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Today is my husbands birthday. On our birthdays we don't buy presents but we do go out for the day usually to the next biggest town. We have lunch and I visit my material stores and we always have a fun day. Yesterday we lost his ex wife to cancer and he is insisting that we still go out. I feel like a piece of chewed string as neither of us got much sleep last night. We will go and it will probably do us good - but I still feel guilty.
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I am sorry you are feeling guilty. Survivors guilt? I am sure you will honor her the rest of your life in the way you talk about her to your son, and other loving motherly ways.
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Thank you Christine. She was a wonderful mother. Survivors guilt - yes........
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Happy birthday to you
happy birthday to you
happy birthday dear Klaus
happy birthday to you.
Sarah I'm so sorry to read that Klaus's ex-wife has died but I'm so glad that you still got to go out and celebrate though. You have memories to recall I'm sure. Love Chris
happy birthday to you
happy birthday dear Klaus
happy birthday to you.
Sarah I'm so sorry to read that Klaus's ex-wife has died but I'm so glad that you still got to go out and celebrate though. You have memories to recall I'm sure. Love Chris
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Thank you Chris and Klaus thanks you for the wishes.
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fannyfurkin
06 Feb 2014
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Have a great time and tell him happy Birthday, little point in feeling guilty.
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Yes, I know, just hate to see him sad
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Sorry to hear the sadness that has occurred to your husband, it will be good for both of you to go out as normal, it will be the beginning of your healing, cuddles and hugs Heather.
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Thank you Heather
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Please enjoy your day. You need not have any guilt. I am very sure that his ex wife would not want you grieving but celebrating her life. Use this opportunity to make something to donate to a charity in her name. I know she would like that.
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We went off looking for roses as I wanted to plant one in the garden for Klaus to remember her. Unfortunately not the season here for roses. Thank you Karen for your words
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Getting out will be good to try to lift your spirits up, losing a loved one is hard, but we don't want them to suffer. Peace at last is a beautiful thing.
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Thank you
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asterixsew
06 Feb 2014
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Go out and have a meal well you probably already have seeing when you posted this. It is his birthday and stop feeling guilty
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Thank you Caroline
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Sarah I hope you can enjoy your day out. Your husband is right: You both should try to take your mind from this tragedy and loss for a few hours. You cannot change it now and you will need enough time to cope with it in the future. Every distraction for a little while will do you good :o)
Hugs to you, Bettina
Hugs to you, Bettina
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Thank you Bettina. It was a beautiful day just very hot.
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Go out and Honor Her Life and enjoy your time together.
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Thank you Anita
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I'm the ex-wife, and I will let you know that my exhusband has a friend and I would not give up a fun day out over her. Just letting you know. Thought you could use a laugh today. Have fun, life's to short!
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i agree100%
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Have fun and spend lots of money and buy more fabric as your stash is getting low right??hugs Carolyn
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No fabric but a lovely day.
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Late to the table............................again! Sorry for that.
Anyway, just a brief note hoping that you have both enjoyed a wonderful day/evening out together. Hope that your lunch was superb and that dear hubby managed to control your spending habits in those material stores.
Anyway, just a brief note hoping that you have both enjoyed a wonderful day/evening out together. Hope that your lunch was superb and that dear hubby managed to control your spending habits in those material stores.
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Unfortunately Dennis we did not get to any material shops but we did some other shopping. On the drive home we stopped at a beautiful restaurant in a place called Wilderness - right on the sea. We shared a seafood platter.
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basketkase
07 Feb 2014
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Sarah, I am so sorry to hear of your loss......I hope your have a nice birthday lunch in spite of the sadness.......you are so right, it is just what you both needed! huggers.......
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Thank you Vicki, Klaus is better today - it has been just so quick.
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I ready this now, and I'm happy you had a lovely evening after all. hugs, Gerry
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Thank you Gerry
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Sarah I am so sorry to read all this, I have been out all day today too and only just now logged in.
It is so tough on everyone when there is a death, even of an ex, and you have done good to go out and still enjoy hubby's birthday as life must go on for those left behind. You are both in my prayers.
Hugs n blessings, Meg
PS. I will reply to your email shortly.
It is so tough on everyone when there is a death, even of an ex, and you have done good to go out and still enjoy hubby's birthday as life must go on for those left behind. You are both in my prayers.
Hugs n blessings, Meg
PS. I will reply to your email shortly.
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Thank you Meg. Hope you are feeling a little better.
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Celebrate Life..................
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Thank you
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Sorry I missed this Sarah. Had a day yesterday! He must be so relieved that he has married someone with your heart.
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oh this is such a perfect thing to say! I so agree with you Jerrilyn! hugs to you Sarah
I don't know about that . LOL. He is just a wonderful man.