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by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012 ( edited Jul 04'12 17:21 )
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What is with all this back and forth banter between members? If you have PM's going on between each of you, then when the other person comes back to the site, they should be able to remember they were carrying on a conversation with you and check their PM's. Why clog up the community with all this unnecessary posting? If you have something you don't want the rest of us to know about why do you broadcast that you are talking to each other about something you don't want us to know about?

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by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
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I do agree - if there are PM's going on between 1-2 people - that should be private and should be posted in the COMMUNITY section. Thanks you Sara perhaps this will free up some of the congestion on the site. Just wished we could get more to stop posting some of the jokes and unneeded questions that they really don't care what the answers were to them, too.
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by shirley124 20 Jun 2012
Hear! Hear!
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
Should NOT be posted in the COMMUNITY section - I meant.
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
Thanks Shirley.
by 1sewnsew 20 Jun 2012
there are way too many jokes and posted questions that really don't mean anything and you can't find the questions about embroidery any more.
by olly 20 Jun 2012
I could not agree more.
by bevintex 20 Jun 2012
Sorry but I don't agree and i know I'm not the only one.
Bev
by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
I love the jokes, the birthday wishes, and the questions. If it would be better for others if they appeared in the personal tab -- then why not ask the people (in a PM) to change tabs?
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
They were asked to put them in the personal tabs more than a few times.
by edithfarminer 20 Jun 2012
I have to agree with shirlene. Sorry but I have missed really good embroidery qustions because by the time I get up (different part of the world) lots of needles things have been posted, nothing to do with embroidery or sewing) Can we not have those in Private and those that enjoy the jokes etc etc can read them there.
by edithfarminer 20 Jun 2012
Can we not have those in Private messages please.
by marjialexa 20 Jun 2012
Agree, that's why "Personal" tab was created in the first place.
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by moyed 20 Jun 2012
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I agree with Shirlene on this one too. There is a lot of posts that seem to just want the flowers to boost the numbers.
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by oaro 20 Jun 2012
i do agree
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
I do agree with you Helen.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
thanks to all 3 of you.
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by 1sewnsew 20 Jun 2012
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Thank you Sarahrose, I agree with you. There are way too much banter back and forth clogging up the Q&A section. And too many jokes and Q's being asked and then not even saying why they want to know or that it would matter to them 1 way or the other what their A's were. Good for you.
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by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
And I agree with you as well 1sewnsew. It is so sad to see this going on - when the site ran so smooth before this sort of hap-hazard posting started.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
thank you both.
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by cfidl 20 Jun 2012
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I think 1 sewnsew has hit the nail on the head. Cute is not one person's private blog. Helen is most observant also. There also seems to be an assumption that the more flowers you have, the longer you have been a member. We have many more silent members who have relationships here also. Let us be respectful of each other. Thank you Sara and Shirlene for expressing so many Cute's wishes.
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by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
I know of many - that stay away or don't post any more as they feel it is just getting worse and worse - they say why bother it will never bee seen anyway.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
thank you both.
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by caroldann 20 Jun 2012
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Wow, I agree with all of you. So many times someone has posted a question on embroidery and it gets buried a few pages back because of all the other junk you have to weed thru. I've been coming here for almost 3 years and it seems to be getting worse. Enuf said. Hugs..Carol
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by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
well said Carol.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
thanks to both of you.
by edithfarminer 20 Jun 2012
I agree too
by marjialexa 20 Jun 2012
I agree too
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by crafter2243 20 Jun 2012
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I just posted something telling anyone that wants lian-stitches e-mail to PM me. I just don't ever want to post anyones e-mail on an open forum. I have never understood why a sent PM has to announced on Community unless the person does not respond. Usually a new Cutie. After a while new Cuties think this has to be the way it is done. Truthfully I have found the site to be less and less enjoyable specially since so many of the old features are no longer working. Trying to find if one needs more info after replying is a big huge pain. I don't want to spend all these hours wading through pages and pages to get to what I am looking for.
All this being said I am still coming here because too many dear friends meet here and I would miss them.
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by crafter2243 20 Jun 2012
I want my edit button back. Too many errors, but I think you know what I am trying to say.
by moyed 20 Jun 2012
I want my edit button back TOOOOO.
by hightechgrammy 20 Jun 2012
I really liked the edit button. And I miss the My Questions and My Answers, so i could go back to check them. I think we need another tab, maybe. Other Stuff maybe. I just skip over jokes when I don't feel like reading them. That way I can stay grumpy. :-)
by crafter2243 20 Jun 2012
You make me laugh. It was so easy before to get back to ones answers and questions. It's all your fault that I feel this way. I rather quilt than trying to find what I am looking for. I stay grumpy all the time. ;)
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
thank you all.
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by bevintex 20 Jun 2012
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I guess I don't get it. Do you want the jokes or not? Do you want the daily questions? It seems like this post is aimed at a certain few. Can't you just skip what you don't want to read. It doesn't bother me.if it's not to my liking i can just scroll on down past it. Let's all be just a little nicer.
Bev
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by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
A bit nicer would be so much better! I would hate to see Cuties afraid to ask questions or post things. I love the jokes...then I can stop being so grumpy.
by juanitadenney 22 Jun 2012
I agree with you I am afraid to post as I might get a lot of feed back started. I love the jokes and pass by all the stuff that I am not interested in. Why can't others?
by lflanders 04 Jul 2012
Beverly, I think you are on the right track. Us "oldtimers" are friends a great number of the members even if we have never met in person. We are used to the old ways B-U-T some of the not so older members have pussed the limits some but for the most part, I have no problem just skipping the post that I am not interested in. If we continue to knit-pick everything, we will eventually lose alot of members. All people have different interest and not all of their interest lies in just embroidery.
by lflanders 04 Jul 2012
part we all have different interesting things to share. Sorry about the spelling. That should have read pushed the limits. OOPS... Hugs, Linda
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by lyns 20 Jun 2012
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Why clog up the community with all this unnecessary complaining?
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by lyns 20 Jun 2012
I'm sorry - That sounds very bitchy & I didn't mean it to be. Lyn. xx
by lindalee757 20 Jun 2012
LOL
by moyed 20 Jun 2012
XX:)
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by greysewist 20 Jun 2012
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You know it may sound a bit silly, but it'd be good to have a 'sewing' tab! That way, those who are only interested in sewing related Qs & As could just read that one -and their own PMs, hopefully :) The 'general' tab does seem broad enough to cover everything by its name.
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by greysewist 20 Jun 2012
Oops, I meant 'Public' seems general, of course.
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
From myunderstnading - the extra tabs were placed on this site to allow the public or community tab to be for only the embroidery, sewing, and crafts to be the topic. All other things to be in the tabs that came later. It was a general understanding at the time they were made that is how the community wanted it. It has only been those that have come here after the tabs were generated that have change what they thing the tabs mean.
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
It has only been those that have come here after the tabs were generated that have change what they think the tabs mean. Not what they are made for. So when one of us that was hear during that time makes a statement about it - it is because we know what it took to get those tab and what we had decided that we wanted to be discussed in them, as well.
by shirlener88 20 Jun 2012
the tabs were generated for and what we wanted to be discussed in them.
by greysewist 20 Jun 2012
I suspect half of the problem is that those who post in Public want to be read and they think (quite rightly probably), that many won't read things in the other tabs.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
I agree with Shirlene, when I came to cuteembroidery.com and come to the community I expect to be able to see thing that coincide with the name of the site. I don't want to go look for tabs to get me to another place. If the tabs were made to get that sort of posting out of community then why don't the ones doing the offending use them and no one will be offended by their postings.
by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
that sort of posting out of community then why don't the ones doing the offending use them and no one will be offended by their postings.
by greysewist 20 Jun 2012
On the subject of tabs too, it'd be nice if there were a tab for exchanges or swaps as it'd be easier to look for updates, pics etc on those and it'd keep a lot of that 'fluff' out of here as well.
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by kitty2011 20 Jun 2012
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There is a simple solution... since this site doesn't come with a set of rules !

It can be frustrating to find a particular topic you were following when there is so much other traffic, I know.

However, if the general consensis is that the 'Public' tab should only be for embroidery questions & answers,
then why not call it that., re-name the tab so that all understand, new & old.

JMO, but I think it would work.

So sad seeing so much angst amongst the cuties for no good reason.
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by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
The unwritten "rules" on this site can be confusing since there seems to be quite a conflict about them.I thought "Personal" was for news of babies, aging, and request for emotional support.
by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
I thought the "Public" tab was for anything one would share with Google search engines.
Sometimes this Cute family bickers a lot. It is sad and it seems such a waste of energy better spent stitching.
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by cfidl 20 Jun 2012
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ttt
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by sewdoctor 20 Jun 2012
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It is called being friendly...Scroll on past them.
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by terriweistra 20 Jun 2012
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Once again there is criticism & anguish over posts. How sad!!! This is/was a friendly, happy site and it would be great if it could carry on that way. I am sure that I am not the only one that is very wary of posting in case I put it in the incorrect place. Scroll past what doesn't interest you and let others enjoy what interests them :)
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by cfidl 20 Jun 2012
I wish I could. I am sure she was different before the surgery.
by bevintex 20 Jun 2012
What are you saying? Explain please
by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
cfidl THAT is just cruel!!!

Karma....sometimes it is sweet and at times it is bitter. It eventually catches us all.
by cfidl 20 Jun 2012
She has lost her filter and I wish she would not listen to people who do not have her or this sites best interest's at heart.
by lindalee757 20 Jun 2012
wow-see there-you probably meant that is some kind of nice way but because it's internet & alot gets lost in the "translation"that sounded really sarcastic-or maybe it was meant to come across that way...I dunno ??
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by mjdg 20 Jun 2012
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I use this site for information mostly - not for a social site. I do try to answer questions when I can.
My take on the whole problem is.... if you are not interested in a subject ... don't read it or answer it.
It really doesn't take long to scroll down... however it is hard if you have asked a question and are looking for your post for the answer.
I have no idea how this can be fixed....but that would be nice to be able to find it easily.
MJDG
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by rescuer 20 Jun 2012
I use the check mark between the posters name and Avitar/picture. Then I can scroll quickly and when comes to the top I can re-check it and give out flowers.
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by pennyhal 20 Jun 2012
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I'm pretty new to this Board. I just skip whatever I don't want to read.
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by debswebster 20 Jun 2012
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Wow, this sounds really harsh. As I normally only log into the Community section, I enjoy all the diversity in the postings. The questions referring to embroidery and/or sewing, are few and far between generally. The heading "Community" doesn't really suggest to me that it is purely embroidery related topics only.
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by meganne 22 Jun 2012
HEAR! HEAR! Thank you.
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by bikermomfl 20 Jun 2012
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If you don't like what is being said don't read it. I personally love all the little tidbits of info and if I'm not interested I just pass em by. Do you have a problem with what others are saying? Seems a little controlling if you ask me.
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by lflanders 04 Jul 2012
Karen, You are so right. Just a bit of fine-tuning things might be helpful but I do like to read and feel like we are friends and not just names typed in to get an account at Cute.
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by sarahrose 20 Jun 2012
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If this subject is the reason that Shirlene is leaving the cute site, then I am sorry I posted it. However, I felt that there was too much banter going on that didn't allow the community to view embroidery questions and answers.

It now seems that you all want me to leave because of it, too.
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by 1sewnsew 20 Jun 2012
I though you brought up a good topic that needed to be discussed.
by marjialexa 20 Jun 2012
Second that. And no, this post was not a problem for Shirlene, see her comment below. Just nobody can find embroidery & sewing stuff any more for all the pages & pages of other stuff. So we give up.
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by susiesembroidery 20 Jun 2012
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Shall we not all now JUST KISS AND MAKE-UP and be friends and cutie family again? Forget all the negativity and just enjoy our cutie site - where we all meet and share. Lovies.****
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by jerrib 20 Jun 2012
I second the motion. Such drama. If you don't like something that someone has posted, don't read it, plain and simple and go on to a posting that interests you. Everyone has posted things that are not embroidery,craft related. Enjoy the posts you like and ignore the ones you don't
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by meganne 22 Jun 2012
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Posts questioning the validity of other posts are also clogging up the works and in future could be removed.

But in case you are referring to MY recent message to Judy, regarding sending her an EMAIL, it was because it was the first email I had ever sent her and it could get lost in her Spam folder, or even be deleted by over protective anti-virus programs.

When you 'know' your designs have been sent to you via email, you can at least notify the digitiser if the email doesn't arrive. Otherwise you may sit and wait and think the digitiser hasn't bothered doing your little design.

Now you are as well informed on the matter as other, not so new, members.

This section is called Community, for a valid reason, it is not called Embroidery Forum, it is the informal banter between members that makes Cute so welcoming and friendly.
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by sewfrenzie 22 Jun 2012
HERE HERE!
by nannynorfolk 22 Jun 2012
HERE HERE
by lflanders 04 Jul 2012
YES! YES! This arguing over petty things is worse than clogging up the site with personal issues and questions.
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by sewfrenzie 22 Jun 2012
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Now can we just let this die a peaceful death please?!?! There are NO written rules, its ups to each persons interpretation. So just let it be!
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by anabela 22 Jun 2012
Amen
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by bonnetgirl 22 Jun 2012
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I am sorry if I offend anyone since it is not my intention. But Most of the sewing info does get mashed sowmwhere in between jokes, what is my favoriet thread of the day, who took a trip to Florida..these are not for sewing info...and if they make your day then read them in personal. I am a person that loves to sew and learn what others do about sewing and embordiery not jokes. I agree I don't read them. That is not the point. The point is I want to learn about sewing.
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by bonnetgirl 22 Jun 2012
We do have a personal button that could be and needs to be used. I want sewing put back into this section. Please don't be affended I love you all and you all make my day when you are teaching a new way of embroidering.
Hugs Joann
by sewfrenzie 22 Jun 2012
So do I want to learn about sewing etc. There are no written rules, its up to each persons interpretation as to what each tab means. If you pull out your dictionary, Community does not say sewing quiestions only. It is up to each of us to decide what we want to share with everyone, what we want to share in Personal, and what we want to share privately between two people. Why is that so hard to understand???? You don't have to read each post, just go to the next page like everyone else has to.
by sewfrenzie 22 Jun 2012
want to share with everyone, what we want to share in Personal, and what we want to share privately between two people. Why is that so hard to understand???? You don't have to read each post, just go to the next page like everyone else has to. Just because something has happened in my personal life doesn't mean I don't want to share it with the community. Get over it and move on.
by sewfrenzie 22 Jun 2012
se something happened in my personal life doesn't mean I don't want to share it with the community. Get over it and move on!
by meganne 22 Jun 2012
THANK YOU Sewfrenzie.
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by sarahrose 04 Jul 2012
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this is still going on, why?
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by bevintex 04 Jul 2012
Some may do it out of habit. I don't know why they don't see they have a pm unless there is a notice in community.
by caroldann 04 Jul 2012
Very simple. There are no rules, therefore cuties will do what they want and post where they want. Until there are some rules and guide lines as to where things are supposed to go, you'll just have to deal with it. Hugs..Carol
by caroldann 04 Jul 2012
My favorite is posting so-and-so has a pm and she hasn't been here for 3-6 months. Like she is really going to see it.
by bevintex 04 Jul 2012
If it that important exchange email addresses. Chat away.
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by sewist1 04 Jul 2012
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I thought it was a forum for sewers/embroiderers to exchange ideas, showcase their projects and request help not a social network. There are plenty of other forums for that. I agree with Carolann and Shirlene - the embroidery, sewing and craft questions and answers get lost in amongst the off topic posts.
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by bevgrift 04 Jul 2012
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PMs can also be a type of secret harassment.