the site was updated a while back and some of these features have not come back. My questions and my answers are a few of those. So you are doing nothing wrong. The private tab is to send a message to a certain cutie who you would like to speak with in private. We have been told we are getting the features back in the near future but no one knows exactly when. We also miss our edit tab. I hope this helps some
Bev

The site owner knows that we would like to see the "all my questions" function returned. She is working on it. Till then, just click on the "flower" of each page you might want to return to. The orange flowers are so much easier to find!! And your posts will all be orange automatically. Good luck.