I understand your frustrations with him, Debra! I try constantly to help keep my hubby's sugar level under control. He has high blood pressure, high cholesterol, as well as, acute glaucoma. His vision is only holding on by a thread, says the doctor. He definitely does not need to be diagnosed diabetic, too. One health issue, affects another; a vicious circle! All you can do is take care of yourself, and encourage him to do better!
Hugs, Angel

Will try. Jan

I do understand you so well! My husband had high blood pressure, i told him several times he needed to take his medications everyday, he did not only took them when his pressure was high, he died of a blood clot, i wonder if this had to do with not taking his medications the right way.

whenever you feel like it: vent ! we are here for you. Hope he learned from this. Hugs !

You can only do so much. He is grown up and is making his choices. Right now you have to take care of yourself. Come here and vent anytime.
Hugs Angie

Punch him in the arm for me. Happy that everything is okay. Sending out hug to both. DeVon

Remember how the Three Stooges used to SMACK each other in the back of the head. Do that to him....tell him I sent it and he better quit worrying you. Don't make me come up there! ;)

could it be he is so concerned about you he is not thinking of himself?

My DH had an 80 mile plus ambulance ride to a hospital for heart surgery. He had the high blood pressure and higher cholesterol. I made the effort to get rid of all the bad food choices at the home and make healthy dinners. Cholesterol came down then went up. He was also eating stuff out that wasn't good choices. I told him it's not on me because I'm not the one putting the bad stuff in his mouth. After a few bad cholesterol readings he is now being careful what he eats but I still knows he gets chips out. He felt that if he was on the cholesterol medication that he could eat what ever he wanted. Not the case. It is hard to break years of bad eating habits.

Hello Debra, Glad to see your post here, but unhappy to know your were so burdened with an ER visit. I continue to ask God to heal and keep you!! and... I will keep your hubby in my prayers too! HUGS and God Bless!

I agree about the salt too.
My family all know me, I cooked with no salt when the kids arrived.
DH started blood pressure medication,he eats diff and always added things like pickles and curried chillies to his food. So brave me, chucked them out, did he make a fuss!! He also cheats and eats the DZ liquorice.
But I think the manufacturers of food are not fair.
We had our money refunded for our Christmas turkey last year. The stupid turkey was impossible to eat so we took it back the day after Christmas, others might have done the same cos the shop owner was not surprised. We joke about having a free christmas lunch again for this year. Eat some and take it back.Ha Ha.
I always dream of having my own chain store with organic foods and non salted Items. Plain Bread and spread already exceed my salt limit. Eating out is also not fun.
Hugs to you for your brave effots on your DH.
Bev

I have really changed my family's diet I cook with no salt and we are all on a no beef diet. I put Mrs Dashes in every thing I cook you can find a lot of different seasonings by Mrs Dash and our favorite is the lemon pepper and chicken flavor has absolutely no salt. My family feels better since starting this diet and I haven't had very many complaints we eat lots and lots of vegetables and fruits Hope you can get him turned around there is good food without eating at the fast food restaurants.

Thank goodness he is all right Debra. I do not think there is much you can do. He is a grown man and he knows that he is not doing himself any favours with the junk he is eating. You just look after yourself. Hugs Sarah.

Debra, I'm so sorry to hear this! I watched my aunt & uncle kill themselves with food, and make every excuse in the book for why it wasn't a problem. They were diabetic, and if they wanted a second hunk of cake, they just popped another diabenase. I just don't understand how food can be such a ruling passion over feeling good. My dad was also a diabetic, inherited from his mother, who was a brittle diabetic & died rather young, in her 50's. But in the 1920's they didn't have quite the information we have now. But my dad, when he got diabetes, kept it under control with diet for many many years, and not until he was in his late 60's or early 70's even gotten onto oral medication. He "just said no!" to stuff he couldn't have. Or, he would have a little taste, a baby ice cream cone, the tiny bag of chips, etc. He was so good most of the time that he could cheat a little bit once in a while. But he was a very disciplined man, and wanted to be well, not sick. He had things to do, places to go, & was willing to sacrifice cake to do that. Interesting, the choices people make in their lives. You can't change him, he has to WANT to be well, not sick. I hope maybe this little trip will shake him up. And please take care of yourself, too, dear friend. Hugs, Marji

Guess there is no happy medium anymore. Now my hubby had his Sodium bottom out. Put him in the hosp. with irreg. Heart beat, spastic muscles, incontinence etc. He wound up with pneumonia also. He does nothing for himself, I prepare all he eats, dole out his pills when he is suppose to have them. He cannot drive anymore, uses a rolling walker in the house and a mobility scooter when we go somewhere. don't know what advice to give you exept, love and accept him/Lillian

Men!!!
why can't we get through to them that if they take care of themselves they will live longer? I am always saying a prayer that you are doing alright so guess we will have to start praying that your husband realizes he needs to change his bad habits.

Debra, I am so sorry to hear this - but there isn't much you can do - except tell him you love him and wouldn't want to bury him anytime soon. I think of how Rick's stroke happened - he was stressed out that week - his blood pressure went through the roof - I guess - that is what caused the stroke - he now has diabetes and high cholesterol - the meds he takes are unreal - without one or the other - I don't know how he gets by - I do know - he isn't eating wrong and he takes his meds on time and correctly. Men just don't get it when it comes to what they need to do to take care of themselves - but then I can't talk - I have health issues, too.

I can see you do have a sense of humor about this - in spite of all that is going on. That is a good thing and so happy to know you got out and did something for you, too.

Loads of HUGS, dear one.

Oh Debra so sorry that John has health problems.
He's like m sisters hubby: He has something with the bowel and should not eat to fat too but he knows every Döner booth in their area!
Hope he is feeling better so you can do your trip to the beach :o)
Hugs for you my dear
Bettina
PS: Is your pain away now with the new meds?

Debra
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. May the Lord of all open his eyes to the heart ache he is putting you thouht. God bless you too. Amen.

Wouldn't you think that a scare like this would make him change his ways? I know you are trying Debra to help him, but he has to take the first steps to self-control. It's hard, I know, but with help from all of the family he can do it. Glad to see you still have your sense of humour and I pray for you daily. Love Chris

I am so sorry to hear this.
It does not talk this way. We love you and we want you of our side, dear! God is merciful! God protect you !ALWAYS".
We love you, Debra! A kiss in your heart.