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Sunday evening and Ray has just left for work and to stay at Penrith until next week end.
As usual I got very upset (after he left) and as you know we get careless when we're upset.
So I was cutting the stems off some Gardenias with a pair of scissors and evidently my pinky finger wasn't completely out of the way.
Now I'm not only upset, I'm also bleeding like a stuck pig and my finger hurts like all 'ell.
Then just minutes ago my sister phoned me again and told me a young neighbour (only 28) of hers, committed suicide. Evidently his cousin committed suicide, only 3 weeks ago, in the same manner.
Two weeks ago his father died and last week he lost his job, I am supposing it was all too much for him but it is such a tragedy.
Why? Why is suicide Australia's highest cause of male deaths, under the age of forty???
I can't comprehend this.
Sorry if this upsets anyone, or brings back bad memories, I just needed to talk to someone.
Please remember to smile and be pleasant, even to strangers, you never know when you could make a difference in someone's life.
Hugs and blessings to all, Meganne
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claudenicolas
27 Nov 2011
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Hello meganne
I wish you however a good sunday by waiting Ray to be back
Here on Cute, you will be not alone
Hugs and love
Claude
I wish you however a good sunday by waiting Ray to be back
Here on Cute, you will be not alone
Hugs and love
Claude
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Awww polly kiss it better for you. I hear you so talk on girly. Sorry to hear the news that Janet called about. Call you 2morrow arvo x x
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Ooh! Meg, you poor thing. I did that last Tuesday - I was taking the stone out of an Avocado and stuck the knife in my palm. I have a lot of sympathy for you and hope the bleeding has stopped. Also sorry about the phone call about your sister's neighbour commiting suicide. You're right with the figures of Australian males under 40. It's a real worry. Hope you have a better week. Love Chris
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I hope you have stitched the cut up decoratively (sorry!)
On the other matter, I think that Australia is not alone with the high number of young male suicides. We need to be improving emotional health and well-being education in our schools so that they may have better coping skills.
On the other matter, I think that Australia is not alone with the high number of young male suicides. We need to be improving emotional health and well-being education in our schools so that they may have better coping skills.
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I think you're right, Sue. Too many don't seem to know how to cope when 'stuff goes wrong'. It frustrates me no end when other parents don't let their kids experience disappointment -the real world won't shield them, that's for sure.
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greysewist
27 Nov 2011
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I don't get it either. Do they not think at all of what they're leaving behind for others to deal with? -I guess not. Still seems way too much of a cop-out to me, rather than them having to deal with what is happening in their lives. Very sad. I've met a number of people for whom losing their jobs ends up being the very best thing to effect positive change in their lives. Pity more can't look for and wait for the positives in life. Here's a positive. I played Santa's helper today and got to accompany Santa's rein-dog (who was a greyhound in antlers, but of course!). It was such fun!
As to the fingy -ouchies! Hope it's better before you run out of naughty words, Meganne :)
As to the fingy -ouchies! Hope it's better before you run out of naughty words, Meganne :)
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Yes I agree with you, it only creates more suffering and hardship for those left behind. I think my parents did right by my siblings and me because I still tackle everything head-on and have always told my boys that every obstacle is given to us for a reason.
If you can't go through it, go over it, or around it, or under it and the more you try the more the obstacle diminishes. Never give up, never give in. Besides, God helps those who help themselves.
It would have been wonderful playing Santa's helper, sounds like a lot of fun.
Pinky is OK now but I can tell you I was screaming in pain, cursing my own stupidity and cussing Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
Hugs n love, Meganne
If you can't go through it, go over it, or around it, or under it and the more you try the more the obstacle diminishes. Never give up, never give in. Besides, God helps those who help themselves.
It would have been wonderful playing Santa's helper, sounds like a lot of fun.
Pinky is OK now but I can tell you I was screaming in pain, cursing my own stupidity and cussing Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
Hugs n love, Meganne
reason. You either go through it, around it, over it or under it, and the more you try the weaker it becomes. Never give up, never give in and you will be stronger for it.
Besides, God helps those who help themselves.
It must have been wonderful playing Santa's helper, so much fun.
As for Pinky it has stopped hurting so much now, but I can tell you the air was pretty thick with curse words, at myself for being so stupid, and Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
Besides, God helps those who help themselves.
It must have been wonderful playing Santa's helper, so much fun.
As for Pinky it has stopped hurting so much now, but I can tell you the air was pretty thick with curse words, at myself for being so stupid, and Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
ful playing Santa's helper, so much fun.
As for Pinky it has stopped hurting so much now, but I can tell you the air was pretty thick with curse words, at myself for being so stupid, and Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
As for Pinky it has stopped hurting so much now, but I can tell you the air was pretty thick with curse words, at myself for being so stupid, and Ray for not being here to comfort me. hahahahahaha!!
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shirlener88
27 Nov 2011
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Meg, it sure seems like when it rains it pours at your place - so sorry to hear about you being upset with Ray leaving and of coarse - that is understandable - cutting the pinky - however is just awful - the loss of the young men - very upsetting, too. I will be praying for some healing!
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Meganne, hope your finger is not to badly cut. Not good news from your sister. It is really sad and I only wish I had the answer. thoughts are with all. Hugs Sally
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christracey
27 Nov 2011
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Ouch sorry to hear about your pinky. It is sad news about your sister's neighbour too. It would be a hard decision to put yourself in pain to end things but it doesn't solve anything & someone has to find them. I have been there & done that & still don't cope well at times.
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Sorry about your finger and other bad news. Wish you a prompt recovery and send you HUGS!!!!!!
Lidia
Lidia
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Hi Meganne, hope your finger is now feeling better. Here in SA we have a lot of suicides among young people leaving school - terrified that they will not pass their final matric exams. There is just far too much pressure on all. Hope that Tidgy is doing better. Hugs Sarah.
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Honey, the translation is not enough for me, very correct. I understand that you cut. Right?
Get well soon ... this community has no meaning without you! Love you!
Improved!
Get well soon ... this community has no meaning without you! Love you!
Improved!
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dlonnahawkins
27 Nov 2011
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Meg - I am sorry you have had it rough for a while -my DH cut himself really bad last week, and refused to go have stitches. He was careless when he was glueing my yard angels he hit with a cutter, and broke their wings off. But, you be more careful. And I do think that suicide has become very common place. We never know what is going through their minds, and how they feel they lost all hope. Our area has a lot of young kids committing suicide - not even quite into their teens - what is going through their young minds that hurst so bad?
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Oh Meg, hope your finger heals Quickly .
I to wonder why ???but then i think that is one of the questions God will answer for us when we see him hugs carolyn
I to wonder why ???but then i think that is one of the questions God will answer for us when we see him hugs carolyn
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Hope your finger gets well soon... Suicide rate is high in every nation, economy, no job , losing homes, divorce, it is a mess.
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Meganne this is so sad . I hope your finger heals fast .we need to pray for that family it is so hard for a son when he looses his father..
My uncle was in the hospital and we were there with him, The man in the room with him had 3 sone 29 of them went home to rest and the man passed away when this happend the one at the hospital judt fell over dead when the call the other two both of them had a heart attact and died they burried all 4 of them at one time.
My uncle was in the hospital and we were there with him, The man in the room with him had 3 sone 29 of them went home to rest and the man passed away when this happend the one at the hospital judt fell over dead when the call the other two both of them had a heart attact and died they burried all 4 of them at one time.
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sorry that was 2 of them went hometo rest
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theduchess
27 Nov 2011
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Meg, Sorry about the pinky.Hope you it heals fast soon. Please take care.Stella
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Sorry to hear about all this. Sending hugs and prayers to the family. DeVon
PS hope you feel better soon.
PS hope you feel better soon.
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Meganne,
Suicide is "selfishness", but a distraught mind cannot think that far ahead. If they could, they would never inflict that type of pain on loved ones left behind. It is an uncomprehendable action to those of us more mentally stable, and it is not only sad, but mind boggling. There are many reasons as to "why", but NONE sufficient to solicit suicide!
All we can do is pray for those suffering from mental derangement, from whatever causes, to seek other avenues to resolve issues and restore their mental health. Everyone has difficulties; its a fact of life. But, the Lord DOES help us through them, if only we ASK and have FAITH.
Hugs to you, and may the Lord bless you with an uplifted spirit and healing. I, too, seem to be more susceptible to an accident, whenever I am bogged down emotionally! Take care, Meg!
Angel
Suicide is "selfishness", but a distraught mind cannot think that far ahead. If they could, they would never inflict that type of pain on loved ones left behind. It is an uncomprehendable action to those of us more mentally stable, and it is not only sad, but mind boggling. There are many reasons as to "why", but NONE sufficient to solicit suicide!
All we can do is pray for those suffering from mental derangement, from whatever causes, to seek other avenues to resolve issues and restore their mental health. Everyone has difficulties; its a fact of life. But, the Lord DOES help us through them, if only we ASK and have FAITH.
Hugs to you, and may the Lord bless you with an uplifted spirit and healing. I, too, seem to be more susceptible to an accident, whenever I am bogged down emotionally! Take care, Meg!
Angel
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Meganne, I can't seem to upload the video way...so I add the link...God always gives us comfort!!!
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyIEhoY90WQ&feature=related
"The Anchor Holds, Ray Boltz"
Thanks so much. hugs n love, Meganne
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Here it is again:
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyiehoy90wq&feature=related
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Is it working? If not, it's the song: "The Anchor Holds, Ray Boltz"
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After his car accident guess you will worry every time he leaves. Take care of that finger and try not to read anything that will upset you. Suicides have always happened we just have the internet and more news is out there to hear about and get covered.
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debswebster
27 Nov 2011
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Hope your finger heals soon. Mwah, kiss it better. As for the rest of the drama, I am lost for words. Awful. So sorry for everything.
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just try to think positive. After a dark time, sun will always come up and shine. Take care of yourself.
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Meganne,
I'm so sorry you've had so much tragedy in such a short time. It is very heartwrenching, but sadly, it happens. My daughters had a friend when they were young who committed suicide. At the funeral, I wondered the same thing. How at 17 can you know you will never be happy? It is a hard thing to overcome, but we have to sometimes stop and think of all the things we have to be grateful for. Not everyone can do that, but you are so right. I try to leave even strangers with the impression that they were glad to have met me. {{hugs}} Kimi
I'm so sorry you've had so much tragedy in such a short time. It is very heartwrenching, but sadly, it happens. My daughters had a friend when they were young who committed suicide. At the funeral, I wondered the same thing. How at 17 can you know you will never be happy? It is a hard thing to overcome, but we have to sometimes stop and think of all the things we have to be grateful for. Not everyone can do that, but you are so right. I try to leave even strangers with the impression that they were glad to have met me. {{hugs}} Kimi
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susiesembroidery
27 Nov 2011
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What a terrible time you are having with all these tragedies happening with you and your family. I do hope that your little finger is still there!!!!What a painful thing that must be. Rest your arm on a pillow at night, or when you lie down, so that your hand is lifted. It usually eases the pain. Ask somebody (like me LOL) about painful matters. About twenty years ago I cut my wisdom finger and this is the advice the dr. gave me. It definately gives relief. Hope you are well again soon. ******
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asterixsew
27 Nov 2011
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Meganne, sorry to hear about your finger. I am sorry to hear about the young men. Suicide is awful for those left behind. I know of 2 lovely young men who took their lives last year. It is such a tragic and needless loss of life and leaves families wondering 'why' The two I mention lived at opposite ends of the UK. Take care.
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Meganne, hope that today your finger is a wee bit better.
Just got back to work after lunch break. watched some of Dr Phil,
Here's a stat for us all to take note of: 1 out of 9 men are victims of domestic violence. They have violent partners and wives. I work in this area, with many of the men who are subject to this sort of thing in the home. Many not reported as who will believe that a 'man' can be intimidated and beat up by a woman. The rate of male suicide is frightening, I have 'lost' many of the males I look after to suicide. Sadly we are not able to help them enough for the wrong to become right, and they feel it is the 'only' way to stop the hurt, the bad thoughts and the craziness in the head.
It is not only mental illness that leads to suicide. Please spare a thought for all persons, male and female, who feel the need to 'end it all'. My prayers nad blessings to all. hugs Helen
Just got back to work after lunch break. watched some of Dr Phil,
Here's a stat for us all to take note of: 1 out of 9 men are victims of domestic violence. They have violent partners and wives. I work in this area, with many of the men who are subject to this sort of thing in the home. Many not reported as who will believe that a 'man' can be intimidated and beat up by a woman. The rate of male suicide is frightening, I have 'lost' many of the males I look after to suicide. Sadly we are not able to help them enough for the wrong to become right, and they feel it is the 'only' way to stop the hurt, the bad thoughts and the craziness in the head.
It is not only mental illness that leads to suicide. Please spare a thought for all persons, male and female, who feel the need to 'end it all'. My prayers nad blessings to all. hugs Helen
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Yes it is tragic indeed that people cannot seem to accept help to overcome domestic violence. Once they are in this type of situation the person usually becomes so downtrodden that they lose all sense of self worth because they are constantly being told no-one else would want them, and because they still love the person saying it, they start believing it. I was one of the lucky ones, I finally broke the cycle after doing a Landmark forum. But I don't understand the number of teenagers committing suicide these days. Is life really so bad?
no-one else would want them, and because they still love the person saying it, they start believing it. I was one of the lucky ones, I finally broke the cycle after doing a Landmark forum. But I don't understand the number of teenagers committing suicide these days. Is life really so bad?
these days. Is life really so bad?
Hugs n love, Meganne
Hugs n love, Meganne
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Dearest Megan, My heart goes out to you. I hope that your finger is feeling better today. I pray that the Lord keeps you close and safe this week. Suicide is very hard to understand. Those who are so troubled often think that suicide is the only answer. They can not think straight and are such deep pain. You too must be really hurting. I pray that God gives you the strength to get through this all. Don't be afraid to seek out professional help or spiritual if you are having trouble coping with all of this. Hugs and blessings to you. Peace Cindy B.
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Ouch Meg. Gardenias are my fave flowers. Hope the cut is better. I know what you mean about the suicides. Problems here in the states with teenagers doing this & it breaks my heart for anyone to think death is the only answer. /Love you Lillian
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Thanks Lillian, Gardenias are my fave flowers too, Singapore Lillies a close second, just love the perfume.
To me, it isn't Christmas without Gardenias.
Hugs n love, Meg
To me, it isn't Christmas without Gardenias.
Hugs n love, Meg
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Hope you are feeling better now. There is so much sadness in the world. Try to think about the positive parts of life, and the good times with Ray, til you are together again. You are so right about reaching out to others with a smile and friendliness. You never know when you maybe the one who made the difference and saved another soul with your kindness. Hugs hope your finger heals quickly.
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Thanks Terri. Sometimes the tragedies of the world just really get to me, there is so little we can do to help. hugs n love, Meganne
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Thanks everyone for your comments.
I've settled down now.
The stupid thing about my finger is that I have the sharpest Chef's knives, that I use in my kitchen, and I'm always warning people to be very careful if they use them.
Then I turn around and cut my finger with a pair of scissors!!!!!!!! DOH!!!!
As for the suicides, I guess I keep thinking about the years past, when "All but for the Grace of God go I" could have been applied to me. Now I am so thankful to be alive.
hugs n love, Meganne
I've settled down now.
The stupid thing about my finger is that I have the sharpest Chef's knives, that I use in my kitchen, and I'm always warning people to be very careful if they use them.
Then I turn around and cut my finger with a pair of scissors!!!!!!!! DOH!!!!
As for the suicides, I guess I keep thinking about the years past, when "All but for the Grace of God go I" could have been applied to me. Now I am so thankful to be alive.
hugs n love, Meganne
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Amen to that! Glad to hear things aren't looking so bleak! Morning does come ...
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28 Nov 2011
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meganne my thoughts are with you i know where you are coming from suicide is a horrible thing my eldest sons partner died this way leaving him with a not quite 2 year old who is now 13 but it is still very raw and guess it always will be.........soozie
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elizabethak
04 Dec 2011
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I sometime think we created a monster and can't put him back into the box. Everything in the world seems so upside down. In years gone by we didn't have much but we were happy and coped with neighbours being good friends. Now everyone wants everything today and the pressure mounts. We sometimes don't even know our neighbour and everything becomes too much. Hope you feeling better and I pray for your sister's neighbours family. ElizabethAK
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I also believe a lot of values in our world are Upside down.
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hightechgrammy
04 Dec 2011
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Meganne, You have been through more than your share of challenges lately. How is Tidgy doing? I am a cryer. When a friend of mine died in a car accident, I just couldn't stop crying. Another friend told me that some people just CARE so much that when they hurt, they hurt extra deeply. It's as if those who are willing to risk loving, and risk hurting for others when they are suffering. You have a huge, caring heart, and when you know someone who is suffering, you can actually feel their pain. I think a lot of the Cuties are like that.
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I read an article somewhere and I wish I could remember where, how our lifestyles have been especially difficult for men. As women have become stronger and more self-reliant, we don't appear to "need" men like we used to. In times past, they were the bread winner and the protectors. Now that women have taken on more of those roles, men haven't felt as necessary in the lives of women. Has anyone else read any of those studies?
bread winner and the protectors. Now that women have taken on more of those roles, men haven't felt as necessary in the lives of women. Has anyone else read any of those studies? Roles certainly have changed. Just pondering.... Hugs, Jan