary daily for you and your sister.
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Thank you for the daily rosary. I told her you were doing that, and I told her we had a bunch of Cuties from all over praying for her, she is so grateful. So thank you from all of us.
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I know how hard it is. My prayers are with you and yours. Be strong!Yolandita
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I am trying to stay strong. She was just telling me that she feels she needs to stay srtong for her husband and children (they're adults). I told her no, that if she needs to cry; do it, it is okay to cry in front of the kids and it is okay if the kids cry. It doesn't make you weak it makes you human.
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You all are going through a difficult time, My prayers are for your sister and all her family, I do believe in the power of Prayers. God bless you.
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Thank u 4 your prayers.
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lindaavolio
31 Aug 2010
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My prayers are with her and you during this difficult time....God is good HE will answer our prayers.
Hugs
Hugs
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I pray that he is listening to you all. I just want her to be pain free for 1 day, I would ask for more days but I don't want to be greeting.
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will also say the rosary for you,connie and family
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Thank you so much. I remember when I used
Thank you so much. I remember when I was a child well up to my teen age years we would say the rosary every night. It seems that now as an adult I only say it when I need something. Again thank you,.
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31 Aug 2010
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Dear Mary,
My prayers are with you both and with your families. God is good and he will be with you during this process.
My prayers are with you both and with your families. God is good and he will be with you during this process.
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31 Aug 2010
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Will add you all to my prayer list - may God be with you at this difficult time and may you draw from His strength- hugs.
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The Lords strength is what keeps me from falling apart. I thank you for your prayers.
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Will add her to my prayer list. I wish her all the best. Arlene
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Thank you so much for all the prayers
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designcrazy
31 Aug 2010
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I'm so sorry to hear this, I know how it hurts to give up a loved one to cancer. My Dad passed away in March 2006 after having a very big surgery to remove the cancer from several organs. I will always miss him. My prayers for you and your families. Only God can give you the comfort and strength that you need. May God bless you all.
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Thank you for the prayers. It pains me to see her hurt w/so much pain. But I know the Lord does not give you more than u can bare.
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canmatdyl8
31 Aug 2010
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Will include you and your sister in my prayers. Actually the whole family. Been there, done that! Have faith. God bless you all! Only God can give you and your sis the strength you both need, so keep praying and know that their are many praying for you too!
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Thank you so much for the prayers. They are greatly appreciated.
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My prayers are with Connie as well as you and the family.
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thank you very much.
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Know that everything will be fine with God's grace. God is in charge, and he has a plan. Embrace his plan and let him love you and your sister. I will pray for you all.;)
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Thank you so much, and she is in God's hands. She has accepted that. Our concern is also with her husband, we all know that he will be totally lost without her. They have been married since they were 16 yrs old and they just celebrated their 49th wedding ann. What a marriage.
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when ever Connie feels down, remind her the Heavenly Father has her in his hands and thats all she needs to know....I will definitely add her to my prayers......and you for helping out with such loving grace...
I know all to well the Power of the Cuties Prayer Warriors. Where there are 2 or more gathered so will the LORD be, and here you have so many gathered for you now, that the LORD will make miracles happen for you in some way or another.
deanna
I know all to well the Power of the Cuties Prayer Warriors. Where there are 2 or more gathered so will the LORD be, and here you have so many gathered for you now, that the LORD will make miracles happen for you in some way or another.
deanna
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So many of you Cuties have been a Godsend. Thank you for all the prayers.
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shirlener88
31 Aug 2010
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Mary, I was praying for you sister and you and the family - before I finished reading this - may your accpet God's will for each of you. It does sound like she and you have the best approach to all this.
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You know, a wk before she found out she had cancer she had bought a couple of comforters, she hadn't even taken them out of the bag and when she found out she wanted to return everything, we told her no way, she wasn't dead yet. Well now we have her going shopping and getting clothes on her good days. You know what even if she never gets to wear any of it, that is okay, because we get her out of the house even if it is for 1/2 an hour. She loves her Starbucks so we take her to get that shop a little and then home to bed. I cleaned her house (I love to clean)so now I just watch over her pamper her, but I am trying to get her to do minor things around her house because she has not been able to use her arm due to the cancer. She has a lot of pain but I try to have her do small things around here to get her juices flowing. I pick on her to make her laugh. She keeps asking me to please stay for as long as I can, I keep telling her I'm not going anywhere unless they get tired of me and want me gone. So I'm here for the long haul. I'm sorry if I'm going on and on but sometime I just need to get it out and shed my tears when she is asleep. Thank you for listening and for the prayers.
you sound to be such a lovely person.
Mary, what a loveing and special sister you are - you are doing God's work here - thank you for being you and making this time so special for her.
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Mary, I have missed you, now I know why. I will definately keep you and your sister in my Prayers, Prayers are the only thing you can re4ally count on. Hugs, Judy
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Thank you so much. I only got on the Cutie site because I knew the Cuties would be very supportive in time of need. So please know that I truly appreciate all the prayers coming our way. She has started sleeping more and the drugs keep her asleep most of the day. Thank you for the prayers.
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You seem to have the most wonderful,caring family; that in itself is a godsend,just remember that we are all praying for you and care about; will definitely add you to the list of people we pray for.
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Thank you so much. Yes we are all very close. My brother and his wife have an orphanage in Honduras with over 400 orphanes and he too was able to come visit her for a couple of days. They prayed with her and has had the children praying for her.
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I have just prayed for her, you,your family an all the people who will be helping her through this.
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Thank you for all your prayers.
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Oh dear!
My prayers with you and your sister, also for the involved family.
If I read read this I'm so thankful for my health, forget about this and that.
I will pray that the Lord Jesus may strenghten you all.
Wether you may understand what's going on or not, God is good. Many sufferings we do not have an answer but at least he will carry us through all of this. What a great witness to trust in everything!
God bless you and hold you stick to him and tell him that you are trusting in his promises.
Bärbel
My prayers with you and your sister, also for the involved family.
If I read read this I'm so thankful for my health, forget about this and that.
I will pray that the Lord Jesus may strenghten you all.
Wether you may understand what's going on or not, God is good. Many sufferings we do not have an answer but at least he will carry us through all of this. What a great witness to trust in everything!
God bless you and hold you stick to him and tell him that you are trusting in his promises.
Bärbel
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I truly appreciate all the prayers we are receiving. I even ask the Lord to keep me healthy. I just can't afford to get sick. Her husband also needs to stay healthy and he has been suffering from back and neck problems. I thank the Lord for giving me such an understanding husband. He keeps telling me that she needs to be my priority right now and he reminds me of how many times he had to deploy and that he can fend for himself for now. God bless him. I'm sure the Lord is watching over all of us. thank you so much.
I like your view so much!
Even in this sad times you can thank for what you have - this will enoy the Lord too much.
At least he see every heart and will remove all our tears and pain - he promised that and I believe in that deeply.
Again blessings for all your love you poor out.
The Lord also may bless your and your husband for setting you free - this cannot be assumed!
Bärbel
Even in this sad times you can thank for what you have - this will enoy the Lord too much.
At least he see every heart and will remove all our tears and pain - he promised that and I believe in that deeply.
Again blessings for all your love you poor out.
The Lord also may bless your and your husband for setting you free - this cannot be assumed!
Bärbel
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God bless you and your sister. She will be in our prayers!
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Thank you so much.
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kalinelson
31 Aug 2010
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I will be joining Connies friends and family in praying for her......you have a wonderful attitude which will really help.....may God give you and Connie the strength needed to go through this and remember we have a miracle working God......blessings Janet
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God is so great, he really does listen to prayers. She has been such a great sister and had always been there for me. She has actually been the pillar of our family and an awesome role model to us all. She is loved by so many. Thank you for the prayers.
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Dear Mary,
I will keep you and your sister Connie in my daily prayers. May God grant you peace and keep being positive. Love and blessings Chris
I will keep you and your sister Connie in my daily prayers. May God grant you peace and keep being positive. Love and blessings Chris
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I appreciate all the prayers and I just told her tonite that I had you cuties from all over the world praying for her. She gave me a big smile and then fell asleep. So thank you so much.
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i will pray for you & Connie to have good days & happy times remembering!
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Since all my brothers and sisters have come from all over we have had some really good times remembering our childhood days, we have laughed soooo much and although she goes to her room to sleep very often, when she is up we make her laugh and she will tell me she had such a good time. Thank you so much for the prayers.
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Mary, connie is now in my prayers as well as you. God grant you both what you stand in need of. God Bless *
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I appreciate the prayers, thank you for taking the time to add us to your prayers.
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oh dear how i feel for you and your sister.hope the chemo will help. myself i,ve yet to cross that bridge. hormone therapy is so for controlling my own cancer. i,ll be praying for you. take care.
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I just want to say thank you for all the prayers. Sometime I just don't have the time or even the energy to read what you Cuties have written. I get up at 4 am everyday to get my day going and get things ready for her. Her coffee toast,meds. So sometimes I just chill and watch TV for a while and call it a nite around 10 pm. But thank you so much for the prayers.,
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Mary my heart aches for you and your dear sister.
No negativity here, just compassion and love. Let me shed some tears for you and pass on to you some of my strength with prayers.
You are doing everything you need to be doing, it is so important to have diversions, laughter and especially a dear Sister to love and support and keep those negative thoughts at bay.
May God and your own loved ones give you the strength for the battle ahead, don't ever give in, we are all with you when you need to talk, to get things off your chest. You can write to me privately if you need to
melide_menschen@yahoo.com.au
In fact if you send me Connie's address I would like to send her a Guardian Angel and I encourage all Cuties to do the same.
Faith, Hope, Courage & Strength are the words to live by through cancer. How I hate that word.
God bless, Meg
No negativity here, just compassion and love. Let me shed some tears for you and pass on to you some of my strength with prayers.
You are doing everything you need to be doing, it is so important to have diversions, laughter and especially a dear Sister to love and support and keep those negative thoughts at bay.
May God and your own loved ones give you the strength for the battle ahead, don't ever give in, we are all with you when you need to talk, to get things off your chest. You can write to me privately if you need to
melide_menschen@yahoo.com.au
In fact if you send me Connie's address I would like to send her a Guardian Angel and I encourage all Cuties to do the same.
Faith, Hope, Courage & Strength are the words to live by through cancer. How I hate that word.
God bless, Meg
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All of you Cuties have really been so supportive. I want to cry and scream, I want to be held and be told everything will be okay, but I just can't let her see me fall apart so I do it while I am in the shower or while she is in bed. Then I am okay, it just pains me to see her suffering. I know I need to be strong and I am when she needs me to be, but I have my moments. Thank you so much and I will take you up on your offer if I need someone to talk to. Thank you so very much.
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I have lifted Connie up in prayer and will continue to along with her husband and all her loved ones. I pray she will feel God's loving arms around her as she goes through this awful time in her life. God bless, Judy
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Thank you. She had a blood transfusion Sat. morning, it took 4 hours and she slept most of the time. Sorry it has taken so long to reply and send my thanks but she hasn't been doing very well.
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02 Sep 2010
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I will be praying for her and for all of you... I admire what both you and your husband are doing. I know it must be hard for both of you. But... I also admire what you are doing for your Sister. I think that it is wonderful that she has such a supportive, loving family!
I pray the chemo works! Positiveness goes a long way too! We send you all a big hug.
I pray the chemo works! Positiveness goes a long way too! We send you all a big hug.
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Thank u for the prayers. I can't always check my mail. But please be aware that I really do appreciate all you CUTIES for all the prayers.
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My prayers will be sent to our Lord on her behalf. She is very blessed to have a wonderful sister like you. *4U
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Thank u so much. It is really a blessing to have so many cuties praying for my sister Connie. She really is so greatful to all of you.
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My prayers are with you 2. I have lost my husband, mother and son to cancer, now my brother is fighting that battle.
Would you want us to send cards or angels to her?
Would you want us to send cards or angels to her?
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Angels, to hold her and take some of the pain away. I am sorry for all your losses. God bless you.
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Thinking of you & in our prayers!
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thank you so very much
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My prayers with Connie and you, dear Mary. Thank you to all Cuties.
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Thank you for the prayers and for the support from all you Cuties.
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I will be praying for your sister and for you too. Remember God still in the miracle business
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Right now we need a miracle. She is having problems getting up and staying up because the pain shoots up to the point where she cries. She is spending more time in bed. I really do appreciate the prayers that are being sent our way. Thank you.
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I will be praying for you and your sister,and family.
God will be forever at your side.
Hugs from Bev
God will be forever at your side.
Hugs from Bev
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I know I need to trust in our Lord but their are times I feel all alone. I want to feel his arms around me and tell me everything will be okay. I'm sure he is here with us but when I see my sister in so much pain I ask where are you Lord, I know I should not have doubts. I do want to say thank you for the prayers.
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I pary for you, as I have just lost a sister about four weeks ago, I`m the baby by 20yrs and my big sister is now so ill she doesnot know us at all and she is so far away that I can not look after her as I wish so God be with you in all your needs Love Ena
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I pray you are doing well. I am sorry for your lost. My prayers are with you. And thank you for your prayers.
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I will send up many prayers for your sister and family. H&*
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Thank you so much.
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My heartfelt prayers are already on their way..God Bless you and your family...Keep your faith and humor..What a wonderful person you are and it's great to keep that positive attitude...we will all be here for you whenever you need us...God Bless..
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I have been shedding tears today, of course not in front of her. She has been having some very bad days. Thank you for your prayers.
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Cancer is such an ugly word but by any other name it would be the same terrible thing. Sending Big Hugs and Loads of Prayers. Keeping a positive attitude is good. I'm so sorry to hear of this but many prayers are ging up for her each day. Blessings to you and her.
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Thank you for the hugs and prayers.
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Mary, you sound like a wonderful sister afterall, what are sisters for? My prayers are for you both, for the strength and guidance God will give each of you.
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My heart is so heavy. It is so painful to watch someone that was so full of life withering away. The pain she has is so bad that it hurts to get up or even sit up to take her meds. Thank you so much for all the prayers.
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Mary so sorry to hear your news. I will add Connie and the family to my prayer list. Hugs Yvonne
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Thank you so much. All the prayers that everyone is sending her way are so greatly appreciated. I am sending love and hugs back to all of you for your prayers and hugs.
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So sorry to hear about your sister, you are a angel to look after her like you are, you will be blessed. I will difinitely pray for her too.
Hugs and Gods blessings for you both
Marietta
Hugs and Gods blessings for you both
Marietta
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Oh how I wish I were an angel with wings so I could cover her with my wings and relieve the pain she is going through. Thank you for the prayers.
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I am so terribly sorry to hear about your sister. Try and stay strong. My thoughts are with you both.
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I am really trying to stay strong at this point but it is not easy to see her wither away, she is so loved by so many she gets many phone calls but gets winded when she talks and has shortness of breath due to the morphine. Thank you so much.
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Mary, I am so sorry that you and your family are facing such a battle.
Know that God NEVER gives us anything that He doesn't think we can handle - He knows us better than we know ourselves.
I found great comfort in knowing this.
Also we have very broad shoulders and willing ears so you say whatever you want, whenever you want here.
Thoughts and prayers with you all daily.
LOL
Fiona
Know that God NEVER gives us anything that He doesn't think we can handle - He knows us better than we know ourselves.
I found great comfort in knowing this.
Also we have very broad shoulders and willing ears so you say whatever you want, whenever you want here.
Thoughts and prayers with you all daily.
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Fiona
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Update, my sister is not getting up much any more. The pain is to severe. I remember hearing when I was younger that cancer is not painful well guess what, it is. I have been crying today everytime someone calls I go outside so she can't hear me. Her pain level is pretty much a 10+, a 3 - 7 if she doesn't move. But just to give her her pain meds she sits up and the pain shoots up. Her husband and I are really trying to stay strong at least in front of her. Tomorrow she goes in for her 2nd round of chemo, it will be 5 hours, but the last time they said 3 hrs and it took 6. So I ask and pray that all you Cuties continue to pray with all your being especially tomorrow. God bless you all for all the kindness and prayers.