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by sewmom 09 May 2012 ( edited May 10'12 22:25 )
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I need some hugs. I'm sitting here hemming my daughter's senior ball gown and trying not to get tears on it. It's separation anxiety. How am I going to get through the next 3 months before she goes to college? Yes, my boys have already been through this and I cried then too. But this is my little girl! So many things running through my head. Like, when I started sewing at age 10 I used to think about sewing things for my children, and that's exactly what I'm doing so I should be happy. I suppose it's "bittersweet". I'll really be a mess when she gets married. No one home at the moment for hugs, just you Cuties. School's out in an hour, then both my girls get really big hugs.

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by nannynorfolk 09 May 2012
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Big hug coming over the pond for you :)
Hugs
Marie
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
Thank you!
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by asterixsew 09 May 2012
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Another UK hug. Try not to worry, I thought that when my youngest left hoe to study that I would not see her for ages. The result was we were even more appriciated. I used to visit her sometimes. Its just the next stage in life and grasp it with both hands as it where and enjoy it. There is life after being a mum
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
Thanks for the pep talk.
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by parkermom 09 May 2012
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I felt that wrench when my two daughters left home. This is the thought that sustained me the most...Our job as a parent is to give them the tools they need to be able to function and contribute. To love them and encourage them and yell at them. If you've done that (and you know you have), then you've done your job and you should be proud of yourself. You've given her roots to help her find her wings.
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by parkermom 09 May 2012
And she will always still need her mom. They never outgrow that.
by sewmom 09 May 2012
I think I'm going to cry again. Very well said.
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by rescuer 09 May 2012
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*Hugs*
You will be ok. It is very hard but you have worked her whole life to see her spread her wings...now she will fly knowing she can come home to rest. Become FB friends with her so you can see her posts and know she is ok without hovering over her. Skype has helped me deal with the thousands of miles apart. The internet is a blessing for moms who miss their children.
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
Facebook, Pintrest, Skype, text. We are connected everywhere!
by sewmom 09 May 2012
I feel very lucky that she is FB friends with me.
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by devon 09 May 2012
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Sending out big hugs to you.
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
Thank you. (although that looks painful) LOL
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by pldc 09 May 2012
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Been there done that & yes it's very hard! A big huge bear hug from one mom to another! Loralye
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
Thank you very much.
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by susiesembroidery 09 May 2012
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A big hus coming your way XOXOXOXOXOXOXO I hope this helps somewhat. She will always be your little girl, nomatter what!!!! You will always have her close to you - in your heart.XOXO
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by sewmom 09 May 2012
So true.
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by kathyjt 09 May 2012
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A big hug for you.
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by shirlener88 09 May 2012
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Sending you a huge hug.
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by anabela 09 May 2012
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A big hug from Portugal. Don't worry to much, I now what you going trow. My daughter left with 15 all alone to study in Lisbon, a big city, I felt the world was ending. That was 5 years ago all goes well and she is now a lovely independent lady. being mom is not easy there are days we laugh, sometimes we cry that's life. Sorry for my English It's long ago I try to write something in your language
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
I understand you perfectly. 15 is so young that must have been very hard for you.
by anabela 10 May 2012
that was almost cruel . In the moment I see Janine only once a month and It is the same like 5 years ago . i miss her so much. This weekend she is coming home for 2 days and I' so happy. We do much things togheter when she is here we must enjoy every minute when she is here. This weekend I do absulutly nothing in the kitchen -- i spend all my time with her :)
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by grandmamek 09 May 2012
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Big hugs for you. I certainly know the feeling. It is always hard to see them go. However it is time for them to spread their wings and learn to fly on their own. She will always need you in her life. Hugs, Mary
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by judybell 09 May 2012
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Here's a big hug. I was making our daughters wedding dress while she was in college 500 miles away. Bittersweet is the right word. She got married a week after she finished college and moved 6 hours from us to live in VA. where she and her family have lived ever since. It has been 24 yrs. now. Happy for her but miss her very much even after all these years. Hugs, Judy *4U.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
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Meanwhile, it's ready for a fitting. She came home but doesn't want to put it on until after her tutoring jobs. Guess I'll do dishes and laundry.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
I told her about my crying and she says, "Aww Mom." Then she tells me to go check her Hunger Games and Josh Hutcherson Pintrest boards. That's my girl.
by sewmom 10 May 2012
She's also a bit amused that I cried watching the Motorola commercial where the daughter is leaving for college and telling her mom that they will stay connected with their phones.
by hightechgrammy 10 May 2012
I was thinking about that commercial - my husband doesn't think it makes any sense - LOL what doe she know?
by read180 10 May 2012
What a beautiful dress.
by cfidl 10 May 2012
Beautiful dress!
by sewmom 10 May 2012
I took up the straps. Hemming the dress and lining, and added the gold ribbon to reduce the amount of cleavage showing. She did a fitting and twirled like a little girl. More tears, happy/sad.
It looks good so final stitching tomorrow.
by edithfarminer 10 May 2012
Love the dress it is just BEAUTIFUL.
by muflotex 10 May 2012
you are doing a wonder!! full job and get hugs here and there aswell, you are blessed 8-) tears are perfectly ok
by sewmom 10 May 2012
Nap, done. Cutie freebie post, done. Now sewing. Where are my priorities? LOL
by catsnhorses 10 May 2012
Sewmom, your daughter is going to be the real princess at her prom! She may not tell you but I can guarantee she'll be bragging to everyone how her Mom made for gorgeous dress. It is beautiful, as I am sure that she is.
by drro 11 May 2012
The dress looks beautiful! And your daughter sounds wonderful; like you "raised her right!"
by nannynorfolk 11 May 2012
WOW- you've done a SUPERB job on her dress :) will you make me one for MY senior Ball ;)
lol
hugs
Marie
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by almag 10 May 2012
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Here's a Great Big Aussie Hug!!!

HHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!

I've ached over the 'loss' of three daughters. It never gets easier. First as 12 year olds in PNG, walking across the tarmac to the plane that would take them to Australia for schooling. Then as teenagers trying out their wings and leaving the family nest to make their own homes in dingy little flats in far cities. Finally as brides, glowing with maturity and love, taking the inevitable step into adulthood. Now, they are middle-aged women and the 'saying Goodbye' thing is just as hard and my heart aches every time we part.
Tempering the Goodbyes is the fact that my daughters always come back, I am still their Mum, they still bring their gladnesses and sadnesses for me to share and I take heart that distance can never, ever overshadow Mother-Daughter love.
AlmaG.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Sweet. Thank you. That's a long way to go at age 12. I kept mine here.
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by hightechgrammy 10 May 2012
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I have two grown up kids. I know how hard it is. Usually the baby birds get very loud before they get pushed out of the nest to fly on their own. If you have a great relationship now, you will continue to have that same relationship forever. You are simply entering a new phase of mother/daughter experience. The older ones need us just as much as they did when they were little, just in a different way. It's a brand new adventure for her, and you have prepared her to fly. You will still be right there with her; beside her, on her phone :-), and in your prayers.
Love and a big hug for your too! Jan
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by hightechgrammy 10 May 2012
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I forgot to upload my hug! I looks like you have hugs from around the world!
This is you and your daughter :-)
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
I do have hugs from around the world! Cuties are so wonderful. I'm feeling better already : )
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by lilylady 10 May 2012
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A big hug for a loving mother who cares!
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by read180 10 May 2012
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Here is a BIG HUG from MN. I totally understand. I balled my eyes out when my three went off to college. I balled when they went to kindergarten. I cried at my oldest sons wedding.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
I'm going to cry again just for you!
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by emily16838 10 May 2012
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Oh no I remember that when my daughter left for school....we drove her back east...I cried the whole way home in the car. My poor husband couldn't stand it! But oddly enough when I got home it was OK. She flew home a bunch and we had e-mail too. We wrote often and she shared the stories of her days just like she was at home..IT will be OK
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
My son came home from Davis every 2 to do laundry. My daughter will be close enough for that but freshman can't have cars and she says she doesn't want to take the bus and BART that often. We shall see how often she does and how often we go to her.
by sewmom 10 May 2012
That was "2 weeks." The dorm she requested has an ocean view so I might go a lot!
by emily16838 10 May 2012
My other daughter went to UCSB and she had an ocean view too. We, my husband and I , called it our beach house. It was as close as we were going to getting a beach house. And that housing was pretty expencise!
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by sadp 10 May 2012
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One GREAT BIG HUG for a MOM THAT CARES, HUGS S*, all will be OK, you'll see...
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by drro 10 May 2012
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Hang in there Sewmom! It will be okay! You will find a way to smile! Hugs for you!! God Bless:>)ro
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by cfidl 10 May 2012
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I have moments where I get scared about it. I remember when I was his age, I was truely alone in this world. My son, your daughter is not... that is how I get through. Family is strong, when all the parties are around to do their part, even if that is only holidays and occasional weekend.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Yes by her age I had already had 1 1/2 years of college and had moved out. I don't reccomend that.
by cfidl 10 May 2012
You are an exceotion and still wonderfully exceptional! I think I may have the opposite problem.
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by crafter2243 10 May 2012
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Big, Big hug for you my friend. I totally understand.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Thank you!
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by airyfairy 10 May 2012
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Big hug coming your way. Unfortunately we have to let our children go. Would love to see the dress when it is finished. Hugs Sarah.
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by castelyn 10 May 2012
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Big hugs and kisses. Yes they grow up to fast.
Well my daughter(32 in June) and son (30 in November) as still my little girl and little boy.
I also have 2 beautiful grand daughters from my daughter, a loving son-in-law, a lovely young lady(sons girlfriend)just waiting for her to join the family, then will have another daughter. haha
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by castelyn 10 May 2012
Sorry should read "are still my ...)
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by memasanders 10 May 2012
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Hugs from me but when and while you got em hug the guts outof them that's what I tell mine all the time I'll squeeze the guts outta you!
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by lbrow 10 May 2012
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(((()))) Hugs for you. They call that empty nest syndrome. I know since I had all 4 daughters leave and all married now most with children and grand children of their own. Do things together as much as possible and plan on going to everything she takes part in at college. Visit her often at college but for this summer start getting all she will need while away at school. If she will be in dorm everything she has will need her name on it. Make things for her to take with her. Pillows, rm decor, a scrapbook with pics of everyone from this last summer. Things to remind of her home. Stay busy with her as much as possible this summer./Lillian
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by jacquipaul 10 May 2012
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Time does fly and children do grow up, but you have lots of hugs and thoughts as your little girl goes off to school soon.
The years ahead will be filled with blessings and some disappointments too, but without the low times in life, the sky-high times would not be as joyous.
Love and lots of hugs,
Jacqueline
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by edithfarminer 10 May 2012
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Hugs to you, remember it well, I enroled at lots of classes and had a job to keep up with it all lol.
One thing to think when she gets married to brighten your day. You may have grandchildren one day hopefully and think of all the lovely embroidery you will be able to make.
Big Hugs edith
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by sewdoctor 10 May 2012
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WOW you did a beautiful job of putting that ribbon in. It looks like it was designed for it.
I know what you mean.......about your daughter. My youngest daughter is 37 and I don't know where the time has gone.
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by gerryvb 10 May 2012
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beautiful dress! I know the feeling. My two children are grown ups now too. One even has 2 children now. But to comfort you, they always stay your children, every age has its own charm. But I understand how and what you feel. So here's a very big hug for you :)
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Sweet! Thank you.
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
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Dress found on the internet for Senior Ball. Alteration picture is on another comment.
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by blueeyedblonde 10 May 2012
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Oh my. Another one of us is gonna be an empty nester! Just remember they are always your kids. My son (now 39 at end of the monthe) still gets called my "baby" - he's gotten used to it and just shakes his head! But as they mature and move away/forward - there will be other rewards. I now have 5 grandchildren aged 2(almost 3) to 22. And now I also have a great granddaughter (not old enough for this I'm sure)?! They bring so much joy and you get to do even more sewing as you don't have the responsibilities of raising them.

That dress is gorgeous! And I'm sure she looks super gorgeous in it!
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Yes, I'm looking forward to grandchildren! I actually have another daughter with 2 years left in high school. And all 4 kids are living at home right now.
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by catsnhorses 10 May 2012
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When my daughter left for college, I felt like someone had ripped my heart right out of my chest. I was so sad until the next day when she had a doz. red roses sent to me FTD. I cried. Every year she was away at college she sent me roses on that same day. And every time I cried. My heart swells with love and pride just thinking it.

Marriage? I adore my SIL so I gained a wonderful new son. I hope yours is as special, when the time comes.
Hugs
Marion in KY
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by sewmom 10 May 2012
Roses! Made me cry again. That is sooo sweet!
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by darenluan 10 May 2012
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You made a beautiful dress! A mega hug for you and sometimes we do not want to cry, but sometimes is necessary to be happy. (((((())))))
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by capoodle 10 May 2012
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It's so difficult when they get their driver's license and when they go off to college or get married. I never say good-bye as that seems so final. The dress is gorgeous that you made for her. Just keep a box of tissues close by for the next few year
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by capoodle 10 May 2012
I didn't scroll far enough you are altering it for her. She is going to look lovely in it.