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by anne55 15 Jun 2011 ( edited Jun 19'11 23:54 )
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Please pray that he won't do this and that I won't have to spend thousands for an attorney. I feel he is verbally and emotionally abusive, although he does not believe he is. I'm afraid I'm going to have a stroke or heart attack from the stress involved. I also ask that you pray that I won't give up and stay. Thank you all so much! If you have my e-mail address, please do NOT e-mail me! They sometimes go to his e-mail address. I have no family closer than 360 miles away for emotional support. Thanks again.

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by devon 15 Jun 2011
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I will keep you in my prayers and hope NO I know that things will turn for the better for you!!!!
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you so much.
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by capoodle 15 Jun 2011
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Any type of abuse is a behavior that isn't normal and abuse is not a disease. Any obligations that you feel you have to your spouse keeps you in a situation that is beyond what any person should endure. Don't know if you have tried any type of counseling but my best to you in being liberated from a situation in which you are being controlled.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Yes, we have been in counseling, but he only went a handful of times. Everything is all my fault to him. And certainly some of it is, but not all. I think too much has been said and done to survive at this point. We're talking, but he's not hearing me or understanding his problems. Thanks, I need all the emotional support I can get and you're all a blessing.
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by airyfairy 15 Jun 2011
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I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. You do not say if there are children involved - this makes a huge difference. I have gone through two divorces and am blessed that my ex husbands still remain in touch. My thoughts are with you at this very emotional time. Hugs Sarah.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
No, there are no children involved. Our children by previous marriages are all grown. Thanks.
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by mary51 15 Jun 2011
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Life is so unfair, you going to file divorce, me crying because my DH passed away after 28 years together, I do not know the causes for this step, Can you both talk to a concelor? Hope everything turns out OK for you. God bless you.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
I am so sorry your husband passed away. I know you are going through an even more difficult time than me. We have talked to a counselor, but mostly me as he won't go as there is nothing wrong with him. He has said all of our problems are 100% my fault. Some, but not all are. I know I really need to get out but I must admit we aren't getting any younger. I just don't know if I can continue to live like this. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts.
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by judybell 15 Jun 2011
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I too am sorry that you are having to go through a divorce. I pray you have tried to get help in solving your problems before you take this step. I will remember you in prayer during this dificult time. Hugs, Judy
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
I went to counseling and he went a few times a while back, but unfortunately as far as he is concerned everything is my fault and none is his. Thank you for your prayers. I need God to intervene and show me what I need to do.
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by 02kar 15 Jun 2011
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I am so sorry Anne, that you have to live like this. Please be careful. Don't hesitate to seek help. And yes, the Cute family will be praying. Keep us informed.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
We're talking, but he isn't really hearing me. Thanks so much for your continued prayers.
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by crafter2243 15 Jun 2011
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Praying for you that you will know what is right to do and once you have decided that not too many obstacles will be in your way. Divorce is never easy.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you. I definitely need God to show me what to do. I appreciate your continued prayers!!
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by flomacm 15 Jun 2011
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Praying for God best blessings in your life.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you so much.
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by obaachan 15 Jun 2011
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I will ask the Great Spirit to hold you in the palms of his healing hands and to guide you an keep you safe.
Jo
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you.
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by terriweistra 15 Jun 2011
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Bless you sweetheart, take one day at a time and think before you react or speak. Divorce is not nice and can be cruel but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you have to look really hard for it! Best of luck and stay strong
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you!
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by clawton 16 Jun 2011
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The best to you in what you are trying to do.
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you so much.
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by jerrib 16 Jun 2011
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My prayers are with you. I have been divorced for 38 years and never remarried. Once was enough. I have also had to help each of my two children to through theirs. I was just glad I was able to help them and give them advise on what I went through and PLEASE KEEP A DIARY of anything you think might be important. Even if you don't think it is important, it just might be. I told this to everyone I know that went through a divorce and having dates and information has been a blessing and help for so many. Keep all e-mails etc on a CD. You never know if or when you need information and if you have everything in writing it helps.
May you have the strength to hold on and do whatever you think is right for you. Think of yourself first.
I was so afraid when I filed for mine, but alot of stress and worry was gone, once I did. I raised my two children on my own and think we are all better for my decision.
Jerri
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by anne55 17 Jun 2011
Thank you so much. We're talking but I honestly don't think he can change. He can't admit anything may be his problem, not mine. He has stated all of our problems are 100% my fault. Some are, but not all.
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by castelyn 17 Jun 2011
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Anne so sorry to hear this. But you must do what is best for you. Look after yourself. Will put you on my prayer list. hugs Yvonne
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by lbrow 17 Jun 2011
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So sorry to hear this Anne. You will be in my prayers./Lillian
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by sewensue 18 Jun 2011
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Anne I will keep you in my prayers, and I do understand. It took me a visit to the head doctor to tell me if he where a stranger to you would you let him treat you like that. My answer was no and for some reason it clicked for me. God bless you sweetie.
Sue D.
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by shirlener88 18 Jun 2011
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Anne, there are support groups that you need to align yourself with - I will be praying for you.
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by anne55 23 Jun 2011
I am seeing a psychologist and talking to my pastor. Even my husband's children tell me I should divorce him because he will never change and will always blame someone else for everything. Thanks!
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by stitchship 19 Jun 2011
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Anne, I am so sorry you are going through such sorrow... May the Lord show you what to do, in your situation. I'll be praying for you.
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by beatie58 19 Jun 2011
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Anne, stay strong! Sorry this is happening to you! We are here to support. Hugs Sally