I just need to let of steam so not sewing related

Last Thursday the district nurse called to do a routine catheter change for hubby, this was a new nurse we had not met before, she removed the old catheter and inserted the new one, Hubby had a couching spell and expelled part of the length. I told the nurse several times that the catheter was not in correctly and was out too far.
She insisted each time that it was in correctly but then pure blood started to come down the tube. again i told her that it was not properly place but again she insisted it was and continued to expand the small balloon that should hold it in place.
More blood now showed but again she insisted she was right. she stayed for about ten minutes to make sure it stopped which it did. She left saying she would call later to make sure everything was ok.
Two hours later I called the district nurse number to say hubby was in a lot of pain and a lot of blood was in the bag. A new nurse came out and removed the catheter and huge clots of blood poured out of hubbys penis.
Paramedics were called and he was rushed to hospital with a ruptured prostate. After being in hospital for three hours is was decided to take hubby to another specialist hospital 40 miles away but there was a long wait for an ambulance so i decided to take him myself ( i am paramedic trained )
Doc at new hospital managed to stop the bleeding by inserting a special catheter and hubby was taken to ward to be kept an eye on. i went home and to bed at two in the morning
Friday morning i was up and on my way to new hospital arriving at aprox 9.00 am to see hubby in distress with high temp and rapid breathing an a rash on his tummy
I checked him and spotted that they had inserted a latex catheter since my departure the night before. I called nurse and told her to get this removed as hubby had gone into shock with latex allergy. This was done but as the doc in charge could never have done a routine catheter change, he inserted the new one wrong and i told him so and once more the prostate was ruptured and bleeding started again. A specialist urologist doctor was passing and came to the rescue and once more the panic averted. All remained calm and hubby recovered ok so by 7.00pm it was decided he could actually go home.
Saturday morning. I awoke early and went into hubby who sleeps in a special chair in the main room to find him hyper venting and unable to speak or control his hands and unable to even stand. I called paramedics in again.
I had seen this before in training so when the paramedic arrived i instructed NO OXYGEN Hubby is COPD and retains carbon dioxide and with hyper venting he had a build up back once more to hospital.
With each new nurse and doctor i instructed NO OXYGEN TO BE USED IT WILL KILL HIM.
I staid with him till 7.00 pm and came home to eat and feed the dogs and go to bed..
SUNDAY morning i awoke late at 8=30 and went for a shower and heard the phone ringing . It was the hospitial to say hubby had taken a turn for the worse and could i come over right away. outside was thick fog and i had 30 miles to drive by the time i got to hospital i was in total panic. Hubby was attached to a special oxygen mask that removes the carbon dioxide from the body. Some time during the night a nurse had decided that hubbys oxygen level was too low ( normal for hubby is between 60-70% oxygen level) and so had put him onto 100% oxygen despite hubby telling them not to and that he did not want oxygen.
I gave the machine chance to work then suggested they remove it to let hubby back onto room oxygen level only. The insisted they new best. It was not until 4.00 pm that the mask was removed so i could give hubby a drink and wipe his face. It was at this point I decided to act up and refused them permission to replace the mask or to give hubby any oxygen at all and as his carer i could actually do this I signed to say i would tack full responcibility for
the results . Just 20 minutes later the nurse returned to a great shock .. My husband was now responcive and talking without slurring his speech.
I HAD WON ..... no more oxygen was given ans he continued to improve overnight so on Monday evening i returned home with hubby
the only lasting result of all this trauma is i now look like something from The Vampires diary with my left eye all blood red from a burst bloodvessel
Hubby is fine but a bit more frail but at 86 his is doing ok as long as i cane look after him
sorry its a long rant but i just needed to put it all down and let it out. Thank you for letting me do that here