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by read180 03 Jun 2011 ( edited Jun 12'11 23:24 )
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told me she was going into hospice and reminded me that she wanted me to come and be with her. I have never done this before, and I never was in the presence of my parents when they died. I know she is ready to meet her Lord I don't know if I am ready to let her go. Cindy B.

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by crafter2243 03 Jun 2011
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I will pray for both of you. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now. Obviously it is really important to Cathy to have you close. Unfortunately we have no choice when God decides to take our dear ones home. All we can do is support them and love them while they are still with us. The fact she is going to hospice means they will make her as comfortable as possible. I will be thinking of you and pray for strength. Hugs to you Cindy.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you so much for your hugs and support.
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by beatie58 03 Jun 2011
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Cindy, Just being there will be all you need to do, you will know what is needed when the time comes. Such a privledge to be asked to sit with her when her time comes. Remember we are all here with you! Love Sally
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you Sally.
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by meganne 03 Jun 2011
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Cindy you could receive no greater honour than to have a friend who wants YOU by her side while she departs this world for the next.

My girlfriend of 55 years asked for me when she was dying and I spent her last hours with her, her family, my Godson and daughter, her sister and her mother. We all supported each other and as much as her death devastated me, I would have been inconsolable if I had not been with her when she needed me most. We were sisters (by choice) from the age of 5 and our love for each other was unconditional and never-ending. To this day I still miss her terribly and I will be forever grateful that her daughter phoned me.

Be strong for your friend, she needs you, you can share all your good times, you can share your sorrow at her leaving, you don't even need words, your presence, your love and strength is all she needs and you will find you have them all in abundance when the time comes.

I hope my message helps you.
HUgs and blessings, Meganne
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you for your message Meganne, it really helps
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by anangel 03 Jun 2011
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Cindy, I, too, have a best friend, named Cathy, who I have been through so many joyful and sad moments with during the past 25 years. She and I both would want to be with each other to the end to say our final goodbye. No greater way to go, than surrounded by those that love us most. Letting go isn't easy, but neither do we want someone to love to suffer a painful demise. May she be comforted knowing you are there, and may you find peace and acceptance by being there to say goodbye.
May the Lord bless you both.
Angel
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank yo Angel.
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by mary51 03 Jun 2011
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Cindy, she is lucky to have you as her freind, just be with her God bless you.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you so much.
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by devon 03 Jun 2011
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You will find the strengh to do this. She and you will do great. It makes a difference for her. I will keep both of you in my prayers. DeVon
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you for the hugs.
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by ramona 03 Jun 2011
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Tough place to be but through God you can do this for your friend. I will pray for you during this tough time.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you.
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by 02kar 03 Jun 2011
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You are giving her a wonderful gift. Hold her hand, talk about the fun times if she wants to, just be with her even if you just quietly hold her hand. And it is Ok to cry with her. Your tears show how much she is loved.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you so much. Yes we had some fun times.
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by almag 03 Jun 2011
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Be there for your friend, Cindy, hold her hand and the memory of that closeness will be with you and sustain you in the days ahead. You will be glad that you helped your dear friend say her last goodbye to you.
AlmaG.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank yo Alma.
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by jrob 04 Jun 2011
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Cindy, your precious friend obviously knows more about you than you do.;) She can see your heart. What a blessing that you are going to witness. When someone dies, knowing that they are going to heaven, even though it is hard on you, there is such peace in the room. You will feel something you will never forget.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you. I am already feeling the support and love
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by stitchship 04 Jun 2011
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I can't imagine a harder request and a most wonderful one. To watch your friend leave this world will be very hard. But you say she is ready to meet the Lord, then the occasion changes to one of rejoicing that she won't be here on this earth suffering any more.

My heart breaks for you. It will be soooo hard, I will keep you both in my prayers.

May the Lord give you the strength and courage you will need.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you.
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by judybell 04 Jun 2011
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Cindy, God is wanting to use you as a comfort for your friend. Even if you think she can't hear you talk to her, touch her because so many times they can hear you and just can't respond. As said already when a person is ready to meet the Lord it is a special blessing to be with them. Will be praying for you all. Hugs, Judy
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you for your prayers and support Judy.
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by elizabethak 04 Jun 2011
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Prayers & hugs as you share with your friend in her leaving as you did your whole life.
Be glad she will be free from pain, mourn her passing but celebrate her life and your joy you had together.
Much love
Elizabeth
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you Elizabeth For your support
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by noah 04 Jun 2011
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Will pray with/FOR both of you CINDY!!carolyn
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you Carolyn.
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by airyfairy 04 Jun 2011
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My thought are with you and your dear friend. I am sure that you will get the strength to be by her side. Hugs to you Sarah.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you Sarah.
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by kalinelson 04 Jun 2011
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I know this will be very difficult but God will give you the strength you need.....I don't think I will ever be ready to let my hubby or anyone else I love go but when it is time I know God will be with me.....I was telling my hubby this morning that I hope we have alot of years left but when it's time we have so many great memories to remember....I will be praying for God to give you the strength you need and may He bless you for being the friend He wants you to be.
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you I appreciate your support
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by lbrow 05 Jun 2011
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Cindyy I believe God is in control & He is the reason you are Cathy's best friend. He knew this day would come & she would need you. He will give you the grace to be there & comfort her. I lift you both up to Him/Lillian
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by read180 05 Jun 2011
Thank you Lillian.
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by bevgrift 06 Jun 2011
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Will be praying for your courage,it does take special love and strength to be close at a time like this.
God Bless you!
Hugs and prayers Bev
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by read180 09 Jun 2011
Bev thank you so much.
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by rmj8939 06 Jun 2011
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This will be one of the hardest things that you will ever do but you will feel better for doing so at her request. She does not want to be alone. I will pray for your strength and her easy passing.
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by read180 09 Jun 2011
Thanks you so much.
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by capoodle 08 Jun 2011
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My MIL was under hospice care for the past 6 1/2 months and passed away May 25th and my best advise is to be you as you always were before you knew of her failing health. She just wants to be able to hear your voice and know that you are there with her. Will be keeping her in my thoughts and prayers.
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by read180 09 Jun 2011
Thank you for your advice.
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by shirlener88 08 Jun 2011
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My dear Cindy, you have been being prepared for this time - for a long while - even if you don't realize it - when Cathy first mentioned it to you - you were ready then - it may not feel that way - but you are - she knows you - she wouldn't ask you - if she didn't - your strength and spirituality is something she knows she can use in her final days. God will be with you and you will experience something that will be with you the rest of your life and will bring you a peace that you will treasure. I will be praying for you - chances are - this could take some time - or none at all. Be prepared for either, dear one.
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by read180 09 Jun 2011
Thank you Shirlene. Cathy is still at her home.
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by greysewist 12 Jun 2011
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There are some people in life that we'd be happy never to see again and some we want to see up until our final passing. It's obvious which category you fall into and a great honour to be chosen to be with her. I'm sure you'll be of great comfort to her at this time.
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by read180 13 Jun 2011
Thank you so much